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MaraJayne95 Featured By Owner Jun 8, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
No, I don't think it's wrong. My parents are 9 years apart in age, so i've grown up with this. it doesn't matter if you're only 15, just wait to have sex. waiting will make it perfectly legal, meaning that there is nothing wrong with it :) i think that it is sweet. love is love, no matter the age, gender, race or anything.
it sounds like you love him, and because of this, i support your love :)
Cloud-Puffball Featured By Owner Jun 7, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yes because it makes the 24 year-old a paedophile and that's taboo. Wait till you're 18 then do what you what you want.
SushiIcecream Featured By Owner Jun 1, 2013
I think the issue here is not so much the age gap in itself - though in life, no matter how old you are there are going to be people who question, yet as many in the comments below I was born of parents with an 11 year age gap between them, they've been together now 24 years.
The real issue, that I think is the concern of many of the below comments is that you are still under age. (I'm assuming that you're probably in the US, as if you were here in the UK you would only need another year to be 'legal')

While this young I would not say 'don't be with him', only to be careful - keep your family involved, keep yourself safe; for his sake as much as your own. It's easy to consider yourself 'in love' at this age and even easier to shrug off someone older who suggests otherwise, but bare in mind that what you feel for him may well pass or indeed; if he gets frustrated with the lack of intimacy or in some cases maturity of the relationship, may move on. Be prepared for this.

If he doesn't then great, you're one of the few lucky people in the world who has found their soul mate at such a young age and I can only hope for you a life of happiness.

But never forget your own safety and your own innocence, no matter what is said no matter how sweetly, wait. If he loves you, he will get frustrated yes; but will understand, he will wait. If he doesn't, let him go and as devastating as it might make you feel, you won't regret it down the line.

Be safe, be mature about the situation and always be open about your feelings throughout the relationship. Good luck <3
MissSaya Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2013
Wise words. I agree with you. I hope the Secret Teller reads you comment, because I think it would be really helpful in her situation! ;)
sstormborn Featured By Owner May 29, 2013
You definitifly should wait until you're 18 with getting closer to him! Apart from that, you age is perfecly ok (in my opinion..) My dad is 9 years older than my mom, they are married since seventeen years and fine with that! Just go for it :)
SoulEaterXMaka Featured By Owner May 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I understand what you're going through entirely, but your best option is to wait until you're at least 18 to get serious. Any earlier, you can risk ruining his future. And for your own safety, make sure this guy really does love you. <3 Good luck.
LacklustreDreams Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Student Writer
Please just make sure that he loves you too, and isn't taking advantage, manipulating and grooming you...
Kharirayne Featured By Owner May 27, 2013
I was 15 dating a 21 year old when I was in high school. You wanna know what happened?

I ruined his life.

I suggest you stop this right now, the only thing that will come out of this is pain.

If you really love him, just back off. When you're 18, feel free to speak to him again. If he truly loves you, he'll wait.
Horsie35 Featured By Owner May 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
if you both really love each other, you need to wait until you are 18.
I know it will be hard, very hard. you can still see each other, but you cant act like a couple. 9 years isn't a lot, it shouldn't matter. but to society now, it does. to your parents, the police, it does. your feeling are not wrong! don't think that's what im saying. but before a kiss or something happens, just wait until you are 18...
Eremitik Featured By Owner May 26, 2013
Ya, it is wrong. You are still a "child" and the person you are "in love with" is an adult. even if you arent doing anything beside hugging and playful teasing, this adult you love can have their whole life ruined because of how things appear. It takes only one phone call, or the wrong whisper to a friend to have this person arrested and labeled as a sex offender. For life.
If you two are truly in love, waiting a few years until you become an adult wont matter. These other people giving you advice are wrong. Until you become 18, your parents are responsible for you and can press charges against this other person. Hell, the State can press charges.
It may be your life, but your actions can most certainly affect the life of someone else, regardless of what you say.
Its not the 9 year age difference that matters. its that you are considered a child and the other person an adult.
All you Deviants telling this person to not worry about what other people think should shut the hell up. It wont affect your life at all when this 24 year old is arrested and labeled a sex offender or pedophile.
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