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Tenshi-no-hane-Okami Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
All my life I've really only had one friend at any time. But once they don't need me they leave, toss me aside like a broken toy. I had given up on making friends, until I met someone who acutely cared about me. For a wile it was just us, then she introduced me to all of her friends. And sometimes when I want to talk to her she isn't there, but if she leaves me I'll be alone again.  
TheOneWithoutASoul Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2013  Student General Artist
Ugh, I've been in a kind of similar situation recently (except the new one was her old best friend who she said she hated, but then ditched me for her again.) I just walked away from them all and cut them out of my life, because I got tired of feeling jealous and depressed. She's happy now, anyway, happier than she was, so it was the right thing to do. Maybe you'll have to walk away too in order to make things right :/ best of luck <3
Sioke Featured By Owner Jun 22, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Oh my... I've had quite a bunch of situations when it was the same for me :( being the third wheel just hurts sooooo much. One's friends (or ... "friends", if they don't realize it) just have no idea how much they hurt someone...

I suppose, the only thing that really helps is stopping to depend on specific people and starting to give yourself the love you try to get from others... you can't really claim someone's attention all the time if they are not willing to give it to you...
Sioke Featured By Owner Jun 22, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Edit: of course, you should talk to them ;) I said they were your "friends" (false friends) if they didn't realize it, but I meant they were false friends if they knew it (or realized it) and still did't care. So tell them how you feel. (if possible, without accusing them. Maybe they really just don't realize how much they hurt you!)
DarkPika-Sama Featured By Owner Jun 13, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I felt and been in that situation before. Tell your friend how you feel and if she doesn't understand your feelings, then move on. Hanging out with other friends and/on getting to know the new person also helps. Either way, it'll pass eventually. Just don't dwell on it too much. :)
AwesomeKijo Featured By Owner Jun 4, 2013  Hobbyist
Ive had the same problem. My ex-best friend had done the same three times. Then I wrote her a real nasty message about things, she had done wrong, but who even count to me anymore. But I wanted to be free and not to be just the third wheel. And now I am nothing to her. I thought Im finally free. But I want so badly to be her friend again that I eventually realized that I am still trapped in her spider web.
sprinkleddisaster Featured By Owner Jun 1, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm the same way. Have been, and by the looks of it always will be, the third wheel.
slshies Featured By Owner May 31, 2013
I feel the same way.
hawaii42612 Featured By Owner May 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I know what you mean. friends are difficult. but I think art helps a little bit. if you just kind of back off, this person may notice and realize they were taking you for granted (if that's how you see it) art definitely helps. creating ocs and imagining things for yourself, it does kind of lessen the loneliness.
bionicler-lennart Featured By Owner May 30, 2013
yes you are right. . .
hawaii42612 Featured By Owner May 30, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
:) but i like to help people. that also kind of helps. when you help, you make them happy and it feels wonderful.
bionicler-lennart Featured By Owner May 31, 2013
well i like to help everyone i can aw well :) , but it can also cause a lot of trouble . . . in this case for example
i was in a situation like this as well (i was the third wheel too) and i still tried to make them happy, even it
made my situation worse.

So i think sometimes Art helps more then people are even able to.
hawaii42612 Featured By Owner May 31, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
not necessarily making the two happy, like volunteer to help people with a subject you're good at. volunteer at an animal shelter or something. you know? being busy and helping others are a good way to keep preoccupied. :)
halperin98 Featured By Owner May 28, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I'm sorry... I think I accidently did the same thing with my friend... though I noticed... so they will too, and then you'll be a triple, together forever, not two and an extra...
sanpin-cha Featured By Owner May 27, 2013
I tried to honest and tell my friends they were making me feel like a third wheel. They couldn't get it. That made me really upset but I'm glad I don't hang out with them anymore.
Rose-Eclipse Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I know that feeling but i still don't know how to deal with it.
snowflake565 Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I know that exact feeling :/ kind of going through that myself, but don't worry there are ways of fighting it. Tell your friend that they're hurting you, it can be fixed as long as the both of you care and by the looks of you do, so you just need your friend to of luck :)
Diamond-Blitz Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Student Digital Artist
I know how you feel. A new girl came to school and she's friends with my best friend and she keeps sticking to her and doesn't try to talk to anyone else. When my friend isn't around and it's just me and her, she just goes on her phone! >:L I understand she's new and all, but she should try to talk to the rest of us.
I told my friend how I was feeling and she said that she was just talking to the new girl because she was new and that I should just try to stay next to her. It didn't work. The new girl just keeps coming between us! God, it's annoying me so much! I understand. Moving and being new is scary. My friend is going to move away next year and what's going to happen then?
I suggest you just tell your friend how you feel. It helps. :hug:
lunasrl1 Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I know the feeling...tell your friend how you feel. If she doesn't respect that then you need a new and better friend.
It's hard, I used to be afraid of losing friends...I was a military brat and so I was used to losing them growing up. So when I reached Junior high and had the opportunity to make lasting friends I clung to them.

I made good and bad friends...but through the pain I learned lessons, I learned how to be a friend and not lose myself. I used to be a doormat so my friends would stay by me...but I learned why have friends if there's nothinf of you left for them to be friends with?

I gained strength and wisdom, I gained experience and learned to say "I deserve better than this. Respect me or I won't respect you." And it worked.

Now? I've had friends that have stayed for 8 YEARS. They're my BEST friends, they're loyal and kind and silly and fun and funny and they don't use and abuse me, and they don't leave me behind. I will never leave them behind because they were good to me.

Tell you friend how you feel, if she's a real friend she'll make an effort to keep you. You also have to make an effort (if you haven't been already, not assuming) to be apart of her life, and if this new one is a friend of yours as well then the same goes for them as well. Be their friends and tell them you need them as your friends.

If they don't respect that, if they don't take you seriously, then get new friends. It's hard, it's lonely, and you may think you'll never find a real friend...but you WILL. Just stay strong! You have all of us behind you!

Hopefully your friends will listen to you so you won't have to go out and make new ones. I wish you luck, ST. If you need a friend I'll be your friend. I'm shy, but be good and respectful to me and I will do the same for you. I promise.
Osolito Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Happens all the time with me. Honestly, tell them how you feel. I wish I had.
skittle-go-rawr Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
You don't know how many times that has happened to me. There will always be more people. It might take awhile but you will find more friends! Best of luck to you ST.
tinaluvadventuretime Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
i was a third wheel to but i tried to be friends with the the both of them and now we're 3 best friends
BlazeFireWolf1 Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I can't say I know how it feels,but I've been the one to put other people in the "third wheel" position plenty of times,and they all hated me for it. (aahaha..ha..ha.... ;~; i feel bad for them) Sorry,but unless you step up and take charge you're not getting your friend back. Not by moping around. Better yet,try to make friends with the person that pushed you out of the picture,maybe you can make the three of you work.
rockinnerd12 Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I know how you feel Im going thru the same thing too but much worst
NegisuRikutaka Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
This happened to me once.
I moved to a new place, attended a new school and found a best friend right away. Then we found another girl. She became a best friend to us both and I became the third wheel due to my shy and reluctant nature.
I wish I could say something positive right now, but I can't. Those two decided that it would be better to exclude me and be friends on their own.
Well, the two of them didn't get along this well, or so it seems, and one of them came back to me and apologized. She became my best friend (even though sometimes I still can't trust her). I sometimes talk with the other friend as well, but we aren't as close anymore.
So I guess... hmh. Even if something like this happens to you, don't forget that you can still be happy. I'm happy, in a way at least.
...Annnd I think I just made all of it worse.
Dartmaul15 Featured By Owner May 27, 2013
your point is that if you don't want to be a tird weel, then you have to stan up, and step out of it. Suggest stuff to do, flirt a little (if you find him/her atractive), hang out, and do stuff.
you're loosing them because you're not involving yourself.
If you're of th qit kind, at least tell them. Real frinds will remember this, and stop up to slow down sometimes. ANd theey will try to involve you more.

I hope it helped.
NegisuRikutaka Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yeah... I guess that was my point.
Thanks. ^^'' I hope this helps the OP as well.
NantheCowdog Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
My two best friends started dating each other now she really just wants to be with him... I understand... But still, I've been the 3rd wheel in most of my friendships...
SakurakoAnamiya Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Yeah. Your not alone I feel the same way.
peanutkix Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Student General Artist
It could help if you talked to your friends about it. I once felt like a third wheel and another time it was one of my other friends. In both cases, just talking about it really helped. Don't lose your friendships because of something like this. They probably don't even know what they're doing.
Transformersgirl1234 Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Student
This has been my big problem in life for me. I know just what your going through, and i know just how sick of it we are.
ThiefshippingAngel Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Same here. Same here. This happens quite frequently to me and my little group of friends. But here's one thing, live through it, confront them, or leave them.
IIwatermelontrainII Featured By Owner May 27, 2013
SAME. :doh:
AnndSchKaDsteRnchn Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
This really could be me… I'm also really tired of it.
Shinigami-senpai Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
hmmmmm, i know this feeling.... :/ that sucks.... :hug:
vDorp Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
wow, that could be me... right now everything is okay. but this feeling will be with me forever, again and again.. Sad, but true. You're not alone!
BurntScones Featured By Owner May 27, 2013
TheButterflyOfHope Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Wow, this is exactly that's happening to me. Hang in there :hug: If you ever need to talk, or feel like doing so, you can come to me. Maybe talk to your friend one on one if they are understanding? That's what I did.
katerlin Featured By Owner May 27, 2013
I know that feeling. whatever friends I did manage to make my sister always stole from me. just keep your head, and tell them how you feel
Luvbug---tan Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Exactly how I feel.
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