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:icongallagher1454:
Gallagher1454 Featured By Owner Apr 4, 2009
If it doesn't involve them, it doesn't concern them. Tell only those who you want to tell.
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:iconsilentreflections:
SilentReflections Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009  Student General Artist
I told everyone at school who is known to have a problem with me already FIRST.
Then I told my mum by commenting her on dA and having it in my sig.
Then it was just easy.
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:iconkitamai:
Kitamai Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
It´s nothing they teach you how to do in kindergarden, that´s for sure. A year ago I got a stomach ache at the mere thought of being out in public. Six months ago I came out publically. Things will get better. It gets less scary. Staying in the closet does no one good, least of all you.
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soniaflores1610 Featured By Owner Feb 22, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
mee too lets be friends!
:)
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:iconackeibler:
ackeibler Featured By Owner Feb 19, 2009  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Update your facebook. ;-)
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:iconaerwyna:
Aerwyna Featured By Owner Feb 18, 2009
If you're looking for someone to talk to (or if you're in around Canada, particularly Manitoba) there is a forum and website at The Ball. If you're open-minded, and wanna talk/meet some similar-minded people, here's the place to go. I'm bi too, I met some amazing people here. :D
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:icongirlinlove-93:
girlinlove-93 Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2009   Writer
I know its hard... Pick someone you really trust. Ask them they're views on homosexuality first, then slowly drop it in (if they're for) that you think you could be. Once one person knows it gets easier. Trust me.
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:iconsarahjphotography:
SarahJPhotography Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
Gather the courage and tell them.

It depends on your friends/family and you.

For me, it wasn't as difficult as I thought it would be.

A lot of my friends are bisexual, so I was accepted by them.

My family was surprised, but still supportive.
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:icondarkcreations:
DarkCreations Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
hello! im lesbian! welcome to the world of LGBT.
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:iconjoonjoonjoon:
JoonJoonJoon Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
*shakes hand*

hello, i`m bi too :w00t!:
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:iconmayahuskee:
mayahuskee Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
I've said this before, and I'll say it again: Only "come out" when you are ready. If you think you are bisexual, and dont feel ready to tell anyone, then dont. Only when YOU feel it's right is it the right time.

I'm bisexual, and lots of people know. Telling them, in my opinion, was very in powering! I had control of who I was, and people knew it. I was never outcast for my feelings for both sexes, but many people appreciated me more for being true to who I am.

I have to disagree `GaioumonBatou, but I also agree to a point. Being "straight" in this world is automatically assumed. For me, I like people to know that I'm open to both sexes. I think it's important for people to know not because it makes me different but because they just should... I guess.

Anyways. Lastly, My parents do not know. I'm sure they DEFINITELY assume (in fact my mum thinks I'm a lesbian) but dont know. I do not plan on telling them until I am 18 and they cannot stop me from being me. I've also said this before on secrets: But it can be very dangerous to tell your parents or whoever you live with that you are bisexual, gay, etc... Because lack of understanding is a big issue amoung parents. So wait til you are 18 (if your not), unless you know your parents will understand. But even then, I'd wait.
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:iconyesimafreak:
yesimafreak Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
Get out of that closet....It's already cramped enough.



(Trust me, I know.)
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:icontevekinhell:
Tevekinhell Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009   Digital Artist
However you want to, there's no set procedure. I've had people come out screaming at me, and others mention it in passing. There's no set script because nobody's the same and nobody has exactly the same people around them.

Just try to play through your mind what people would say if you came out to them. What's the best reaction they might have, what's the worst? Try and plan for both.

Plus, what'd it be like if you didn't come out as bi to everyone?
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:iconkenie:
Kenie Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
I've know I've been bi since 8th grade.
When I got into highschool and met knew peaple I wonder how I could tell them, when I could, or should I?
I told my friend and she told me that I don't have to.
It was not my obligation to tell everyone Im bi, just as it's not an obligation for other's to tell peaple there striaght or gay.
If you havent told tol anyone and you really whant to, tell someone you feel comfortable with or someone in a similar boat, they might be able to help you out with telling parents or friends.
Just know it's not your obligation or responsibility to tell peaple, it's your responsibiliy to take care of yourself and make sure your comfortable and happy!
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SasukeDoppelganger Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
i found out i was bi my sophomore year of high school when i fell in love with the girl that sat next to me in my drawing class. it took the rest of the school year to ask her what she thought of bis... and then ask her if she was. i first asked friends what they thought of bi people--if they didn't mind, they were the ones i told. next to noone in my family knows though, only my mom and my cousin. i still haven't told some of my old friends, but i'm sure they've figured it out by now. now whenever i meet new people, such as at work or just everyday life and the people become friends, telling them i'm bi just comes casually.
you just have to find what works for you and soon enough you'll grow enough confidence that you can say it with just a shrug of your shoulders. "yeah, i'm bi. you can forget about me, but i'm still the person that you've known for [insert however long you've know them here]"
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:icondumbledorkus-x:
dumbledorkus-x Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
Well, if you really want to tell someone I'd try "Guys, I might be Bi" with a smiley face.
Brace yourself to answer ALOT of questions.
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:iconlynnsnow:
LynnSnow Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009   Digital Artist
This made me grin.

ST, I :heart: you. You'll figure it out. And when you do, it will be the most glorious feeling in the world.
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:iconlunexor:
lunexor Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
Sexuality is such a complex thing, you could be straight with infatuations with the same gender. Or vice versa, gay with infatuations for opposite gender.

You don't need labels. You like who you like, and whats wrong with that?
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:iconpapuruikazuchi:
papuruikazuchi Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
You don't have to tell anyone.
Quite frankly, I can't stand it when someone goes through pains to bring up the subject. It may be hard for them as well, but jesus. Unless you've got the hots for them, just let them figure it out on their own. You didn't have to blatantly say you're straight when you thought you were, did you? Shouldn't be any different.
If someone mentions your straight, just politely correct them. Go through whatever comes up after, and the end. Now everyone knows and you didn't have to strain yourself to get the word out.
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:iconjjthedemon:
jjthedemon Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
it'll come up one day, in a conversation and it wont be anything you should hide or lie about
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:iconkitti-loki:
kitti-loki Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
Personally, I'm with the "don't ask, don't tell" group. Keeping your "coming outness" to friends and (maybe) family is a good plan. As to the how, though... I hardly thought about that. xD It was one of those things where me and my friends were having a casual conversation and it got casually mentioned without much fuss. Having a lot of guy friends means it was probably a discussion about the relative hotness of various characters from [x] comic. xDD (I don't actually remember "coming out" to friends hahaha. Immediate family, though, that one was a shitstorm. P: )
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:iconpimpinstevie:
PimpinStevie Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
If you feel as if you need to tell someone, do it in a casual manner, like I did.
When I decided to tell my one friend when we were hanging out in study hall in school, she brought up something about how something was 'straight' like a material object, I just forgot what it was. ^^; Then, once she said that, I simply grinned and said, "Well I'm not..." and it gave her the hint that I'm not straight, and I continued from there. She totally respected it, but that's just the type of person she is.
Then again, if you feel like nobody needs to know just yet, keep it to youself and wait for the right time. :)
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:iconmidnight3flame:
Midnight3Flame Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009  Student Photographer
no big deal :). don't tell. just act natural about it. many friends i know do so and nobody bothers too much xD!
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:iconzomg-missy:
zomg-missy Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
The biggest reason I came out to my friends is because they were there for the questioning process, but very few of those people know today that I've come out a step beyond bi. Nowadays I think of those things as sort of a don't ask, don't tell thing. Don't make yourself feel obligated to tell anyone if no one asks you. Though if you want to tell someone, just come out and say it.
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:iconthechavsstolemename:
TheChavsStoleMeName Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
Do what a previous secret teller did:

print out the periodic table of elements, circle "Bismuth" and then put a "I'm" above it. :)
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:iconzomg-missy:
zomg-missy Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
Wow, that's really creative. 8D
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:iconthechavsstolemename:
TheChavsStoleMeName Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
I didn't think of that, I actually copied it to come out... but then I scribbled over it >_>
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:iconaka-ash:
aka-ash Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
It's nothing to be ashamed of.

Once you're sure about it, just be open about it. That's what I did.
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:iconfiskit:
Fiskit Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
You don't have to tell anyone at all.

I just hinted until one of my friends asked my outright.
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:iconfiskit:
Fiskit Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
*me
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:icongaioumonbatou:
GaioumonBatou Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
You don't HAVE to tell anyone, you know. I don't see why people feel the need to come out at all, it just establishes difference and makes it easier to discriminate.

Look at it this way, ST. You wouldn't come out to someone if you were straight, so why come out if you're not?
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:iconfragilereveries:
FragileReveries Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2009  Hobbyist Photographer
Thank you!!! Someone who agrees with me!!!

Though once I did just to see the reaction on their face and laugh, but...... that was just too funny XD (she's really anti..)

It only matters if you're actually gonna ask them out or something.
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:icongaioumonbatou:
GaioumonBatou Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2009
Right! :)
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:iconfragilereveries:
FragileReveries Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2009  Hobbyist Photographer
:D
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:icongokiburogal:
Gokiburogal Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2009
I wanted to write something simmilar but now I see there's no need. ;)
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:icongaioumonbatou:
GaioumonBatou Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2009
:iconbiggrinplz:
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:iconatuin:
Atuin Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
One of my friends who is gay describes needing to come out as like he was hiding some of himself from his friends. It wasn't that he cared that they knew he was gay, it was that he didn't want to feel like he was hiding it.

ST, if you want to tell people, then do so, but don't feel forced to either. It's what you're comfortable. Some people aren't comfortable telling, some people aren't comfortable not-telling, and some people aren't comfortable with either and need to decide what they want to do.
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:icongaioumonbatou:
GaioumonBatou Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
Mmm, that's a fair point. I suppose we handle things differently from person to person. :)
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:iconsmoothope:
SmootHope Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009  Hobbyist Photographer
How.
True.
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:icongaioumonbatou:
GaioumonBatou Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
:)
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:iconinknote:
inknote Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
I read the below comments as well. But actually this does make sense to me. I didn't have to come out, really. It just sort of happened. I was with someone in a LDR, and mom overheard me talking to her. I didn't come out that I was bi, I came out that I was with a girl. xD It kinda went from there.

Senior year of high school. It happened again. I had a crush on a girl and everyone found out. I treated it as a "yeah, and?" sort of thing... so the shock factor was WAY less.
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:icongaioumonbatou:
GaioumonBatou Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
Right, and that to me is the way to do it. Why should it be weird, after all? :)
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:icontruepenny:
truepenny Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009  Hobbyist Writer
I agree. I mean for some people I guess it's important, but I think your sexuality is your own business, and there's no need to share it if you don't want to. I don't think there should be any pressure to keep it a secret, but there also shouldn't be pressure to tell everyone.

Just go with the flow ST. If you start dating a guy, tell people. If you start dating a girl, tell people. But I'd approach it as an "I like this person" sort of thing, rather than a "I like this gender" sort of thing.

But that's just how I see it.
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:iconbitter-omen:
bitter-omen Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
i've always thought that as well O.o i mean, unless i want to have sex with you do i really need to know your sexual orientation?
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:iconyami-san77:
Yami-san77 Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2009
OMG! Ben Lee lyric LOVE ftw!!!!!
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:iconbitter-omen:
bitter-omen Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2009
D:<!! BEN LEE IS AMAZING!
you are my new BFF <3
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:iconyami-san77:
Yami-san77 Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2009
Yes he is! And awesome! We'll go eat Apple Candy together! XD
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:iconbitter-omen:
bitter-omen Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2009
yeyy! *does apple candy dance*
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:iconyami-san77:
Yami-san77 Featured By Owner Feb 18, 2009
XDXDXD
He got married did you know?
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:iconbitter-omen:
bitter-omen Featured By Owner Feb 19, 2009
nawwww really??
thats so cute!
i want to hug him now and ruffle his hair xD
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