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:iconluckygirl555:
luckygirl555 Featured By Owner Jun 1, 2011
I say this....a lot.
Thats to my great aunt who started smoking when she was a kid, before they knew how bad it is.
Oh God. I'm terrified about what might happen to my friends when I reach highschool.
I'm even more terrified about what might happen to me...
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:iconprotodramon:
Protodramon Featured By Owner Dec 13, 2012  Student Digital Artist
I'm in my second year of highschool now. All I have to say is that as long as your morals are in the right, you'll be fine
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:iconrevoltingchaos:
RevoltingChaos Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2012  Hobbyist
Pray, don't go astray. It's so hard to get back, but you can. Keep your friends close and your family closer. Trust them, they will be there for you through it all. God bless.
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:iconsophie-shoots:
Sophie-shoots Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2011  Student General Artist
I guess some people can't afford it.
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:iconlouderthanapplause:
louderthanapplause Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2010  Hobbyist Photographer
I can relate. I'm sorry ST. It gets better. Sometimes ou can only help so much until it's time to help yourself and get out of there.
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:iconsmaginn:
smaginn Featured By Owner Dec 18, 2009
I love the web kind of thing in the words, they look like cuts as well..
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:iconyami-tsuki-chan:
Yami-Tsuki-chan Featured By Owner May 3, 2009
Some people are ashamed to admit they're 'different' from the rest. Though they forget everyone's 'different'. I believe everyone has his or her own 'disorder'.


I'm hungry for mustard. :|
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:iconangrymonkeyshow:
AngryMonkeyShow Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2009  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Because their afriad it won't work out. You have to do something about it because they are not.
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:icontepara:
Tepara Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2009  Hobbyist Photographer
Like it or not, you cant help everyone, and most of all you cant help someone who doesnt want help. To be able to help someone they have to want the help and clearly your friend doesnt want the help.
So all you really can do is be there for them, support them when they need it, and be there to help them when they want it.

Good luck to you and your friend.
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:iconlullednightmare:
lullednightmare Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
I could say I could be on the side of the girl...

but I don't want help because its too painful. I thought I could be strong enough without it. That I could put one foot infront of the other and be able to make my own path. I don't want help because I feel like I'll be abandoned all over again. Alas, I'm being told I need help over and over again. And I've finally sought it. Its not so scary now.

But, you wouldn't care anyways. You already abandoned me when I needed you the most. So don't say crap about how you were always trying to help, because you weren't. You were making it WORSE.
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:iconln-exposed:
LN-EXPOSED Featured By Owner Mar 10, 2013
I know those feels, bro.
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:iconcarolyns-mewmix:
Carolyns-Mewmix Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
I agree wholeheartedly with this.
really.
e____e
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:icongingerspice019:
GingerSpice019 Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
AY-MEN!
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:iconsecret-teller:
Secret-Teller Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
Look guys,

She's told me every bad point in her life. All the things that's happened to her. All the things she's done to herself. All the things that she feels like doing.
And honestly, it scares me too much to deal with it all anymore.
When she's down and is talking about it to me (because I bug her about it) -it just makes me down.
I even asked my own counselor what I should do.
I tried to get her to go to the school counselor. Because it was free and her mum wouldn't find out.


But she backed out and... she's dumped me for a guy. She doesn't look right... I went to visit her to make sure she was okay...

She constantly puts herself down. She wont accept compliments or anything...

All she does now is apologize to me... I'm getting tired of it.



I just don't know what to do anymore.
It sounds bad but: I've given up.

I'm not going to wait for her anymore.
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:iconcrawling-meower:
Crawling-meower Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009  Student Artisan Crafter
As i learned from personal experience, it can be much harder, on a technical level, than you'd think. The world isn't exactly crowding on your threshold, eager to provide you assistance the moment you are ready to accept it.
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:iconvibrant-impulse:
Vibrant-Impulse Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
I have a friend who needs help, and I tell her this all the time. She doesn't listen. I think it's a terrible thing to say, but I think she just likes the attention.
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:iconsmaginn:
smaginn Featured By Owner Dec 18, 2009
Sometimes that is true, sometimes it isn't. But what if turns out that it isn't? How guilty would you feel...?
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:iconsecret-teller:
Secret-Teller Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
That's what everybody is telling me. All my friends...
I don't want to believe it but...

:(
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:iconvibrant-impulse:
Vibrant-Impulse Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
I know, it's hard.
Especially when that problem is changing them into someone else...
I mean, the best you can do is be there for them,
Especially if the crash,
because when people are unstable,
it's bound to happen...
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:iconthetifftiff:
thetifftiff Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
Getting help is not an easy thing to do and even if it's right there in front of you it does nothing until you are ready to be open to it. I know it's sad to watch someone you care about go through shit but until they are truly ready even if they got help it would only be temporary.
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:iconmywatercolorromance:
mywatercolorromance Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
Shame, fear..
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GreenFaerie13 Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009  Student Photographer
maybe they're trying?
I've tried getting help for over a year, and my parents keep "forgetting," or they blow it off.
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:icongingerspice019:
GingerSpice019 Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
That sucks. D:
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:icongreenfaerie13:
GreenFaerie13 Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009  Student Photographer
aw, it's okay after a while. you learn to deal with your "issues" your own way.
it definitely doesn't fix anything, but it makes things manageable >.>
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:icongingerspice019:
GingerSpice019 Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
Yeah; it's best to be able to deal with whatever issues come up without help; then you'll always be ok. ;)
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:iconforestmeetwildfire:
forestmeetwildfire Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009  Hobbyist Writer
it confuses me a lot too, but if i were to put myself in their position - i sure wouldn't want help. i think this person you're talking about either doesn't want to admit their pain, or they don;t want to seem weak, or something like that. just try to be there for them, listen to them if they want/need to talk, make sure they know you care.
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wolfie-geek-freak Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
When people you care about are in pain, but won't try and get out it hurts you too. You want to help, but what can you do? Let them know you care, at least. :hug: Good luck.
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:iconumbrella-xx:
Umbrella-xx Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
Because if my problem goes, who does that make me?
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:iconangel--wolf:
Angel--Wolf Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
Sometimes, we are in denial that we need help. We don't really believe we need help, I mean, I don't need help, it's no big deal. People don't like to believe they need help.
I mean even now.
Oddly.
Maybe YOU need help to get them help.
Now see why people are unwilling to get help?
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:iconsecret-teller:
Secret-Teller Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
Um... I've been to a counselor for a while now.
I asked her about what to do...

But I have tried to hard. I have put myself WAY out of my way to help my friend but...

...all she seems to do is throw it back in my face.
I am sick of it.
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:iconangel--wolf:
Angel--Wolf Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2009
It's tough, especially when they seem so damaged, so hurt inside, and you feel like you're being taken down with her. The problem is if she really won't go, then you can't force her unless someone pulls a Section 3 if she's really dangerous. To herself or others.

I can see why you're sick of it. It's a tough thing to deal with. Stay strong! And remember, you're only doing this because you care about her, it in no way makes you inferior or a bad person.
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:iconcchaoticeclipsee:
CchaoticEclipsee Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
..it hurts, watching people falling away before your eyes, doesnt it?

im sorry, love

<3
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:iconaka-ash:
aka-ash Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
I know it's really scary, but if your problems come to a point where you think the only solution is professional help, I think that's the direction you should walk in. Good luck, ST. Help this person as much as you can, and even if it doesn't work, at least you can say you tried.
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Spleen-27 Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
It's scary. And maybe they don't feel ready..
Sometimes it's hard to see that something is wrong until something bad happens, even if it's obvious to everyone else.
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:iconfunneh:
Funneh Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
Because it scares me.
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:iconchuchkit:
Chuchkit Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
Because I don't feel like I have a problem (in case you wanted that answer).
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:iconazmythera:
Azmythera Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009  Student General Artist
Ask them, ST. Just ask them.
What's ironic is the secret that follows this one.
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:iconsecret-teller:
Secret-Teller Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
I've asked them too many times to count :(
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:iconazmythera:
Azmythera Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2009  Student General Artist
But ask them why! Though, of course, I've been through this...The answer will probably be "because I don't deserve it"...Try telling their parents.
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fudging Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2009
I don't think there's a lot I could say that would help, all I can do is wish you luck :)
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:iconlunalibera:
lunalibera Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
I'm so sorry ST...I'm in the same situation, and I feel you :( they might desperately need help, but needing help and wanting help are two different things. if you had a choice between facing reality and hiding in the dark, you might prefer the latter too, not that it makes things any easier. Believe it or not, darkness is comfort. If you can get the other person to hang on long enough until he/she has enough strength to want to stand, things might really get better. But it's their decision, and no amount of pleading/begging can change the fact that they do not want help. The very most you can do is hang on for him/her, and give them the love they need. Deep inside, though the person may say they don't care, the things you say matter. it's just a question of how much the person needs to break the barrier; once he/she thinks it's safe, they will be the ones to step up. til then, there really isn't much you can do, but try not to pressurize them too much emotionally..that's not pleasant for anyone. Try to logically discuss things with them on an intellectual manner. Set your feelings aside and hear what they have to say, however distressing it may seem. they need to be treated as a human being, they want you to understand and point out the way. if you listen to everything, maybe then they will give you the right to make suggestions :) :hug: please feel free to note me
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x-x-sakura-x-x Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
well there's many reasons, you have shy people who find it hard to talk about general stuff anyway, you have people who are scared to admit they have a problem/issue/addiction, or are scared they might get someone or themselves into trouble, you have people who have been hurt so badly that they forget how to trust and can't open up, or people with the famous armor and masks that have been there for so long, everytime it gets pulled down a little it retracts and tighens itself around the person.
its hard when your faced with denial and protection and secrets, and when things liek that are happening to YOU, they seem to be all powerful. its hard, its really hard. but when they finally say "i need/want help" that is the biggest step. not getting help or asking for it or getting of a course of counselling and feeling superb. admitting you need or want help is one of the hardest things to do. we hate to think ourselves smaller.
so thats why.
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:iconbanished-dreams:
Banished-Dreams Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
Because it's scary as hell to admit your problems, and actually DO something about it.
There's a fear of that "help" backfiring. And it's enough to prevent the help from really working.
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:iconfierypoplartree:
fierypoplartree Featured By Owner Apr 15, 2009
Amen to that.
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:iconobsidiantears83:
obsidiantears83 Featured By Owner Apr 15, 2009
:nod: I have the same problem... to the point that i am considering counselling just so I cope being the support person for my person with issues.. you get to the point where you feel you are drowning, nothing you say appears to be having any possitive effect, and you just feel so helpless...... but you cant let that person down because something dire will happen... :(
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Secret-Teller Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
I was in counseling and what I thought was so strange- is how can my friend not want this?
So i asked my counselor about what I should do...

She still didn't take it. I'll be on my knees, bleeding from my eyes with the step to counseling in my hands... and I fear she still won't take it.


*sigh* I wear my heart on my sleeve too much.
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:iconthetifftiff:
thetifftiff Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009
As someone who's put too much on other people I am so sorry you have to go through that. :cling:
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:iconjshei:
Jshei Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2009  Hobbyist Writer
I hear ya. I am a support person!
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