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dyingBrains Featured By Owner Aug 25, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I read a book about a 15-years old girl and a 21-years old man, it is called "Good Oil" in englischl, I guess, it is written by Laura Buzo and I always hated the fact that the age was the only thing standing between those two. I don't know how it feels or anything but I guess it is just sad that age is so important... 
But what I thought, all over the time, while reading that book... I thouhgt: Why don't you two just live your dream? 
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SomersetRaven Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I think at this stage it's probably best to break it off, maybe just be friends, see other people closer to your age, improve your thinking about your relationship - rape is never a good thing even if you're in love - and then maybe when you're more mature get back together and possibly have a long happy life together.
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fore-cite Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2014  Student Digital Artist
I think that's more towards people who claim that online dating is a bad idea because you never know what the person's really like, and that when you meet them they could be someone else than the person you thought you knew and hurt you with things like rape.
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Vunlinur Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Love is beautiful only if you believe it will last for ever.
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Makosuke Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
I find this secret and those like it interesting, because I met my wife when I was 15 and she was well over twice my age, and fell in love with her not too long after. I at the time was unusually mature (high school senior, and acted older, I was told), which is certainly a factor, but even then I took into account that however I felt about her I probably didn't stand a chance on account of being just a kid, and there'd be legal issues for her even if I got lucky somehow.

Did that mean I just gave up and walked away from the love of my life? No, I figured "If it's worth it, it's worth waiting for." So I remained a good platonic friend and bided my time. It took a while, but eventually I did manage to catch her eye romantically, but even then we took it slow--even if I had the opportunity, I wouldn't have rushed anything and put her in a bad situation. Which worked out just fine--13 years of marriage and counting.

Does that mean that I think it's great for a 15 year old to date a 23 year old? Hardly. If you say, "Even if he were to rape me, I would still love him," you either have no idea what you're talking about or you have such an unhealthy relationship you need to get away from it immediately--that's crazed teenage infatuation, not love. Basically, if you think it's actually worth it, then you should be able to be patient about it until you mature a bit and everything is kosher with the law so nobody gets in trouble. If you can't, then there's something fundamentally wrong with the relationship to begin with.
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BunnyEggs Featured By Owner Jul 12, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
having a sexual relationship with someone this much older than you when your just a child can and probably will cause problems for both of you, and your friends, and your family. Wait until you are of age and even than strongly consider the possibility of what he could actually be.

Best of luck and I hope you 2 can one day be happy and comfortable with your love!
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MandieDaFerocious Featured By Owner Jul 6, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I personally think that you are too young to be in this kind of relationship with such a gap, not because of age, but because of maturity. If you really think he's the one, just stay friends until you are old enough to figure out if he is what you want.
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NothingButJournals Featured By Owner Jul 5, 2013
There are people out there dating that are like, eleven years age difference. If you're both really committed, and you both really love each other, I don't find a thing wrong with it. I say just wait till you're older to be sexually active, and you're all good.
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NothingButJournals Featured By Owner Jul 5, 2013
Also, about the rape thing. I hope you were just saying this to point out that you'd forgive him for anything, but there's always got to be a stopping point. For example, if he actually were to rape you, that'd just show that he doesn't really care about your emotions or your mental health. (Not saying he doesn't, since I don't even know him.) I fully support your relationship, but I really hope you weren't completely serious when you dropped that rape line, because that really shows something unhealthy. :\ Also if you haven't met him in real life yet, be sure that when you do you're safe and be sure to spend maybe four months at least getting to know him in real life. Because like someone else's comment said, you don't know how he reacts to stresses, or how he treats family, or how he overall acts in the real world. Just be safe, dear, and wait for maturity before you decide whether you're completely sure you want to be with this person or not. I'm fifteen myself and I know that if I were in a relationship with someone much older than me, I would definitely wait till my teenage hormones settled down and allowed me to make more rational decisions. Like I said, be safe, and if he actually does end up raping you, or purposefully hurting you traumatically in any way, don't forgive him. Discontinue the relationship, because it would just go to show that he doesn't really care about you, if something like that really were to happen.

Sorry if I rambled. I tend to do that. Whoops! ^^;
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