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:iconxxextreme:
xxExtreme Featured By Owner May 21, 2009
duuuuuude.
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:iconcrawling-meower:
Crawling-meower Featured By Owner May 4, 2009  Student Artisan Crafter
Because our opinions about ourselves are mostly formed from the opinions of others around us. It's only natural.

But you just KNOW that the "ugliest girl in the world" part was from some jealous bitch who can't stand the fact you look GOOD without being super-skinny {she probably tried to look better by losing weight, lost it, and still doesn't look as good as you do}, so you really needn't count that among objective opinions. :=}
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Vibrant-Impulse Featured By Owner May 3, 2009
Agreed.
I think just about every girl (and maybe some guys!) go through this.
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LeonaWindrider Featured By Owner May 2, 2009
I completely get it. Man, this could be mine.
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GirlWithAHat Featured By Owner May 1, 2009  Hobbyist Writer
Each to their own. Some people might think you're beautiful, some might not. Important is what you think.
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lovelylainey Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009   Photographer
I totally feel this.
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theperfectlestat Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
The most gorgeous girl I've ever met thought she was ugly. I'm sure you're a lot prettier than you think you are. Too much pressure is put on how girls look. Is being pretty all it would take to make you happy? Really? It would feel good, sure. But there's a lot more to being happy than your looks. Anyone that tells you hurtful things clearly isn't someone you should listen to. Focus on what really makes you happy, and on the people who care about you.
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Onyx-Jade Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009  Hobbyist Writer
I feel like this secret was written by me...

All I can say is that I hope we will learn to love ourselves sometime... :)
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mossflower16998 Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009  Student Traditional Artist
same.
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FragileReveries Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009  Hobbyist Photographer
Ditto..
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eccofaery Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009
umm.. because youve been getting mixed messages, and now youre passing them onto yourself?

Its difficult, but you gotta learn to remember the good remarks you get given and ignore the bad ones. Laugh at those who tell you youre ugly, cos if someone else is telling you you're gorgeous then they cant both be right; and we all know people only insult others looks because of their own insecurities (or just cos theyre mean)
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Whitefire806 Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009
Maybe there are some features you love about yourself more then other features. But just remember the features you love about yourself. You'll learn to look in the mirror and only see a pretty person.
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wolfie-geek-freak Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009
Because people are paradoxes. I can hate myself one day, and love how I look the next. Just try to always remember how you feel about yourself on the good days. :)
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GingerSpice019 Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009
It's human. I do the same thing.

I think it's because those compliments and rude comments are always in your head when you see yourself.
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o0oTamarao0o Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009
I agree with :iconappearance-sinner: and want to also add that it's because you have a vagina. You're a female. And chances are...no matter what...you'll always have a struggle with the person in the mirror. :hug:
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apperance-sinner Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009
because you are a human (: dont worry
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aka-ash Featured By Owner May 1, 2009
I agree. :)
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Artery-chan Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009
I know how it feels...
But I only thinks i'm not that good... Ppl are telling me I'm pretty. I can't see it.
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:iconk-nelo:
k-nelo Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009
insecure people says unsecure thins... just ignore them...
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AnOdeToMaybe Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009
Personally, I feel gorgeous when my hair is having a good day, and then cringe when I have to look at the all the acne on my face. I see my silhouette on the wall and love my curves, but then see myself naked in the mirror and get the urge to throw paint on all reflective surfaces.

It's all about what you focus, and how you deal with it.

I'm not a makeup girl, but when I'm feeling bad I smear a little concealer on my face and my smile is easier. I wear tops with a low neckline to draw attention away from my stomach and take great care with my hair.
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LynnSnow Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009   Digital Artist
Because you know they're wrong about you and you're trying to fight back. :D :heart:
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WoodstockLover8 Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009
I can relate entirely. For me it depends on the day. I could look completely the same as I did the day before but my self image has changed... Some days I think I'm very pretty, other days, I feel ugly. *shrugs* I think it's a girl thing... but it's only a girl thing because society made it that way...
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Ashlings Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009
I do the same thing.
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Snezhinka Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009
It all depends on you. Remember, the people who notice don't matter and those who matter don't notice...(that's someone's quote) if you really want to lose weight, enlist yourself for a gym or something...IF it makes you feel bad, and if your weight affects your health & social life. If you really feel you'll be happier, if you lose some kilos, then do it (but without fanaticism! beware anorexia, etc...) I personally (from a woman's point of view) like curves, and I wish I had them :) IF your weight doesn't affect you, but it's what people SAY that affects you, ignore them and don't do anything - I don't believe in"accept yourself the way you are"; I believe in "be who you want to be." But remember - curvy = cute! And...uh, I'm sure you're not ugly. :) :hug: best of lucks :D
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Omega23 Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009  Hobbyist Writer
It's normal to have mixed feelings about your body. I myself have them.
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tessiursa Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You're not the only one. I'm the same. :3

Sometimes I feel pretty, then the other day.. something just took my confidence down and I feel like locking myself up in my room because I feel so ugly.

Like said before, no on has the right to tell anyone they are ugly or fat.. please try to ignore it when someone brings you down. You're better than them.
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TheDarkRoom-Photo Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009
first of all, no one has the right to tell you that you're ugly or fat, and don't give them that right.

look in the mirror, on your best day, what do you see? you see someone beautiful right? try to keep that in mind on your bad days...and when someone else tries to bring you down. :)
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JessicaValerie-n-Co Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009  Student General Artist
...because you're human? and female.
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ShadowNeko13 Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2009  Hobbyist Photographer
Some days, I think I look smokin hot.

Others, I hate everything about myself.

*shrug* Frankly, it's hard to not have a love/hate relationship with one's body in today's society, and you're lucky that yours is even a love/hate and not just a hate/hate, like so many people have. :hug: Good luck ST, I hope you are eventually pleased with yourself with a HEALTHY, normal, figure. :)
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awshroom Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2009
Not everyone has the same idea of beauty. Lots of people like Megan Fox, but I don't. I think Marcia Cross is gorgeous but I know plenty of people who disagree.

It doesn't actually matter what I think or what anyone else thinks as long as you feel beautiful. And know that no one's going to be young and pretty forever.
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AnnaKlava Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
ST, I think you're beautiful. Screw those nay sayers calling you 'ugly' or 'fat'. They aren't worth your time. Those people are trying to get a rise out of you because they have NOTHING better to do with their lives.

Also know that beauty is subjective, not everyone will think your beautiful and not everyone will think you are ugly but I do think a lot of people will find you more beautiful than ugly. There is no reason for someone to call you ugly or tubby to your face other than to insult you. Sometimes someone can call you ugly and they don't mean it, they could be jealous of your looks. You don't always know the intentions behind hurtful words.

And if they do mean it? So what! :) The most important thing is that you need to be proud of YOU.

I also have had people tell me I'm ugly and beautiful, that I have a big ugly jewish honker and others who said that my nose looks great. As much as it hurt me that some have said I don't look that pretty, I tuned it out because the people that told me that aren't worth my time. I also realized that beauty is subjective and that not everyone can think I'm a 10.

It's hard to accept but every day I look in the mirror and say in my thoughts "I'm pretty." I think of the nice features about me and it boosts my confidence. I try hard not to pick out the bad features because that will ruin my day. You should try the same, pick out your best features and compliment them. It works for confidence!

You need to love yourself. If you say you're beautiful in the mirror you know that you are really beautiful.

(sorry if too much was said there, I went a little far! :rofl)

Tl;dr: :hug:
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Bright-Circle Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009  Professional Artisan Crafter
'You don't always know the intention behind hurtful words'.

Wise words. Listen to them yourself, and don't tell the ST that anyone who hurts her is 'not worth' stuff, or assume 'they have NOTHING better to do with their lives'.

Because I am sick of being told I'm worthless for having a preference when it comes to physicality.
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AnnaKlava Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
It's more than okay to have a prefference but to call someone ugly to their face is utterly insulting. You have all the free will you want to think someone is ugly.
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Onyx-Jade Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009  Hobbyist Writer
I agree w/ Zimadonna on this one. You can have your opinion on anything/anyone, that's not why you should tell them to everyone! Specially if it is something hurtful.
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AnnaKlava Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
Exactly, we're human some of us have prefferences, it doesn't mean we should tell everyone or say it to the person's face. That's just hurtful.
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Bright-Circle Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009  Professional Artisan Crafter
Of course it is insulting, and no, it's generally not ok.

My point about maligning people's worth still stands.
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AnnaKlava Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
Having a prefference does not make you worthless. Telling someone they are ugly to their face is. If you dissagree with that you can't change my opinion. :)
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Bright-Circle Featured By Owner May 1, 2009  Professional Artisan Crafter
You believe someone doing one rude thing makes them completely without worth. I believe that judging someone's entire worth based on a single comment, a single mistake, is small-minded.

I can live with agreeing to disagree.
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AnnaKlava Featured By Owner May 1, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
Correct. It's my opinion that it's really not worth it to hurt someone's feelings. I don't believe it makes one compeltely worthless, but it does show a lack of respect to the one your being rude to, doesn't it?

If it makes you happy to call people ugly to their face, then by all means go ahead I'm not stopping you. I just think it's wrong is all.

It doesn't make me small minded, it makes me opinionated. :)

Everyone has different opinions, we can't all agree on everything now, can we?
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Bright-Circle Featured By Owner May 1, 2009  Professional Artisan Crafter
Dude, of course it doesn't make me happy to call people ugly to their face. You thought this was me attempting to justify my bad behaviour while trying to act like the discussion was merely hypothetical?
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Carolyns-Mewmix Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
I do the same thing.
x_x
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Liani Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2009
Well, ST. sometimes what others think is important. But that's only if you think what they think IS important. Say from a friend, or family member. Go ahead and block out all the ignorant ppl. Learn to be happy with who you ARE. You are unique, and that's special :)
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dcwalker Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2009
Because society's views of what beauty is is messed up. What matters is that you take care of yourself and are happy. :hug: Don't dwell too much on what others think. It's hard, but personally I feel better when I don't let other people get me down.
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Drenton Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2009
Okay, I'm not saying that the idealistic person isn't an unrealistic person, and I agree with this comment 100%, but I just feel compelled to say that society is made up of people, and the majority opinion is said to be the opinion of society, hence, the unrealistic view of what should be is held by many people.
With me so far?

Beauty is said to be in the eye of the beholder; something completely subjective.

Therefore, what a person thinks is beautiful is different to each person, however, when enough of these people agree, then it becomes the majority idea of what is beautiful, and majority idea becomes society's idea, which means that to the majority of people, if you aren't *insert unrealistic standards here pl0x*, you aren't beautiful.



But ST, I'm plenty sure you're not hideous or ugly, and dcwalker, remember, I agree with you, but I just want to remind people that society isn't just some overlord entity that controls us, it is us.
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Wingstar Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009
Except that's not strictly true. At least not in America. Generally the "popular" view of beauty (and other things as well - music, clothing, etc) is NOT the opinion of the majority, or if it is it's because it's popularized by the relatively small number of people running the major media companies. Advertising is designed to make us feel inadequate, like we are missing something, so we buy more shit and the bosses make money off of it. As a result whatever is popularized by the media becomes the "popular" opinion.


At the same time on the body image issue, ideals often follow prosperity. When food is scarce it is fashionable to be fat, and when food is plentiful, it is fashionable to be thin because usually the people who can achieve these body types are the affluent.

I think stereotypes are grossly made up and are just popularized images. People are different and like you said, beauty is subjective, but the only way to break free from other people's stereoptypes is to be aware of them.
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Drenton Featured By Owner May 1, 2009
You constructed a valid counter-point, well thought out, but it is still the opinion of the masses if they accept the image "the media" puts out for us, at least in my opinion.
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Wingstar Featured By Owner May 1, 2009
well I'm not sure the majority really does accept the image. It's not like we actually hold each other up to the standard of the media. I think it just seems that way because we often hold ourselves up to it.

p.s. thanks for all the favorites!
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Drenton Featured By Owner May 1, 2009
True, true.
Any time, good to see someone who makes valid arguments ;)
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Wingstar Featured By Owner May 1, 2009
haha, i know what you mean.
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dcwalker Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2009
You're right. I know that part from numerous conversations with my friends ("you think HE's cute?" "Well what about such-and-such?!" :P). Also, society has a big impact on things with our self-esteem and self-image, but sometimes we put even bigger emphasis on it. It's a mess :shakefist:
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