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Deviousness `anmari has been spreading her infectious positivity throughout our community for over 6 years. Throughout this time Ana has been at the core of all things devious, passionately developing an eclectic gallery, helping organise devmeets, participating in chat events and also recently completed dedicating her time as a Community Volunteer. We are absolutely delighted to bestow the Deviousness Award for May 2013 to `anmari, congratulations! Read More
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Sta.sh
Love isn't about "having".
If i tell someone i love her, it does NOT mean she must drop everything, click "pause" on her life and run into my arm or else we will both suffer eternally like in a bad faux-romance novel.
it kills to hear "I love you" when it'll never be how you want.
You can't have the person as a significant other, not "have" as in "your life revolves around me, I love you, drop everything now".
It's not absurd, most people don't take it the way you're saying.
But tell me this: If you know the one you want isn't gonna be interested in a relationship with you, then what's better - To be loved by that person anyway {whether as "just a friend", or "just a lover", or "friend with benefits", or "soul sibling" or whatever other label the two of you choose to tag it with for convenience}? Or to no longer be in any contact, or at least in any positive contact with that person?
If you feel the latter is preferable, then what you felt couldn't have been love in the first place.
What i'm saying is, "like this" and "like that" aside, Love is Love.
On a separate note, i'm under a strong impression - from the secret's wording and design - that the ST is addicted to pain and suffering, and will use anything s/he can find as a means and an excuse to cause him/herself pain - whether emotional or physical.