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:iconkyr-kun-chan:
Kyr-kun-chan Featured By Owner May 16, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
When you're both old, age doesn't matter cuz you're both just old. 8 years isn't that much anymore. If you love him then who cares :)
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dyingBrains Featured By Owner Aug 25, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I read a book about a 15-years old girl and a 21-years old man, it is called "Good Oil" in englischl, I guess, it is written by Laura Buzo and I always hated the fact that the age was the only thing standing between those two. I don't know how it feels or anything but I guess it is just sad that age is so important... 
But what I thought, all over the time, while reading that book... I thouhgt: Why don't you two just live your dream? 
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SomersetRaven Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I think at this stage it's probably best to break it off, maybe just be friends, see other people closer to your age, improve your thinking about your relationship - rape is never a good thing even if you're in love - and then maybe when you're more mature get back together and possibly have a long happy life together.
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fore-cite Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2014  Student Digital Artist
I think that's more towards people who claim that online dating is a bad idea because you never know what the person's really like, and that when you meet them they could be someone else than the person you thought you knew and hurt you with things like rape.
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:iconvunlinur:
Vunlinur Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Love is beautiful only if you believe it will last for ever.
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:iconmakosuke:
Makosuke Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2013  Professional General Artist
I find this secret and those like it interesting, because I met my wife when I was 15 and she was well over twice my age, and fell in love with her not too long after. I at the time was unusually mature (high school senior, and acted older, I was told), which is certainly a factor, but even then I took into account that however I felt about her I probably didn't stand a chance on account of being just a kid, and there'd be legal issues for her even if I got lucky somehow.

Did that mean I just gave up and walked away from the love of my life? No, I figured "If it's worth it, it's worth waiting for." So I remained a good platonic friend and bided my time. It took a while, but eventually I did manage to catch her eye romantically, but even then we took it slow--even if I had the opportunity, I wouldn't have rushed anything and put her in a bad situation. Which worked out just fine--13 years of marriage and counting.

Does that mean that I think it's great for a 15 year old to date a 23 year old? Hardly. If you say, "Even if he were to rape me, I would still love him," you either have no idea what you're talking about or you have such an unhealthy relationship you need to get away from it immediately--that's crazed teenage infatuation, not love. Basically, if you think it's actually worth it, then you should be able to be patient about it until you mature a bit and everything is kosher with the law so nobody gets in trouble. If you can't, then there's something fundamentally wrong with the relationship to begin with.
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BunnyEggs Featured By Owner Jul 12, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
having a sexual relationship with someone this much older than you when your just a child can and probably will cause problems for both of you, and your friends, and your family. Wait until you are of age and even than strongly consider the possibility of what he could actually be.

Best of luck and I hope you 2 can one day be happy and comfortable with your love!
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MandieDaFerocious Featured By Owner Jul 6, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I personally think that you are too young to be in this kind of relationship with such a gap, not because of age, but because of maturity. If you really think he's the one, just stay friends until you are old enough to figure out if he is what you want.
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NothingButJournals Featured By Owner Jul 5, 2013
There are people out there dating that are like, eleven years age difference. If you're both really committed, and you both really love each other, I don't find a thing wrong with it. I say just wait till you're older to be sexually active, and you're all good.
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NothingButJournals Featured By Owner Jul 5, 2013
Also, about the rape thing. I hope you were just saying this to point out that you'd forgive him for anything, but there's always got to be a stopping point. For example, if he actually were to rape you, that'd just show that he doesn't really care about your emotions or your mental health. (Not saying he doesn't, since I don't even know him.) I fully support your relationship, but I really hope you weren't completely serious when you dropped that rape line, because that really shows something unhealthy. :\ Also if you haven't met him in real life yet, be sure that when you do you're safe and be sure to spend maybe four months at least getting to know him in real life. Because like someone else's comment said, you don't know how he reacts to stresses, or how he treats family, or how he overall acts in the real world. Just be safe, dear, and wait for maturity before you decide whether you're completely sure you want to be with this person or not. I'm fifteen myself and I know that if I were in a relationship with someone much older than me, I would definitely wait till my teenage hormones settled down and allowed me to make more rational decisions. Like I said, be safe, and if he actually does end up raping you, or purposefully hurting you traumatically in any way, don't forgive him. Discontinue the relationship, because it would just go to show that he doesn't really care about you, if something like that really were to happen.

Sorry if I rambled. I tend to do that. Whoops! ^^;
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puppypal32 Featured By Owner Jul 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I think the only thing i can say is be careful with the relationship you are pursuing. Dating someone who is an adult while your still a child can be very risky. I hope you can be smart with this and I hope that it can turn up good for you in the future.
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LadyMothwing Featured By Owner Jun 28, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
"Even if" he raped you? Well. Depending on where you are, he is committing statutory rape.

Also, you are young and all, but your dependency on this much older person sounds very unhealthy.
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koshplappit Featured By Owner Jun 15, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
It seems like most of the secret tellers who speak of their age difference are 15... anyone else notice this?
P.S. You are not fully matured. I am 18 and when I look back at how I was when I was 15 I realize this. Please wait. That's all I can say.
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Minimjush Featured By Owner Jun 15, 2013  Hobbyist
Age gaps isn't such a big deal! I'm fourteen and my boyfriend is twenty, and there is no-one i trust more than i trust him.

If you feel that you can trust him, then go for it!
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DarkPika-Sama Featured By Owner Jun 13, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
No offence but if you're saying you would still love a person even if they raped you and you have an huge age difference between each other, that is not love. It is a bad sign and if you two had any sexual contact, then he is, in fact, raping you. Now, I can't tell you not to be with this person because I don't know you at all and I'm not your parent/legal guardian but I will advise you to wait until you're at least 18-20 years old and see if you two still have this connection between each other. If not, call it off and stick to being friends.
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:iconthaliaanderson:
ThaliaAnderson Featured By Owner Jun 25, 2013
I was just about to say the same thing. :( To say that you would love someone if they raped you...that's just not healthy. I hope the ST takes some time to really think about their relationship with this person.
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DarkPika-Sama Featured By Owner Jun 25, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I hope so too. As much as I disapprove of this type of relationship, it isn't my place to tell her to break up with this person. I'm not her parent/legal guardian and I don't know her or the person that she is with or of their relationship aside from the information that was given. The only thing I as well as the rest of the people here can do is advise her and hope that this situation works out well, regardless of her or the person's decision on how their relationship is going to be.
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:iconthaliaanderson:
ThaliaAnderson Featured By Owner Jun 25, 2013
Yes, I think you said it very nicely. (: Hopefully the ST at least thinks about the advice.
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:icondarkpika-sama:
DarkPika-Sama Featured By Owner Jun 25, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I hope so too. I'll be praying for them both.
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:icondarkpika-sama:
DarkPika-Sama Featured By Owner Jun 13, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Either way, you both are playing with fire by pursuing this type of relationship and I hope you both are prepared to face the consequences come with it.
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Parasols Featured By Owner Jun 13, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
This isn't okay. Wait another 5 years if you truly love him, although this sounds more like a desperate attachment and not very much like love at all. It isn't okay for anyone to rape, either; if the two of you ever had sexual contact, he would be taking advantage of a person much younger and more confused than he is, which says something rotten about his moral character.

When I was 15 I dated a 15 year old. We took it very slow and we've ended up very happy years later. I know you might feel attracted to older men for some reason but at your age, that's no good. Find someone you can GROW with, not someone who's old enough to be out of university--or stay single.
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XxShio-ChanxX Featured By Owner Jun 12, 2013  Student General Artist
I guess in the end love is love no matter where you find it~
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juddles-Chan Featured By Owner Jun 11, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
ummm okay way to say that like he actually WOULD rape you
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sugarstitch Featured By Owner Jun 11, 2013  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
What is wrong with you all? Age is just a number? What about a five year old with a twenty year old? Those are just numbers, is that okay? "Oh, my parents have a TWENTY year age gap, and they're in love and junk" Well, yeah okay, but BOTH of your parents are consenting adults. If both people are adults, sure, age is just a number, but when one of the people involved is still technically a child, then no, it's not okay. A fifteen year old is still developing, with a mess of hormones screwing with their emotions, and the ST is no exception. "Even if he were to rape me, I would still love him" That in itself shows that the ST is not mature enough, and obviously has an unhealthy view on 'love'.
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:icondeliruum:
Deliruum Featured By Owner Jun 10, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
You wanna know a little secret? My parents age difference is 20 YEARS! And they love each other.

They had me and my brother and they are still together.

So if no one believes in you. I DO.

Your not alone. Caus I believe in you two <3

If you love him then age doesn't matter.
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DestructoWad Featured By Owner Jun 10, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
What kind of delusional worm would think they would still love a man even if that man *raped* them?
Oh wait, I know, an emotionally confused teenager that is relying on pathos rather than logos to deal with their "love."

As far as the age gap is concerned, I'd be wary simply because the man is pretty much near the top of his prime and mental development, while the girl is *still* developing. And then the long distance relationship? I'd keep going but my rant would go into multiple, long winded paragraphs......
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HazyConfessions Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2013
people only care because you're so young. that's 8 years, there's a 7 year difference between my parents and they're the greatest couple I know
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Grueler Featured By Owner Jun 25, 2013
But how old were they when they started dating?
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amurderofcrowws Featured By Owner Jun 8, 2013  Student General Artist
True, I don't mind age gaps, adults are capable of making their own rational decisions. 5 years apart, 10, 20, 40, it's all fine.

I have a HUGE problem with adults who think it's okay to start a relationship with a child who still doesn't have the ability to have full comprehension of themselves, other people and the world around them. I would not trust an adult like that, and would be very suspicious of them.

Towards the end of every year, I think back on how I went and think, 'God, I was so STUPID! I've learnt so much now, I feel wiser.' And it's the same the year after that! I've been doing that for eighteen years and still going. XD

I am seriously concerned about this deviant after reading the rape comment. Not good.
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Silver-and-Rubies Featured By Owner Jun 6, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Age is just a number. If your at the legal dating age.


I'm 46 and my fiancée is 24. As she has mentioned we've been dating for about 4 1/2 years. And we've been engaged for the last 2 years.


~SylverFire-Lilithe is my fiancée. I love her with all of my heart and soul.
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SylverFire-Lilithe Featured By Owner Jun 6, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I agree!! ^,..,^


The happiest years of my life with more to come. ;p


I love you too mine beloved!! ^,..,^


:glomp::tighthug:
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Silver-and-Rubies Featured By Owner Nov 4, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
My beautiful sweet lovely little flower...... You are my world, my heart, my soul, my life......


I love you so very much......

:)
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SylverFire-Lilithe Featured By Owner Nov 4, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Awwww........ :aww::blush:


ThanQ...!! That is so sweet and romantic!!!

I miss you!!! And I love you sooooo very very much much much!!!!!!!
:glomp::tighthug:
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Silver-and-Rubies Featured By Owner Nov 5, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Heh.

You are most welcome!!
I am glad I made you smile. I did right? Thank you luv.


I miss you too!! I love you so very much!!
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SylverFire-Lilithe Featured By Owner Nov 5, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
^,..,^



Yes yes you did!!!! ;P
Your welcome!!




I love you more!!!! I miss you more!!!!


:tighthug:
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Silver-and-Rubies Featured By Owner Nov 6, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Hehe..... Silly.
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Jepuisadore17 Featured By Owner Jun 6, 2013
Obviously you've never been raped, or this guy is waaaaaayyy deceiving you.
Whatever his dictionary is, his definition of love isn't good enough for you.
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Fairy-Red-Hime Featured By Owner Jun 6, 2013
I was with you until "Even if he were to rape me I would still love him". ._. I usually don't have anything against age gaps (provided it isn't 10+), but that is beyond disgusting, and isn't love at all. Anyone supporting these two together should be disgusted and ashamed of themselves.
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Mothfrocks Featured By Owner Jun 5, 2013
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LightyOle Featured By Owner Jun 4, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
it might have been too fierce to use the word "rape" to express your love.

people concentrate on that,but the secret teller is not asking for opinion on this.


if the love is true,i wish you good luck getting through.time will tell,wait till you grow up and see.
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HMS-ArtHound Featured By Owner Jun 4, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
This sounds like the definition of bad relationship.
The fact that this person has actually considered he may rape them is... disturbing. Sounds like the older guy is just playing them to try and get them alone, what with all the pain and understanding here.
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Blitzoren Featured By Owner Jun 4, 2013
ah, so he would still be this wonderful good person if he were to rape you? then your definition of a good person seems pretty far-fetched if you ask me.


I honestly fear for whoever this is... I hope they someday realize that this isn't a wise choice to be making before something serious happens
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Pinkmitten Featured By Owner Jun 4, 2013
"I know he isn't a bad person. Even if he were to rape me, I would still love him"

"I know he isn't a bad person. Even if he were to rape me, I would still love him"

"I know he isn't a bad person. Even if he were to rape me, I would still love him"

:iconwatplx:
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:iconitsjustmeokay:
itsjustmeokay Featured By Owner Jun 4, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Their saying that they would still love him no matter what. Not that he would actually rape them.
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Cryophase Featured By Owner Jun 4, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You're wasting your breath on the whiny emo teens who don't actually know what the hell rape is :no:
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Pinkmitten Featured By Owner Jun 4, 2013
:iconstareshakeplz:
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slshies Featured By Owner Jun 4, 2013
I love this!!! its so sweet!!! I know how strong love can be even if its broken. If you ever need someone Im there. :)
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divine--apathia Featured By Owner Jun 4, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
It's sweet that someone thinks that rape is OK?
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