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:iconlittopampam:
littopampam Featured By Owner Apr 11, 2009
I would ahve done something about it...
Even if I didn't know you..
I'm sorry no one cares enough to tell...or help
maybe they do but don't know the right thing to do..
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Liani Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2009
I hate that when i was cut and bleeding, my mum never noticed i spent hours agonizing in the bathroom.

But when i went to work, every single patron at the restaurant would look at my arms and then look at me with pity. It always hurt that only perfect strangers noticed.
but i always thought my manager(a friend of my mum's) noticed but never said anything

:hug: I care ST!
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:iconlittleartemis:
LittleArtemis Featured By Owner Mar 11, 2009  Student General Artist
I would have noticed and said something. But then again, in grade nine I went through the same thing. Just, I did not show it, and when friends accidentally saw...it's a good thing to know someone cares.
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trippedxkisses Featured By Owner Mar 9, 2009
Sometimes people "don't notice" because they're so worried. Most likely they have noticed, and are worried, but don't have the right way to ask. They could be scared to.
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DusktheDemon Featured By Owner Mar 8, 2009  Hobbyist Writer
I would have noticed. :hug:
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BloodyKisses56 Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009
People don't want to see it, they don't want to admit that there is a problem. Thats what happened with me. But if I had a friend with cuts and scars I would ask about it and try to help them, if only to be someone they could talk to.

:hug:
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:iconwalkon-water-ordrown:
walkon-water-ordrown Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009
im sorry ST i probabbly wouldnt have
but from now on i will.
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GirlWithAHat Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009  Hobbyist Writer
I saw the scars on the arms of my best friend, but I anticipated to find some. My sister, who doesn't even like him, saw them, too, and she was concerned about them anyway.
Some people will notice, and they will care. But we're not all like that, so try not to be disappointed when someone doesn't notice or react to them...
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:iconjaboodi:
jaboodi Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009
The problem is that sometimes if you ask someone about scars they get really defensive. Some people will avoid asking to stop the friend getting embarressed or upset.
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:iconupsilon400:
Upsilon400 Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009  Student Interface Designer
:iconjokerclapplz:
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:iconforestmeetwildfire:
forestmeetwildfire Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009  Hobbyist Writer
i feel the same.
i'm sorry this happens to you too :( :hug:
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:iconsophie-sama:
Sophie-sama Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009
i would notice and immediately give a hug :heart:
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skyrmish Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009
I noticed obviously self-inflicted scars on some friends of mine, I asked them about it but they didn't answer right away so I thought "whatever" and moved on.
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:icondenalim:
denalim Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
i know exactly how you feel.
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alexandravan5 Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009  Student General Artist
I care. I notice scars, I notice everything different about people around me. The tiniest detail that is just slightly out of place, or different.
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lunalibera Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009
I care, ST. I have had friends who self-harm, and I have sat up nights with them, talking to them, messaging them, letting them know i care. Because that's what they needed, they needed someone to care, and i understand that. I understand the feeling where no one notices, no one bothers, no one gives a damn, and things just keep getting worse without anyone to tell you you matter to them. Everyone needs someone who cares. Everyone needs someone to tell them they matter. You're probably feeling ashamed of yourself for doing this, and you'll keep thinking you're doing this for attention. Stop that. you're doing it because this is your way of asking for help. this is your way of begging people to care without being quite so explicit. And that is not a bad thing. that's what we all want. we all want to be loved and cared for. Your doing this does not make you worse than the rest of us. If by admitting this you were trying to punish yourself, i want you to realize there is nothing you have done wrong. If people need scars to realize someone's hurting inside, then that's their fault. it's their problem, not yours. i know it seems so....so pointless for unknown people to say they care about you, because we don't know you at all. but i will say i understand, and i will also let you know that as an outsider, without knowing you or your situation, you donot come across as a bad person...just someone who needs a hand to hold. i know a lot of STs don't choose to do this, but i really would like to get to know you better. that way i could tell you i care and you matter without seeming unhelpfully kind...:heart: please contact me, it would be a pleasure to meet someone like you.
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mystrican Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009  Hobbyist Photographer
I notice people's scars more than they realise but I don't know how to tell how recent some of them are or I don't really know the people enough to be able to offer them any help.
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shayerahol22 Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009
The darker the scars are, the more recent. I don't cut, but I've had multiple surgeries. Fresh scars are usually a pinkish color, with a thin texture running in perpindendicular hashes opposed to the scar. An older one would have faded slightly, becoming more of a skin-toned color, but maintaining the pattern and the smoothness. An old one will have the same pattern but will be close to white.

>>; I get hurt a lot. xD
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:iconmystrican:
mystrican Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009  Hobbyist Photographer
Ah I see, Thanks.
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shayerahol22 Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009
You're very welcome.
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KyraShangea Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Some people are afraid to say something, because they think that it's their fault if they notice it.
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Crawling-meower Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009  Student Artisan Crafter
Wait, so are you saying they didn't even ask? o_0
Wow, you really need new friends. And a shotgun.

But above all else, you need to stop hurting yourself, seeing as those around you are doing such an expert job of it already. I know how you're feeling ST. For what it's worth - i'm routing for you.
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:iconveggierattus:
veggierattus Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
At first I thought you meant the ST needed a shotgun to kill them self o.o
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:iconcrawling-meower:
Crawling-meower Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009  Student Artisan Crafter
Lol, wow, that would require an impressive level of assholism on my part!
It's also quite uncomfortable to accomplish with a shotgun, you know. But yeah, i should have said flamethrower instead. I mean, nobody commits suicide with a flamethrower, right? RIGHT?!
...damn, why do i get the horrible feeling i just gave someone an idea? >_<
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:iconveggierattus:
veggierattus Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
I was just like...wow, THAT was mean :XD:

:rofl: You probably gave a suicidal person with a sense of humor the idea. I've always said that if I can't die in my sleep I want to die in a way that makes people either laugh or stop and say "wtf?"...so if I somehow find out I'm going to die in a boring way other than just in my sleep, I'll do that! :XD:
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:iconcrawling-meower:
Crawling-meower Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009  Student Artisan Crafter
Well, if the suicidal person has not only a sense of humor, but also a complete disregard for the feelings of those left behind, here's a good recipe:

For major "WTF?" impact, buy a fishing line and as many fishing hooks as you can carry, then secure a nice 4th-floor balcony where you can work undisturbed on your unique "Thank you and good bye" greeting card to this cruel world.
Tie one end of the line to the balcony's railing. Now, attach your hooks to the entire length of the line. Use as many hooks as you can, but leave at least 5 centimeters of line between every two hooks.
Now the fun part starts. Carefully, to avoid unnecessary pain, start swallowing the line from it free end. Don't rush it, wait a few extra seconds one hook and the next, so that your system will have time to properly move this train along. Once you've gulped all of it down, leaving less than half a meter between you and the railing, look around one last time with a smile, and jump.
Nothing can quite compare to seeing a body physically turned inside out, dangling from a balcony. Herostratus will shake in his grave with jealousy!
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:iconveggierattus:
veggierattus Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
Wow, you really thought that one out, huh? I think I might go to hell for laughing so hard at that. I'd feel bad for whoever got stuck cleaning that up, though.
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Crawling-meower Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009  Student Artisan Crafter
Hehe, it's old, actually. And, unfortunately, i can't take credit for that. I just retold it from memory. Ok, i can still be credited with the translation, i guess. :=}

Some people believe that, when the world ends, the dead will {physically!} rise to live anew, retaining their bodies the way they were buried. Often, those who believe this even refuse to donate organs, for this exact reason.

Now, if they were right, imagine how someone who killed himself in this way would look upon returning from the dead! :=O
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:iconveggierattus:
veggierattus Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
Ah, oh well. I'll willingly give you credit for the translation.

Oh yeah, I've heard that before...I bet anyone who died brutally would be pissed. What if you were squished? There would be walking pancake people!

I heard a story that a paramedic let someone die because they knew someone who needed a heart (no idea if that was true or if someone made it up), and that kinda spooked me a little about being an organ donor...because that would be just my luck :XD: But I figured I'd take my chances anyway.
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TailoredAngelsHorror Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2009  Student Writer
I had a friend like this. I tried. In the end...it didn't work out. I hope someone tries for you. Including yourself.
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sapphire159 Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2009
Watch out with that. I know a girl who loves to show me hurt cuts. Triggering to me like no other... So watch who you show them to.
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Amarete Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2009
I've had so many friends who cut that I instinctively check exposed arms and legs for scars now. :/

But having them visible and not saying anything is just going to make it more difficult to get help. People will think you are only attention-seeking, or else they will feel to awkward to confront you. So when you need help, just ask someone; if your friends are true, they will be there for you.
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KnockMeOut Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009  Hobbyist Digital Artist
i'm the same, i ALWAYS look at other people's arms or other extremities, it's like a reflex or an instinct now :/



and dear ST, i know both of these sides. the hiding as well as the will to show it, virtually screaming for help. but honestly, better ask someone for help directly, i am sure especially your family loves you and they will listen to you and help you.. stay strong :hug:
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:iconpalecandlelight:
palecandlelight Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009
same here, but it's just that i hope to find something now. so i won't be the only one.
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:iconknockmeout:
KnockMeOut Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009  Hobbyist Digital Artist
this is exactly why. maybe because i feel less.. guilty then. or ashamed.
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:iconpalecandlelight:
palecandlelight Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009
yea, because then it's not just me. less ashamed of myself.
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Echoes-of-the-Dead Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2009
i would have slapped you for being an attention seeking whore.
but thats just me.
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:iconjenni-sunshine:
Jenni-sunshine Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2009
Agreed.
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lost-love-xXx Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2009  Hobbyist Writer
I Had a friend like that - although she'd usually say they weren't self harm. It was only everyone once in a while she would actually admit to it.

Do I do something about my friends hurting themselves?
It depends on who it is. A friend I've never seen doing it I drag away and talk to them in privacy.
Friends who I have known to cut/burn etc and who usually talk I confront.
But most of my self-harming friends never open up when asked and will only talk about it if they come to you, so I leave them be. If they want to talk about it they will. However I do usually end up saying that I've noticed them if we're having a DNM or something.
There's one particular friend I have whom I can only ask those sorts of questions (and actually get an honest answer) if she's drunk.

There's probably more than you think that have noticed them - they just don't feel it their place to point them out.
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papuruikazuchi Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2009
i would have noticed, but not said anything. if it's so obvious you're showing them off, I'd simply think you were doing it for attention instead of any sort of real mental addiction. May want to be a bit careful
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:iconawshroom:
awshroom Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2009
:nod:
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:iconlakoneko:
lakoneko Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
I would notice. I have a friend who has the same thing and ever time he mentions them I give him a bad look. I just hate the thought of people hurting themselves. Even if they joke about it. I agree with Fading-x-Roses, if they love you and care, they'll understand. My boyfriend knows that all too well :blush:
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sheekFHT Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2009
Like has been said ... if they love you, they'll help. But of course, keep it to your inner circle of friends and family, because some people might call that "attention seeking" -- a bitchy thing to say, yes, but that's how some think. <3

Best of luck with coping, ST.
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fierypoplartree Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2009
I care. And if I knew you, ST, I'd try to help. :)

My best friend does this, only I think her reasons are a little bit more selfish. She loves attention etc.

But I still help her.
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Fading-x-Roses Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2009
I used to do this, too.
My stepmom, who I see twice a year, noticed and she told my mom.

They won't think badly of you.
If they love you, they'll help you.
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