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MaraJayne95 Featured By Owner Jun 8, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
No, I don't think it's wrong. My parents are 9 years apart in age, so i've grown up with this. it doesn't matter if you're only 15, just wait to have sex. waiting will make it perfectly legal, meaning that there is nothing wrong with it :) i think that it is sweet. love is love, no matter the age, gender, race or anything.
it sounds like you love him, and because of this, i support your love :)
Cloud-Puffball Featured By Owner Jun 7, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yes because it makes the 24 year-old a paedophile and that's taboo. Wait till you're 18 then do what you what you want.
SushiIcecream Featured By Owner Jun 1, 2013
I think the issue here is not so much the age gap in itself - though in life, no matter how old you are there are going to be people who question, yet as many in the comments below I was born of parents with an 11 year age gap between them, they've been together now 24 years.
The real issue, that I think is the concern of many of the below comments is that you are still under age. (I'm assuming that you're probably in the US, as if you were here in the UK you would only need another year to be 'legal')

While this young I would not say 'don't be with him', only to be careful - keep your family involved, keep yourself safe; for his sake as much as your own. It's easy to consider yourself 'in love' at this age and even easier to shrug off someone older who suggests otherwise, but bare in mind that what you feel for him may well pass or indeed; if he gets frustrated with the lack of intimacy or in some cases maturity of the relationship, may move on. Be prepared for this.

If he doesn't then great, you're one of the few lucky people in the world who has found their soul mate at such a young age and I can only hope for you a life of happiness.

But never forget your own safety and your own innocence, no matter what is said no matter how sweetly, wait. If he loves you, he will get frustrated yes; but will understand, he will wait. If he doesn't, let him go and as devastating as it might make you feel, you won't regret it down the line.

Be safe, be mature about the situation and always be open about your feelings throughout the relationship. Good luck <3
MissSaya Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2013
Wise words. I agree with you. I hope the Secret Teller reads you comment, because I think it would be really helpful in her situation! ;)
sstormborn Featured By Owner May 29, 2013
You definitifly should wait until you're 18 with getting closer to him! Apart from that, you age is perfecly ok (in my opinion..) My dad is 9 years older than my mom, they are married since seventeen years and fine with that! Just go for it :)
SoulEaterXMaka Featured By Owner May 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I understand what you're going through entirely, but your best option is to wait until you're at least 18 to get serious. Any earlier, you can risk ruining his future. And for your own safety, make sure this guy really does love you. <3 Good luck.
LacklustreDreams Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Student Writer
Please just make sure that he loves you too, and isn't taking advantage, manipulating and grooming you...
Kharirayne Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I was 15 dating a 21 year old when I was in high school. You wanna know what happened?

I ruined his life.

I suggest you stop this right now, the only thing that will come out of this is pain.

If you really love him, just back off. When you're 18, feel free to speak to him again. If he truly loves you, he'll wait.
Horsie35 Featured By Owner May 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
if you both really love each other, you need to wait until you are 18.
I know it will be hard, very hard. you can still see each other, but you cant act like a couple. 9 years isn't a lot, it shouldn't matter. but to society now, it does. to your parents, the police, it does. your feeling are not wrong! don't think that's what im saying. but before a kiss or something happens, just wait until you are 18...
Eremitik Featured By Owner May 26, 2013
Ya, it is wrong. You are still a "child" and the person you are "in love with" is an adult. even if you arent doing anything beside hugging and playful teasing, this adult you love can have their whole life ruined because of how things appear. It takes only one phone call, or the wrong whisper to a friend to have this person arrested and labeled as a sex offender. For life.
If you two are truly in love, waiting a few years until you become an adult wont matter. These other people giving you advice are wrong. Until you become 18, your parents are responsible for you and can press charges against this other person. Hell, the State can press charges.
It may be your life, but your actions can most certainly affect the life of someone else, regardless of what you say.
Its not the 9 year age difference that matters. its that you are considered a child and the other person an adult.
All you Deviants telling this person to not worry about what other people think should shut the hell up. It wont affect your life at all when this 24 year old is arrested and labeled a sex offender or pedophile.
ShizuoFan Featured By Owner May 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
This is absolutely true. Well said.
Eremitik Featured By Owner May 27, 2013
BocchanAkumaGaSuki Featured By Owner May 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
When I was thirteen, I was with a 24 year old. I loved him so much...
When I looked in the mirror, I would always wonder if I was doing something wrong...
Don't worry what other's think, it's your life, go for it.
Ferris4673 Featured By Owner May 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Love is love.
The Society can't change that no matter what they think, say or shout.
Love can be beautiful.
Love can be ugly.
But love can also be pure.

Beautiful, ugly and pure love has all ages.

That's what I believe.
petitecat Featured By Owner May 31, 2013
Thank You SO so much for this beautiful comment. You don't even know, how much it cheered me up. Wish You all the best.
Ferris4673 Featured By Owner Jun 3, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you very much, I'm very glad it helped you. :D
Silende Featured By Owner May 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
My grandma is 30 years older than my grandpa and they love eachother and have been married for more that twenty years.
LunaDianaRaine Featured By Owner May 25, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I don't think so at all! Sure, there are conflicts that could arise but age doesn't really matter. Now, if he was 97 or something, it would be a bit off, but 15+24 isn't bad, in my opinion.
fizzymoth Featured By Owner May 25, 2013
When my mom was 7, my dad was 16 and could drive. I'm not saying they knew each other that far back in their lives, I'm just saying, a big age difference doesn't really matter.
kumamichi Featured By Owner May 25, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
i know you love him but he's older is more mature and has a lot to worry about so be careful
Xcry-me-a-riverX Featured By Owner May 25, 2013
okay, I know everyone says age doesn't matter if it's love, well legally it does matter. No point in ruining the person's life because you are in love with him. Be patient, wait until your age difference really doesn't matter, legal wise. Then you can be together. for me, my boyfriend is 17. I am 18. when I was 17 we did lots of things together, but now I have to wait until June 6 in order to do that stuff again. We are in love but we are willing to wait until it's legal. Unless your like a friend of mine who loves the rebellious life style. If that's the reason well good luck..
IndianSummers Featured By Owner May 25, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
I can relate.
I'm 17 and a friend of mine is 26.
I'm trying hard not to fall for him (he's interested too,I think )because I'm not sure about it either (it'd be legal where I live though) and also because I don't want to risk our still developing, yet already beautiful friendship, but I can't help it. We get along so very well,are interested in the same things and are able to talk for hours and hours without even noticing the time passing by. Sometimes I think about how I am 18 in a few month anyway and then none would mind anymore,because none minds if a 18 year old has an older boyfriend,but for some reason they do when you are 17,even if it's legal...Should I go for it? I'm so confused...
BlazeFireWolf1 Featured By Owner May 25, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
It's not wrong. As soon as you get a bit older,it will be fine despite what people say. In 3 years,you will be 18 and he will be 27 -shrug- If you guys last 3 whole years,that is. But hey,if Onision did it,i'm sure you can too :U
shiro-pyon Featured By Owner May 25, 2013
one of my friend (she's 18 y.o) was with a guy who was 40 ^^" it's not really a big diference if you truelly love him
AerithEchidna4rt Featured By Owner May 25, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
If you truly love this man, with all your heart (and I'm not trying to say you don't, because you most likely do), then it shouldn't be felt as wrong to you or him. And if anybody tells you it's wrong, ignore them, because in my opinion, love is love, no matter who it is or what age they are <3
TeaTimeTrance Featured By Owner May 25, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I find it amusing all the "go for it" comments." it will end up with the guy being in jail and put on a register.
I think the word "love" is tossed around all the time, I've seen girls 13 years of age saying they are "in love" when to be honest, it's bull. They change guys like they would underpants.
I think if you truly loved each other you would be able to wait 3 years, just so you're of age. So he wouldn't go to jail. Or maybe wait until you really understand if you LOVE him or it's just a crush.
andrielisilien Featured By Owner May 24, 2013
Have you read Jane Austen? A few of her characters have big age difference, especially in Emma where the guy is about 16 years older than the girl. It's not wrong but you should probably wait till you are no longer a minor. You need the "adult" status just to be safe. So wait 3 years, finish school and such because 15 is a harsh age to take on the world.
TeaTimeTrance Featured By Owner May 25, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Jane Austen... Different time error when getting married was all that mattered.
andrielisilien Featured By Owner May 25, 2013
Does love matter in time periods or deep bonds of friendship that turn into love? I had a difficult time getting past age differences when my roommate told me of couples she knew (parents included) that were 10 years apart. Then I read Jane Austen where I could see from start to finish. In Emma's case, the "getting married was all that mattered" doesn't fit. She wasn't exactly suppose to get married.
RoseSerpenthelm Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Student Digital Artist
If you think it's right, go for it!

You don't have to try anything 'physical' until you're 18 anyway, so I don't think being in a relationship would be bad. I myself prefer more emotionally mature people, and that usually translates to a person who is a bit older than me. Every couple is different, and I don't see anything wrong as long as nothing like rape or incest is involved. Just be yourself and allow yourself lo love. :heart:
CheeseMango Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Maybe you should wait till your 18 so he won't be considered a pedophile or something. Also, remember kids, graduating high school is important!
AssSwab Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Professional Artist
This is the umpteenth time I've seen this same recycled "secret".
Umbreon0 Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
You claim to love him, yet at such a young age, I'm curious, do you really? Love is thrown around so often to describe the dumbest of things. Would you kill for this guy? Would you die for this guy? Would you give up all of your possessions and possibly friend for this guy? If you answered no to any of these, chances are, you don't really love him. And if you answered yes, would you truly follow through with it?

Now that that's out of the way....

I'd be a bit cautious. Hugging and playful teasing could eventually escalate into, well, OTHER things, if you catch my drift. Due to the age difference, he may even be using you, though I don't know the guy and I don't know you, so, yeah, can't judge on that too well, now can I?

Now, just be wary and cautious. If you feel you'd still like to see him, by all means, do so. My parents are six years apart. It'll be a bit weird for a while, but not so in the future. It may work out, it may not work out.
KA-KeitorinArtist Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Student Digital Artist
ACtually, if its who i think it is... he would...
Lily-Ash Featured By Owner May 24, 2013
Close friends hug, cuddle and playfully tease each other all the time, that doesn't necessarily make them a 'couple'. My question here is, what kind of love do you speak of? There's many types such as family love, romantic love, friend love, etc.
If you mean romantic love, well, I sorry to burst your bubble but that kind requires intimacy for it to be entitled as such, at least in my opinion, which is something that should be beyond your reach given the large age gap between you two and possibly being illegal where you live. There's a reason why people look down on cases like these and that is because teens are in the prime of their 'hormonal stage', they are 'blind' to the consequences of their decisions and acts and are more easily pulled into 'traps' by older people who knows how to push their buttons.

But its honestly hard to say with just a confession on the internet, we would need a lot more details to know if it was right or wrong. If it were a true case of honest 'love', I would congratulate you and cheer for you, but to be honest I'm very skeptical about it. My advise to you is to keep your eyes and ears open to anything suspicious. Don't let him force you into anything. And if its the other way around... well... if you really care about him, you should avoid getting him into complicated situations because if he ever gets caught, its he who is going to burn.
Hopefeather Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Professional
Not knowing anything of the situation, I can't say. There are a thousand factors to it, but your hesitation seems to be based on some fear of age difference. As a principle, I don't believe an age gap to mean that love is fundamentally wrong, but perhaps the very fact that you are posting this is saying something consciously unnoted about yourself or about him. Maybe you realize that you are not fully developed or experienced enough to react as a responsible person would. Perhaps you realize that he is the kind of person to take advantage of this immaturity, even if you don't want to acknowledge it. Again, as I am not in the situation, I do not know anything of what either of you are like and I can not make that say. But just consider for yourself why you are asking this question. Then talk to somebody real, instead of just posting about it on the internet.
CoyoteDove Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
That isn't wrong at all hun, I've seen many amazing couples with wider age gaps then that.
Paleclaw Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
My parents are a year farther apart than you two and they've made it for quite a while. I believe somewhere over 30 years now. It can work, so long as you really do love eachother.
Ragestarter Featured By Owner May 24, 2013
I have seen those same ages make it together before "one"... But for the most part it turns out in rape/child laws and people giving u a back look for the rest of your life... I now u prob love him.. but there are all kinds of people out there... be careful.
Slytherin-Decepticon Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
People, at the age of 15 think they know what's best and they know what love is.

I don't speak like this because I'm "older" and "you should listen to me or else".
I speak like this because that's exactly what I thought and the guy was only 4 years older than I was.
I thought it was pretty harmless, but everyone around me was saying I was "too young" and "I'd understand when I was older."
I never listened to them and I regret it. If I could go back and tell my younger self to listen, I would.

Then again, you might not end up in the same situation I did.
However, just be careful and realize you're young and you don't know key things just yet.
Just be cautious. <3
xXNibiNoNekoXx Featured By Owner May 24, 2013
It's not wrong at all to me, but just be careful about who you tell about your relationship. Don't want anybody tattling on you.
L-chan--ndn Featured By Owner May 24, 2013
It's not wrong if you both want it, that's what I think .-.
j4142000 Featured By Owner May 24, 2013
It's not wrong.

But if you don't want to get in trouble, I'd suggest you don't go any farther than hugging for a couple years. Wish you luck! ♥
PseudonymousRMY Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
common problem, 15 year olds are stupid, at least the ones I knew, and I never felt any kind of attraction to them, I only liked olders (generally between 20 and 25), but couldn't date them, so I had to wait, that's why turning 18 made me so happy
xXMedicXx Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Not wrong, More so just set up for failure..

I was like that at your age, it made me feel special..
it always ended up failing..
they wanted to rush to get married as soon as i turned 18 but i didn't want to..

It's not impossible, but the odds are against you
shinedust Featured By Owner May 24, 2013
I don't think it's "wrong," but I don't think it's necessarily appropriate.

However, if you can bring him to meet your parents and they agree with the relationship then I don't see a problem. If, however, you're hiding this from your parents or even your friends then you have to have a reason as to why you're not open about what you're doing. I kind of also want to know how you two met, you say you only see each other once a week...why?

Just seems to be a lot of holes in relationships like this.
legitface Featured By Owner May 24, 2013   Artist
:iconnowayplz: Wrong? Not at all, I love a 23 year old and I'm 13. My mom and dad are 20 years apart. It runs in my family and even if it doesn't in yours it's not wrong! :iconthumbsupplz:
xPainWithoutLovex Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Hobbyist
There's no sexual contact.
I think its fine, as long as it stays that way.
Lady-Zana Featured By Owner May 24, 2013
I say you just be friends for now, and no flirting or cuddling. See how long he can stick to that. See if he can wait for at least three years. If it's "true love", then it shouldn't be a problem.

To be perfectly honest though, it probably will be. He'd either push you to be more intimate, or leave you for someone else. I mean no offense, but the facts are, he's adult and you're still a child. You're on different levels and have different needs.

And personally, it sounds wrong to me. I have a brother who's 15, and if I found out he was dating some girl in her twenties? One of us would be going to jail.
xLuckyxFridayx13x Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I think that it'd be a good idea to wait until you're 18, and if you two are still in love then you should try being together. By then you'll be an adult and you can see if he really wants to be with you to be with you or if he just wants sex.
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