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MidnightAqua246 Featured By Owner Sep 8, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I prefer drawing and hanging around with my friends to even think about relationships.
I'm the same - it's fine! There's nothing weird about it. ^^
sweetysweets1 Featured By Owner Jun 29, 2012
Nope. This is perfectly fine. I feel this way all of the time.

I would HATE to date people. I just want to be loved by myself and my friends.

Also, writing is a massive passion. I live by writing.

So, you're not weird. You're just like every other person. :3
captain-vodka Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2009
Even though I usually get talked into dating, I feel the same.
I would rather just had some close friends and focus on me for a bit.
stardragon91 Featured By Owner Nov 2, 2009
I know exactly how you feel. EXACTLY.

And I say if it's working for you what you're doing now, why change it? :3
Naivax-Maundrell Featured By Owner Oct 30, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
It's not particularly strange. (Well among general society's standards, yes.) Relationships are complicated, stressful, and if they go wrong, hurtful.

Writing is amazing. You can do nearly anything with it. Friends *smiles*, friends are forever. Friends won't abandon you. Friends are me anyway.

Personally I believe that I at least sort of understand what you mean. Sometimes relationships are just a mess that isn't really worth bothering with. However, you can rule out the future. Anything is possible. So there may be a possibility of you wanting to be with either sex, relationship wise, sometime in the future. But, there is also the possibility that you won't. I guess what I mean to say is that, just because you feel this way now, doesn't mean that you'll always feel this way. Nothing is permanent.

Sorry I don't mean to seem like I'm saying that you "should be in a relationship".

umm...I'm not even sure how that all came out. So ...take it as you will. I don't mean any offense.
pleggs Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
*sigh, this is like me...
Bright-Circle Featured By Owner Oct 26, 2009  Professional Artisan Crafter
You sound like someone who values the love of friends and family like few others in this world do, so busy deifying romantic love as if every time you have fuzzy feelings it's the deepest thing ever.

You are weird. Better weird. Platonic love is vastly underappreciated.
firedance99 Featured By Owner Oct 26, 2009
Nothing wrong with that at all :)
johohanna Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2009
:w00t: You are free from all that worry so many people have!

And you know, in a way, we shouldn't "want to be in a relationship". We should fall in love with someone...and then want to be with them.
Idene Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2009
No ST, i don't blame you. The saying goes, Different Strokes for Different Folks, and it's entirely true. People prefer different things based on age, personality, etc. When i was going through high school, i had no desire to be in a relationship either. Now, I'm dating my girlfriend, and we've been together for going on 5 months now.

You do what YOU want to do. If relationships don't appeal to you, and others are pressuring you to get into one, then don't. :3 do what you want to do.
cklewark Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2009
I'm younger, but I feel in the way. I'm just not that interested in a realtionship. I feel that it is better to hang out with friends and other than that, do homework, read and write. I love to write because I can imagine love storys that I can control and reading about them keeps the feeling alive.
sellybear97 Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2009
Consider youself lucky to be this way, relationships, and sex arent the things in life that make you happy.If you are happy the way you are without having to worry about true love, romance, and the opposite sex, then just stay that way. Your 18, you dont even need to be in a relationship, i understand everyone just wants to be in a relationship for sex. While, i'll admit, im afraid of being in a relationship. If you wanna be happy Miss independant. Than you rock :D
GreenFaerie13 Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2009  Student Photographer
then don't be in one!
I see no problem in that.
addictedtogerardway Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
fair enough!
UnchainedxMelody Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2009
Me too. It doesn't bother me so much. :)
cleopandasaur Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2009
Relationships shouldn't be a chore, sometimes it can be nice to have somebody who is your partner without strict rules and demands.
My friend is in a similar situation, she gets really worried about it, I told her to get laid or stop complaining.
My point was that life doesn't have to be about love or relationships, happiness and friendship are all you should really need.
Although it's better to have somebody to blow some steam with without it being a dirty one night stand kind of thing.
CeeyoChanElfenLied Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2009  Hobbyist Writer
Not everyone wants to be in a relationship.
I don't really see why some girls NEED to be in a relationship. They don't.
SunGryphon Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
Definitely not weird. Just be true to yourself and don't get into a relationship just because you think it's "expected" or something.
kyia6 Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2009
I'm supporting you on this 100%.

It's not weird, you think it is because most people crave, want, and look for a relationship.

You're just you, and I love you for that.
owlity Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2009
That's not weird at all! I'm asexual myself and it feels amazing. :D
Rai-Starstreak Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
That might be you, it might not be. But don't worry about it. You don't have to desire a relationship if you don't want to. Its perfectly normal, really.
LugiaInTheSky Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2009
It's called being asexual - no attraction towards or desire to be with either gender. It's perfectly normal - there's nothing wrong at all!
ToaVeka Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2009
Hi! I'm the exact same way! ^__^
Its all normal ST, and if you're happy alone, so be it.
AnnaKlava Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
That's perfectly okay! If you're not ready or not interested altogether it is absolutely normal, not weird. Probably not in the ideals of stinking society where they expect you to have a relationship by at least 16. :roll: But anyways, it's really okay I know a few people like this.

You can be asexual that is if you are not interested in relationships and/or sex. You can just be single and free!

When I was 17 I had the same mindset as you, I was all for no relationships for myself and then at the least expected moment I fell for my best guy friend (didn't want that to happen, nope I wanted to stay single happy and free and just draw and be with friends too!) But sometimes love may hit you when you least expect it or want it. I did end up being with my guy friend but that doesn't mean you should have a relationship! Do what makes you feel happy. Always. It should lead you to happiness, because happiness is completely normal.

(oy my comment is tl;dr D: )
Daioh--Sakura Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2009
I'm attracted to women and men, I'm 18, healthy, weird--I have never had the desire to date, get married, have kids, any of it. Ever.

Just wanna live my life for art. Not getting bogged down in trying to make a relationship work. I'm far from selfish, but I just know that a relationship is not for me.

This secret totally coulda been mine, ST. You are FAR from alone. It might seem like everyone out there is crazy in love and chasing after whoever, but the truth is there are plenty of people who "Die Alone" HAPPY.
Spiro-Fly Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2009
I know how that feels.
moonlit-murder713 Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2009
Same here.
I dunno why, but the thought of being in a relationship is so... choking, almost. Boring and choking.
RoyalFanatic Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2009  Hobbyist Writer
ST, if it wasn't for the age (I'm 21), and if it wasn't me posting this comment, I would've thought this secret was mine.

This the story of my love life.

So what if it's weird? What's wrong with being different? As long as you know what makes you happy, all the power to you! To both of us?;)
Casey7890 Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2009
Maybe you're asexual?
aranneaa Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2009
You just want to live your life without depending on anyone :) no rushes, you have way much time in your life to think about relationships =P
IntelligentZombie Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
Nothing wrong with that! There doesn't need to be pressure on you to find someone, buy a nice house with a picket fence, then mate and produce heirs to carry on your heritage. Besides, you're YOUNG. Enjoy the time to yourself while it lasts. :D
xgreenxapplexangelx Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2009  Hobbyist Writer
Haha. There's nothing wrong with that at all. Some people just don't want to pursue relationships and that's totally normal. Psychologically speaking, the term would be asexual: no sexual desire for anyone. Course, it doesn't have to be sexual. No desire for a relationship can also be classified as asexual.

Anyways, there is nothing wrong with not wanting to be in a romantic relationship. Just keep doing want makes you happy <3
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