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" I'm in the cliché situation where I have to choose between love and love - I can't have both. And I've cried over it the whole day today."

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bloodyemo26 Featured By Owner Jul 17, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
If you really love someone they should make you pick, neither should your family.
Nibbler117 Featured By Owner Jun 1, 2013
I've been reading too many secrets. Now I'm crying. And I cry after every sad secret. This is one of them.
Yamiga Featured By Owner May 29, 2013  Student Writer
Sheesh, if you really love someone and that person really loves you, then no matter what you to should be together.
gilll Featured By Owner May 26, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
I have a friend who had this problem and now she's married to that same person.
If you really love your partner you should stand by their side. Your family is still your family, and they will get used to the idea of you two being together eventually wither they like it or not. I know that your family is very important to you, but I know how hard it is to find love and I wouldn't back down and give up on it that easily. Just because your family doesn't like your partner, it doesn't mean they don't want you to be happy.
Good luck!
emoturtlefrk Featured By Owner May 26, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
i just recently was put into kind of the same girlfriends mom doesn't accept me.
But you know what?
give them a reason to. maybe sit down for like a "family" dinner or get them to find something they all have in common. Show your family that your lover makes you happy.
Show your lover your family means the world to you.
even if they have no reason at all to like each other, if they truley love you, they'll both respect that you're happy with both of them in your life
fizzymoth Featured By Owner May 25, 2013
it's kinda like that for me now
at least the first part
kaoru-kitty368 Featured By Owner May 25, 2013  Student General Artist
become the master of compromise
Cimorin Featured By Owner May 25, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
it shouldn't matter if they like each other as long as you love them and they love you that's my OPINION anyway
lunasrl1 Featured By Owner May 25, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I was there, hun...oh believe me I was there...
Im not anymore, I'm with a new man now that loves my parents and my parents LOVE him~ (in fact today I'm getting married to him lmao)
But with my ex...well, there was a lot of tension...I stuck with him, though, because I knew I could go back to my parents...I couldn't go back to him. I stuck with him because I had desperately hoped for a future with him...but even then I was lying to myself.
He wanted to be a girl. I am straight, and I KNOW I'm I told him I'd date him until he got a sex change. After that I'd be his friend and mother/sister like companion.

It was weird but I was desperate because of my feelings for him...and of course I hope you're significant other isn't like that, I hope they love you and make you happy and take care of you, but Ill get to my point.

Are you going to stay with them for the long run? If you are, then you need to stand by them. Like one stands by their spouse, if you REALLY love them and REALLY want to stay with him, you need to stand by them.
You also need to talk to them about their feelings towards your parents, tell them how it hurts you. They don't need to be made to like your parents, but they should want to aim for an agreement with your parents. A treaty of sorts, for your sake.

If you don't think it's going to be a long term relationship like that then stand by your family. Family is most important (hopefully you have a good family though), second ONLY to your spouse/significant other...though once they become your spouse or such they become your family as well. Don't break their hearts just to stay with a current beau that won't stick around.
ThelordofallReturn Featured By Owner May 25, 2013
Step parents is a bitch, You are FAR from the only one experiencing this. In the end it is up to you and your partner to make the decision, not your family, and if your family can't accept your happiness or be happy for YOU, then putt hem a side a bit.

I used to date a guy (he turned out to be an asshole) anyway, the point is his step parent's hated me more then anything, They hated me because of my cloth and hair cut, and because I had ferrets, since his dad was afraid of ferrets, but I never forced them to pet them or had them with me when I was at their house.

I guess step parents (most of the time) just ARE.. assholes. It's much easier to hate something from the ''outside'' then the inside. You could try talking to them all at once maybe? :)
glaelion Featured By Owner May 25, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I may not have a love life, but I'm afraid that this might happen to me too since I'm not yet out of the closet completely
ThelordofallReturn Featured By Owner May 25, 2013
Step parents are assholes 80% of the time, it's just how it is, no parent think a girl or guy is good enough for their little sunshine :P
La-Nee Featured By Owner May 25, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Don't let their hatred taint your love. The latter should always win :hug:
technoplasma Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I dated a guy for a while and things were very serious, but he refused to be respectful about my mom. My mom is mentally ill and was diagnosed with MS while this guy and I were dating. I explained to him that my mom is my family, and whether or not she approves of me or not (and she rarely does) she is still family and needs to be respected. He absolutely refused, even saying at one point "I want your mom to die, then I don't have to deal with her."

One of my close friends (another guy) saw the situation and told me that I deserved better. I knew I did. I broke off the relationship and told him if he wasn't going to be there for me and respectful of my family than there wasn't any room for a relationship between us.

Now I'm married to a great guy (the friend that said I deserved better) and every day I think about my ex I am grateful that I didn't end up with him. I know my life would have been miserable, because even though my mom rarely approves of what I do or who I am, my husband still loves her and me and still treats her the way a person should be treated. Everyone should be loved and honored, even if you don't think they're "worthy" of it.

You can't really control the way anyone feels or acts, but you can control how you feel and react to things. Make sure that your partner is being respectful of your beliefs and your family, whether your family is being respectful of you and your partner or not. You can't choose your family, but you can choose your partner. There will come a time when you'll spend more time with your partner building your family than with your parents. Wouldn't you rather be with someone that treats you right and respects you, your choices, and your family?

I'm not saying to end your relationship, but make sure that you're not letting yourself be walked over. You should be loved and treasured and respected, not pulled and manipulated.

Feel free to note me if you want to chat about this further. :)

(Sorry for the long comment ^^; I hope it helps, though!)
LightyOle Featured By Owner May 25, 2013  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
" Everyone should be loved and honored, even if you don't think they're worthy of it. " thats so right,inspiring...and so is your experience.thanks for sharing,you're great
Solatoral Featured By Owner May 24, 2013
The friend that become the husband. That's just too sweet. So happy for you and your husband. :D
LittleCharmers Featured By Owner May 24, 2013
...That sucks. I guess. :iconconfusedplz: Good luck! I wish you joy and everything will get resolved! :iconninjaglompplz:
Queen-of-Butterflies Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You've gotta keep on going! Don't give up! :hug:
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