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:iconthealmightystjimmy:
thealmightystjimmy Featured By Owner Mar 2, 2009
Happened to me as well.

But i went out with her for 17 days or so. She was my best friend.

I didn't get over her for 2 years
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:iconheartofwings:
heartofwings Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2009
it happened to me.
i fell for this guy- we went out for about two months.
almost a year later, im still thinking about him.
it does get better.
:hug:
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:iconsitara-lukyan:
sitara-lukyan Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2009
I was in a relationship for two years. Its been a year and a half and I still don't think I'm over it. Unfortunately I think thats how break ups are *sighs*
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:iconjessicavalerie-n-co:
JessicaValerie-n-Co Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009  Student General Artist
because the brain and the heart were never that good at communicating properly.
I've had the same thing, I promise you it will get better.
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:icondrenton:
Drenton Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
Four months. She cheated on me for at least a month. Apparently she didn't want to break it off before she absolutely had to because she didn't want to hurt me.


Oh the irony.
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:iconsamothmcknight:
samothmcknight Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009  Professional General Artist
This could be my secret...
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:iconmayahuskee:
mayahuskee Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
Someone told me recently, that for their new years resolution they decided this:

i will love you this year,
and for years to come,
but this year i will stop hurting.


I thought this was the wisest thing anyone has ever said to me. And I took their resolution, and made it mine too. I will always love her, but this year... I will stop hurting.
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:iconivy-art:
ivy-art Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
They are wise and poetic.
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:iconmayahuskee:
mayahuskee Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
Indeed they are.
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:iconmylovestory:
mylovestory Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
Very wise words. :)
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:iconmayahuskee:
mayahuskee Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
I agree.
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:icondanii-01:
danii-01 Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I hope you will be sometime soon :c <33;
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:iconmylovestory:
mylovestory Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
Have you tried to let him go yet?
Have you accepted the fact that he's gone and he isn't coming back?
Have you accepted the fact that he's over with you and he's moved on with his life and that you should too?

Sorry if I sounded harsh, but it's the truth.
If you can let go and be happy with yourself then you're better off.
Why do you want to care about someone who obviously doesn't care about you?
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:iconcatastrophicatalysis:
CatastrophiCatalysis Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
"Why do you want to care about someone who obviously doesn't care about you?"
Ah, that is the eternal question, is it not?

Then again, no one ever said that they [i]want[/i] to care about the people that they do.


And then other times it just doesn't make sense not to. "Sure, this person doesn't love me, but just because they don't care about [i]me[/i] doesn't make this person any less amazing in my eyes. Just because this person doesn't care about me doesn't take from all the care I have."
When you come across the best thing you've ever encountered in your life, how could you [i]not[/i] care?

But, still, the eternal question of "why?" remains...
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:iconmylovestory:
mylovestory Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
I didn't mean care as in "I'll never care about you ever again because you broke my heart". Because I know, that's impossible.

If you've invested your time in someone, you obviously care about them even if they hurt you.

The caring I'm talking about is caring about them like a girl/boyfriend would. And the emotions and feelings that come with that.

My suggestion to the ST would be to stop caring about them as you do now. And start caring about them as a friend. Just as a friend. And even then, that might be hard. Again, my suggestion would be to not talk to them for two months. Don't msn them, email, lurk them on myspace/facebook/DA/anything else you can lurk them on, because in the end you're only hurting yourself and it's not bringing him back. Let yourself heal before you try and be friends with him. (If you even want that).

No, you can't stop caring about them. But again I say; Why should you care about them, if they don't care about you the same way?

Spend your time and energy on someone who will care about you the same way you care about them.

P.s. I'm not trying to be some mighty person saying "Blah, blah, blah, you should listen to me. I'm right." Because, I don't know if I'm right or not. I'm just giving the ST the best advice I can give because I'm where she is right now, and it's what I'm doing to try and stop caring about him as more than a friend.
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:iconcatastrophicatalysis:
CatastrophiCatalysis Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2009
M'kay. ^^
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:icontwilighthinata:
TwilightHinata Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
Story of my life. The two and a half months thing was dead on too. Best of luck to you, secret teller. You are not alone.
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:iconrockerxchic:
rockerXchic Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2009   Photographer
Same. I don't think you ever become "okay", you just learn to kind of accept it and move on. Its always part of you though.
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:icontwilighthinata:
TwilightHinata Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2009
Yeah. It really is.
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:iconsaffiremoon21:
saffiremoon21 Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
I know this except it's 3 months and almost a year for us now...and i wasn't really left for "anyone" in particular but..

best of luck to you ST <3 you're not alone.
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:iconmushishi:
mushishi Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
the only relief from love is another love ^^
take care, ST :hug:
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:iconmarballz:
marballz Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
It took me like 2 years after I was let down by someone I loved, I still find it awkward if I ever bump into her now, I always end up crossing the road ^^;
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:iconspite170:
Spite170 Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
As horrible as it is to admit, some pains of loved ones leaving you can take ages to pass, and apparently some don't pass at all but those are very few.

I am sorry you had to experience such a thing. I hope you are able to overcome it :[
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:icongirlwithahat:
GirlWithAHat Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009  Hobbyist Writer
Sometimes it just takes a while for the pain to subside...
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:iconoathkeeper-auctor:
oathkeeper-auctor Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
know the feeling :ohnoes: only I didn't even date him :ninja:
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:icontoasted-crayons:
Toasted-Crayons Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
Ditto.
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:iconvegsta:
vegsta Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
*hug* it always hurts, and even more so when you're left for someone else. i kno how you feel, and it sucks a lot.
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:iconthetifftiff:
thetifftiff Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
My grieving of my last relationship lasted longer than the relationship itself... though he didn't leave me for anyone else. It can be hard when you're attached to someone.
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:iconcatastrophicatalysis:
CatastrophiCatalysis Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
Indeed.
Me three.
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:iconsamelia:
Samelia Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
Amen. Mine too.

Sometimes I feel as if I'm not over it, or maybe my heart's looking for a reason why. I'm not even sure if I had a "relationship", but still.
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