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salty-dreams Featured By Owner May 14, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
sadlly it is always just one that feels this way...please, don't make my mistake, in fear of losing him i stuck around silent, big mistake, better to be honest and maybe have a chance then to humiliate yourself so greatly, and when emotions show it is no longer fwb, it is humiliation for the one who love
KaulitzWolf Featured By Owner May 13, 2013   Writer
When FWB becomes more than that to either of the people involved they should bring it up (outside the bedroom) and have an honest discussion with their partner. If the other person doesn't share that interest then the arrangement should be dissolved, but if both share those feelings then a more intimate relationship should be discussed.
Pyrosaitan1 Featured By Owner May 13, 2013
I have no idea what your talking about T_T
TMNTLeoLei03 Featured By Owner May 25, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Then don't say anything.
Pyrosaitan1 Featured By Owner May 25, 2013
Mind your own business
TMNTLeoLei03 Featured By Owner May 27, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Same with you, please.
Pyrosaitan1 Featured By Owner May 28, 2013
i have a right to comment, if i didn't then the comments would be disabled, now shoo
jessie0wessie Featured By Owner May 13, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I know what you mean....To the letter
lunasrl1 Featured By Owner May 13, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I was in a similar mindset like that ex and I both ended up having a crush on the same man. It was weird, but we were open and honest with each other and we'd giggle and what not...we basically crushed on him like he was just another celebrity, only he wasn't famous and we knew him.

We all became really close...then one day they started talking and asked me if I would agree to an open relationship, where Id let my ex date me and him. I agreed, because I wanted them to be happy and, really, I wanted to be as close to that man as I could...even if it hurt...

that was an incredibly painful and stupid decision on my poisoned my heart, my body, and I felt sick all of the I know how you're feeling now I think because while I don't know if you're in the same situation I was, it had similar effects on us based on your words...but for me it led to something greater~

Eventually I became included...and it was a nicer pain...and then eventually, through a lot of confusion, hurt, talking it over, and acceptance I ended up with the man I fell in love with and my ex and I became close friends~Im getting married this year to that same man~

Im not proud of some parts of that story, given I believe in monogamy...but in reality I wouldn't really change it...if I could change anything Id simply make it less painful for all of us if that was possible...but despite all of that I got a happy ending, which is pretty surprising...I fell in love with him at first sight but didn't realize it until later when I reflected...and luckily for me it was mutual~ (just like I let my ex be with him to be close to him, he dated my ex to be close to me lol...the irony...if only we'd simply told our feelings...)

But I only words for you are to talk to him. Get things clear. Tell him how you feel and don't hurt the way I did. Either this man loves you and will listen to you or you need to get out before your heart sinks lower and you hate yourself the way I had in the start of it all. Even if you situation is like what mine was, he's dating another person and you and you're letting it happen, it seems to me it's NOT the same because you love him. SO...tell your feelings, find out if they're worth investing further or find someone else to love. It hurts, but it hurts worse to let it go on...
And if it's a different situation altogether, my advice still stands. Talk to him and find out. You owe it to yourself and him to be honest.
DemonDarakna Featured By Owner May 12, 2013  Student
That's me 3 years ago. It didn't turn out well. For the relationship I was in. It turned out quite well for the friendship that grew because I respected his decision and wouldn't back off more than I needed to reach that.
glassmagnolia Featured By Owner May 12, 2013  Hobbyist
If it's making you unhappy it needs to stop. That simple.
Funneh Featured By Owner May 12, 2013
Wouldn't agree that FWB is always a bad idea, but it's not good when you're feeling like this. If you can keep your feelings out of it, it's fine.
But when things get messy and you start feeling used, it's best to confront them about it and leave.
If you're lucky, they feel the same way. If not, don't keep hurting yourself and cut it off.

I personally just.. have a way too high libido for my own good and don't really like randomly sleeping around, so having someone for casual sex is a great solution. But I always felt that if one of the two is getting uncomfortable with it, it's time to cut it off and move on.

Good luck :rose:
EnchantingPurity Featured By Owner May 12, 2013
Friends with benefits is not a good idea... It often goes wrong. Tell him and if he doesn't like you back: Leave and don't come back or else you'll suffer.
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