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vulpix15 Featured By Owner May 31, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I know exactly how you feel....don't put up with it just ignore him, don't acknowledge him at all act like you can't hear/see him and if it gets to bad just leave the room, I have the same kinds of issues with my brother and I can't speak about it without crying which makes it impossible to tell my dad who is probably the only one that could talk/scare some sense into him
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fizzymoth Featured By Owner May 25, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
gosh dang it
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Surviveroflove Featured By Owner May 25, 2013
I can really relate to this. My step-father was a sergeant major so he is used to being in control. When I don't listen or talk back he gets in my face and it scares me. He is going through allot right now but he doesn't need to throw his pain at me. Im hurting to. She was his daughter but she was my sister to.
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oka415 Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
i can relate to this :(
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Thinker1988 Featured By Owner May 24, 2013
Break some stupid objects important for him. He can't just stop you from doing that, so he will have to reason.
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InsanelyCute Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Tell someone INSTANTLY, possibly someone who has the power to help but ANYONE supportive would be good for a start, also. Don't think it will stop. Mistreating you has obviously already become normality for him and that I believe means it will surely get worse. Much worse. So ACT UP right now.

All the best to you!
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hanciong Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
uumm have you tried to speak with your paents?
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minneyar Featured By Owner May 23, 2013
"Rarely hits me"? If he hits you at ALL, that is ILLEGAL. It's physical assault. I don't know why people handwave this and think it's not a big deal just because he's related to you. Talk to a teacher, or a counselor, and if they don't take it seriously, talk to the police. I guarantee his behavior will only get worse if you don't do anything -- and if he stops hitting you, it'll be because he's hitting somebody else.
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Bluejay607 Featured By Owner May 23, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Honey... take it from someone who has a abusive older brother who physically hits....

Get help right away don't wait any longer or it will get worst trust me I know what this feels like to have a brother that scares you to tears that makes you uncomfortable to be around or scared for your life.

A older brother should be a role model and like any sibling a friend you can go to not a person who makes you feel scared to be around. Tell someone for your safety don't be afraid to ask for help because you don't think they'll believe you get help. Get help it's the best you can do for both of you no sibling should ever have to endure this.

Also what I've learned over the years is when a brother or any sibling does this they're probably just hiding their emotions in ways like teasing, hitting, treats, ect.
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Umioko Featured By Owner May 22, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Please tell someone, for your safety. D:
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claymasey98 Featured By Owner May 22, 2013  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
Tell someone. You'll be glad you did.

Take it from a girl who knows. I have an orange ribbon for a reason.
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hawaii42612 Featured By Owner May 22, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
i think you should let the tears flow. more often than not, people worry about others when they're crying. very few people are that insensitive.
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samitheghost Featured By Owner May 21, 2013
Tell someone. No one should ever be afraid in their own home. Please, don't be afraid to speak up.
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KentaMaeba Featured By Owner May 21, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
It's an older brother's duty to look after and protect his siblings. We may tease each other, or bicker and argue over the most pointless things... but threaten? To the point where you're siblings are afraid of you?

UNACCEPTABLE.

Your brother sounds like the kind of person that wants power over others. Talk to someone. Don't be afraid of getting help. Never underestimate what friends, parents, and adults can do for you in your time of need. They're always there when you need them - you just need to make to first step.

If you're worried about getting attention, don't be.
What matters is being safe.
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jenmannemi Featured By Owner May 21, 2013
WHY DON'T THEY HAVE A THUMBS UP BUTTON ON DA
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jacob-reddinger Featured By Owner May 22, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
:iconthumbsupplz:
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jenmannemi Featured By Owner May 22, 2013
:D
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jacob-reddinger Featured By Owner May 22, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
the plz accounts are amazing! :)
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jenmannemi Featured By Owner May 23, 2013
Yes they are!
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Lulabys-Melody Featured By Owner May 21, 2013  Student General Artist
Tell someone and keep an eye for yourself. If you truly feel at risk, tell your parents, or even do a martial arts class.
CAREFUL, though. Brothers (particularly if he is bigger) tend to bully their siblings. That might just be his form of doing it (hell god knows Ive been terrified by mine more than enough times). But if you feel he's a genuine harm to you thats what you shoudl do. TELL people. Theres no shame in it and it doesnt make you an attention-seeker. And if it is that serious, if you honestly believe he could physically seriousl hurt you, that little bit of self defense goes a long way... pepper spray can do, too. ;)
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Solatoral Featured By Owner May 20, 2013
Talk to the school counsellor, if you have one.

Generally they're obliged to not divulge information/things you tell them. Though the one I had was awesome, her borderline was if someone (myself or other people) were in danger, she was allowed to break that obligation, so it's tricky, depending what situation you're in.

Honestly, up right ask him if he's serious or not. If you're too scared or you know for a fact he's dangerous, talk to someone. Whether it be the police, a trustworthy teacher, a cousin, someone you know you can trust. Find out what you need to do and get help or get out of there. Your safety is the most important thing.
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tricky213 Featured By Owner May 20, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Do what I did, break his nose
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Mothfrocks Featured By Owner May 20, 2013
Kill him and hide the body (◡‿◡✿)
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faff33 Featured By Owner May 20, 2013
From the book Fist, Stick, Knife, Gun by Geoffrey Canada: "If somebody fuck with you, bust their ass".
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confidenceAlive Featured By Owner May 20, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Get attention, because you need it. Talk to your parents about what's going on (if you can't talk to your parents, or they won't listen, go to another adult you can trust) Trying to get attention isn't wrong because the truth is, everybody needs attention and nobody should be ashamed of that. It isn't selfish, it's just one more thing you need to have a good, healthy, growing life. So don't be afraid to let them hear your cries for help. :hug:
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Da-Shadow-Dragon Featured By Owner May 20, 2013
well iv had this happen, sept iv been hit and so have my parents. i know the feeling of worrying if a threat is going to real, and some times it seems that you all alone with it. i sugest talking to the school conseler, that help me get the ball rolling, iv found everyone ends up forgetting what your going through after you leave school. so stop it early and fast and stand up for your self <3
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isabell93 Featured By Owner May 20, 2013
Brothers are just going through that time, my brother does that to me every day. It's just a part of life, just tell him he bother your, if he won't stop, ignore him. Stay far from him.
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InsanelyCute Featured By Owner May 24, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Err... you sound like this is normal and every brother does that. That is defenitely wrong. And to do nothing is the worst advice. Why should ignoring him help, the more, that he is not ignoring the secret teller. And how far can you stay away from someone who lives in your own household?
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isabell93 Featured By Owner May 24, 2013
You really shouldn't be rude by saying that my advice is the worst. Most brother do this, so it is normal. All of my friends have had this happen, and I have too. Plus, you can stay far because there's separate rooms in houses.
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InsanelyCute Featured By Owner May 26, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Sorry, I didn't mean to be rude. I did not mean it personally. But I don't think it is good to perceive such a behaviour as normal and just do nothing, basically. Because if you handle the matter by ignoring it, things stand a good chance to get worse. And you know, even if the behaviour of the brother will vanishe with time - WHY should the secret teller 13323 or ANYONE endure such a thing AT ALL? She or he is no punchingball and hoping it will stop one day is neither helpfull nor comforting, and therefore not advisable. She has to act up immediately!

Sorry again. I didn't mean to be offensive.
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SnowPhotography Featured By Owner May 20, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
I have known girls who said this but were doing it for attention...it wasn't real. So I really, really hope you are telling the truth.
I know that is not encouraging, but I'm just playing the devil's advocate here.
The girl I knew who did it was 2years younger than me in highschool, claimed her step-brother was raping her and beating her and abusing her, etc. She also claimed her mother was abusing her and that the family didn't care.
She would text myself and others randomly with things like "I woke up with no pants on this morning and don't know why". Stupid sh!t like that.
I took her seriously at first, as I also took her threats of suicide seriously. I was there for her, gave her advice, talked with her, listened, gave her all of the resources I could and just generally did my best to be there for her and be a good friend. Then I found out she was lying (she tripped herself up in it, and when I confronted her she first acted like it didn't just happen, when I kept up, she broke down and kept saying "don't bring that up" or "i don't know/don't want to talk about it" yet she'd always been super talkative about it before). I had had enough at that point and reported her threats of suicide, as well as the fact that she was claiming her brother was raping her, to her school counsellor. I also tried to contact her parents directly but they weren't home that particular morning.
I did check up later with both the school and her family however to make sure these issues weren't dismissed. The girl DID need help, but not for the reasons she claimed. She was cutting herself, she was depressed, and she was a little crazy. She needed help dealing with her issues and communicating with her family in a healthy manner instead of self harm and creating outlandish lies to get the attention she craved.
She was sent to an inpatient mental health facility for a week.
At first she was pissed at me of course. But after her stay at the hospital she thanked me and apologized. I cut off contact from her because the lies and issues still happened (at which point I would immediately contact her parents and let them know she was threatening this or that), she was just too much for me to deal with. I am not a psychologist, ya know?

But all of that being said. If you have a close friend you can talk to about it, who has witnessed it, can vouch for you, I would definitely discuss it with them. If you are telling the truth, it will show. Liars and attention seekers tend to be easy to spot against those who are being honest about these kinds of things.
It would also help to talk with your brother. I use to lash out at my brother when I was a lot younger (like 10ish) because family life was very, very chaotic for me, and he was too young to understand it. He became my easy target to yell at when I was frustrated. Of course I didn't keep it up, I matured and learned how to deal with it more appropriately and without inflicting my pain on others. It could be though that your brother is having similar issues and his pain is just pent up, so he takes it out on you.

Talk with a friend or close family relative (cousin, aunt, uncle, grandparents, parents, other siblings, etc), and to your brother if you can. If this is endangering your health, you need to bring it into the light faster and more directly though. (For instance, if my old friend really was being raped, she should have reported it as soon as possible, not joked about it and talked about it in a manner similar to what she had for breakfast...)

Best of luck to you.
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Aiyukilove7 Featured By Owner May 20, 2013
My brother was like that... he's probably using you as an outlet for what he's feeling that day. Perhaps you should try talking to him about why he's so stressed or what's bothering him. It might not work, but its worth a try.
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FrauAlanis Featured By Owner May 20, 2013  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
Please tell somebody who is neutral. A school teacher, maybe?
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sarkute56 Featured By Owner May 20, 2013
the thing about telling a teacher is that you may be uncomfretable about it, and it may be blown out of proportion by them. the only thing that teacher can do is contact the police, and i think whoever this is wants to fix it before it reaches that point. a would go with a family friend.
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WlfToboe Featured By Owner May 20, 2013
I did that once.. She told my parents, my parents yelled at me for making up lies about my brother, so the subject was dropped but whenever I pass my brother he threatens to hit me with something.. guess it's a joke, maybe he finds my flinching to be hilarious. Who Knows.
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LittleCharms Featured By Owner May 20, 2013  Student Artisan Crafter
Keep trying. Tell another teacher, this is a very real problem that could easily escalate.

you should not have to live like this, no one should. You can do something to change it, I strongly urge you to go to your school and explain to a teacher the situation.

If you are in the UK, I think your school is required to take some action. Please, please, please do not be afraid of your parents actions or what they will say.
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FrauAlanis Featured By Owner May 20, 2013  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
May I ask you how old you are? Maybe you should try to turn the situation around and stop talking to him at all. Show no reaction. Just let him feel that he does not exist for you at all. It might escalate - but you should maneuver him into an escalation that is recognized by your parents. If this does not help - you will move out in some years. You will ge along. Just hang on! *hugs*
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WlfToboe Featured By Owner May 22, 2013
I am 21, this has been going on since I was little. But it's kind of gotten better now ^^''
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FrauAlanis Featured By Owner May 22, 2013  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
That's good :)
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skyhightrain Featured By Owner May 20, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
I recognise this :(
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glassmagnolia Featured By Owner May 20, 2013  Hobbyist
I had a cousin that was like that to me when I was nine. He did some terrible things to me. It finally stopped when I stood up for myself but if you feel like you are legitimately in danger you need to talk to someone who can put a stop to him. I know I don't know you, but it feels like I know what you're going through. Message me if you need to talk.
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tabbycat1212 Featured By Owner May 20, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
If he's threatening you and making you cry, my friend, then I think you should tell someone about it. I know if I were to see someone crying, for any reason, I would ask them what was the matter. Legit tears are not simply for wanting attention. Their existence means that something's wrong.
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TBR-DA Featured By Owner May 20, 2013  Student Artisan Crafter
I have three brothers like that, they are nasty little shits. You can talk to me, I can keep a secret, plus it'd be good for me too.
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