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tassel Featured By Owner Jun 1, 2008
Yeah, I was told once that I wasn't "christian" enough for a possible boyfriend- we were rocky for a while but became good friends.

The beliefs can be very important to people- but Atheists and Agnostics can share those same morals and views without having to step into a church. They can learn it themselves, it's not that hard.

I'm very moral, with my Mother's side being Catholic and my Father's Baptist, and I am Agnostic.

I mean, for some people, you have to be just as deeply dedicated to be able to be with someone else.

I have known a man for four years now who was raised Jewish but is still willing to accept me for I am and think about a future together. I know it might be difficult, because I know nothing of the Jewish faith and traditions, but if we want it, we'll work it out.

You'll work it out.
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VThomason Featured By Owner May 29, 2008
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you will find someone who accepts you for you and loves you for you
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AmethystUnderwood Featured By Owner May 29, 2008  Professional Photographer
A person's beliefs are a HUGE deal... its not something to scoff at. That kind of thing is usually very important to people, so they will choose someone who they are compatible with.
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temporaryme Featured By Owner May 29, 2008
Secret Teller here. I am by no means 'scoffing' at his religion or beliefs. I completely understand his reasons. That doesn't make it hurt any less.

Despite whether or not it would've worked out between us, I still love him.
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AmethystUnderwood Featured By Owner May 29, 2008  Professional Photographer
I was speaking generally... Not saying that you yourself were scoffing... you wouldn't... you like this person... but lots of people do.. and shouldn't.
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skittleflink Featured By Owner May 29, 2008
I feel you.. this happened to my close friend. : /
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StranglyConfused Featured By Owner May 29, 2008
A belief system is rather huge.

It makes up one of the largest parts of you.

Love comes after beliefs, I think.
Because, if you have diff beliefs, trust me, YOU WILL CLASH. x.x;
Be happy that you don't have to go through that pain...
It was just my best friend and I, but I still can't believe it hurt that bad. x_x
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Snezhinka Featured By Owner May 29, 2008
i hate discrimination in religion, you know, and i think that religion is really personal and must kept to ones' self but...people tend to choose those who have the same beliefs. Conflict over religion can r-e-a-l-l-y affect a relationship. i mean, imagine, he wants to celebrate Christmas and has to go to church alone :(.

I hate to say this but, for all the seeming hypocrisy, i would date a Christian rather that someone of another religion...

Im sure youll find someone for you :hug: who either doesnt care what you believe in or believes the same as you do :)
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DragonMistress333 Featured By Owner May 28, 2008
As a Christian I can almost see where that person was coming from, because it's natural to date others like you and is you meet an atheist you
're taught to try and change them. It's not the best thing in the world but it happens.
:hugs:
It still doesn't make it right for them to leave solely because of their religion
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lullednightmare Featured By Owner May 28, 2008
...then maybe its better that way, so that you don't have to deal with anymore disapointment from that person, I guess?

Sorry, I'm gonna skip the religious talk here :]

anyway, I really hope your able to find someone else out there, that can make you smile that smile that's been hidden for so long ^-^
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ryu-son Featured By Owner May 28, 2008
Truth be told, it is quite hard to even have an athiest best friend, sometimes. I don't dare push my religion, but I by far don't hide it, either. It's just different. I'm real trusting that everything will work out how it should due to, if needed, divine intervention, and she... She thinks that we're all by ourselves out there.
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thetifftiff Featured By Owner May 28, 2008
That unfortunately can make a big difference depending on both of your beliefs. It works well for me to be the type of agnostic I am while my boyfriend just doesn't care, I can't imagine how our relationship would be if I were the avid Christian I was when I when I was a kid but I don't think it would be as smooth as it is.
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wastelandsofthemind Featured By Owner May 28, 2008  Student Writer
I'm sorry... It happened to me once. Well, I'm a guy, so not the exact same, but similar.

It's never fun.
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FragileReveries Featured By Owner May 28, 2008  Hobbyist Photographer
:hug:
You deserve more than that.
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GekkouNoBelial Featured By Owner May 28, 2008
thats so unfair to you!
i am atheist too and i think its not fair and 'christish' to act in that way..
i feel with you~
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MsCrys Featured By Owner May 28, 2008
I have to disagree with you. It actually states in the bible that a Christian should marry a Christian. Regardless of the faith or lack there of, I personally think it's best for the relationship if both people have the same beliefs. If the relationship is to continue on to the point of having children, it's best to have a mutual understanding with your spouse, than to fight over it, thus creating a troubling environment for the kids. Basically, it makes life and the relationship easier and better. :)

As for the ST, I'm sorry that you're hurting. The one you're meant to be with is out there somewhere. :hug:
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GekkouNoBelial Featured By Owner May 28, 2008
maybe youre right..
but i think that when two people love each other truly and its strong enough, then they don't look at the beliefs..
and btw..
when you meet a guy/or girl, whatever, you dont ask first what religion she/he is..
and when you meet again and again, sumtime the question comes, maybe..
and the it could be 'too late', because you are already in love with him/her
i don't think that then you would say 'no, youre not my religion or dont have my beliefs, i dont want you'

and in my opinion, everyone, no matter what religion or culture he/she is, should be given a chance to show how much worth she/he is at all
within or without the religion thing
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MsCrys Featured By Owner May 28, 2008
Perhaps this person also didn't look at beliefs at first, then realized in the long run it wouldn't work out, or maybe it wasn't working for him in the first place. I think she's better off that he made the decision now instead of carrying on in something he didn't want. She'd only ache more if he stayed longer.

Sometimes we have to follow our heart and it seems his heart told him to choose the other person. Whether or not religion actually played as a factor, who knows. People will always hurt and be hurt. That's just life. We just need to learn how to deal with it when it comes. As long as she knows she's worthy of love, (we all are), that's all that matters.
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GuideShadow Featured By Owner May 28, 2008
Unless your hardcore religious, I never really can see how religion gets in the way. As an Atheist, I have very similar morals to my religious friends/family.
The only difference is I don't believe in God, everything else is in sync.
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MercuryShining Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2008
I agree; aside from religious fanatics and fundamentalists, I agree morally with many religious people despite my atheism.
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StarvingFartist Featured By Owner May 28, 2008  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Religion Sucks.
I could completely careless about someone's religion.
Sadly not all people agree with that.
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Gingurr Featured By Owner May 28, 2008
Someone who fits you will eventually come along. <3
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Echoes-of-the-Dead Featured By Owner May 28, 2008
religion and your beliefs are a large part of who you are, how you think, and your values and such.
If they are different, that's a large part of you that thinks in a completely different way
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rcsi1 Featured By Owner May 28, 2008
Maybe this isn't even about religion. Maybe it's just about belief in god. Who knows if the girl in question just believes in god and that's why she was chosen.
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Echoes-of-the-Dead Featured By Owner May 28, 2008
ah true. however i think what i said still stands.
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2sweet4RockNRoll Featured By Owner May 28, 2008
I agree. All I've dated in path have been atheist's and Im a Christian. It's just too hard to see eye to eye on so many things..
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Echoes-of-the-Dead Featured By Owner May 28, 2008
i was raised in a christian family, and while i dont believe half of it, i still hold many of their values, and even that puts me at odds with friends and stuff.

i mean, it's doable, just like all mixed culture relationships are, so long as you understand that you're gonna think differently
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firedance99 Featured By Owner May 28, 2008
aww honey :hug:
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temporaryme Featured By Owner May 29, 2008
:hug:
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firedance99 Featured By Owner May 30, 2008
my best friend is a christian, and i'm an atheist.

It doesn't make it hurt any less that he chose someone else, but you WILL find someone who accepts your beliefs and loves you for all of you :hug:
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