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DarkPika-Sama Featured By Owner Jun 13, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Friends don't treat friends like shit, especially best friends. Dump her and find other friends.
Surviveroflove Featured By Owner May 25, 2013
My life (and I am not joking at all) from first grade to about know. She is not a true friend. Try to find some other friends as you slowly distance yourself from her.
ThaliaAnderson Featured By Owner May 15, 2013
Secret Giver, I know exactly how you feel. Emotional and verbal abuse are real things; talk to someone (you can talk to me!) and try to get out of the sitatuation. Being alone is terrifying--I know; it's one of my worst fears. But, and I know it takes a long time to learn, being with someone who is involved with a "take all" friendship like that isn't healthy. If you ever, EVER, want to talk to someone, you can always message me. :heart: This was my life for five years before I let things change.
foreverremeberme Featured By Owner May 9, 2013
This is my situation completely o.O
siathedragon Featured By Owner May 12, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
i wanna be both you and that person's freind,im serios
foreverremeberme Featured By Owner May 9, 2013
This is my situation completely o.O
LonelyElementalKitsu Featured By Owner May 8, 2013
I understand completely how you feel. My 'best friend,' the first and only person I trusted did the same. I finally cut ties over an event four years ago, but it never stops hurting.

It is okay to be alone for a while. It hurts like hell and you just want to give up.
But you can make it through and in the process you will find true friends.

No matter what people may say, you are strong. Those who are broken are stronger than anyone else.
Eve1156 Featured By Owner May 8, 2013
I really hope that you read this ST. But I've felt the same way too. Throughout my life, my friends have been my bullies. There's a fine line between joking around and verbal abuse. And don't take any of it. I'd love to be your friend and support you if you PM me or contact me anyway.

I hope things get better. <3
nuazka Featured By Owner May 8, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
:iconiknowthatfeelplz: You're not alone ST...
AshesAndWings Featured By Owner May 7, 2013  Student General Artist
That's not a friend. That's a jerk and you should have better. Everyone does. Everyone needs someone to trust and lean on :) no worries. I'm sure you'll find them. Or, who knows, they just might find you. Just don't give up hope, okay? You'll be alright.

P.S. your not alone :)
OverlordChaos Featured By Owner May 7, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I had the exact same feelings you had when I was deciding to end my friendship with a guy I was friends with at elementary school and when I ended our friendship in high school it was a sad at first and then I got relief, so my advice is that you must overcome that fear of being alone and tell your friend how you really feel about her and ask her to stop it and later if she stops doing these things or at least she is trying to stop then you should keep her but if she keeps doing these things even though she knows they hurt you then you have to end it right there and while it won't be completely easy it will feel better as time has passed. :D
ATreeFullOfStars Featured By Owner May 7, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
What you have described is not a friend. What you've described is a bully and an abuser. The hugest lie they make you believe is that you can't make it without them--that they're the only one who wants to be your friend, that you need them, that they care about you most and if you reject them there's something wrong with you. It's a LIE. Get away from her. She's poison.
Raye89 Featured By Owner May 7, 2013
She is not a friend, and being alone would be better than enduring her verbal abuse.

You will not be alone however, there are so many people out there to befriend, all you have to do is try. Look for groups that share a common interest, and go from there. There are all kinds of people, it's nearly impossible to not have at least one thing in common with anyone else.
AerithEchidna4rt Featured By Owner May 7, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Aaww :'(
confidenceAlive Featured By Owner May 7, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I think a lot of people can say they know someone that is like that, or that takes advantage of them. You don't have to be afraid of being alone, there are lots of people out there that would love to know you. Me, for instance. You've just got to find us (and that isn't too hard especially if you're confident and secure in yourself).

You're brave to have taken this step to admit what she's done to you, and I acknowledge that; it's a good step. But the next step is to make it known to her. Don't put up with it - that doesn't necessarily mean just walking away (but you might need to later). Talk to her about what you're feeling (if you haven't already). If you have, talk to her again. Be completely honest, but also sensitive to her. Everything you mentioned that she does are all just symptoms of a deeper problem--she's just like the rest of us and she may be hurting too. See what happens after that, but be prepared to be able to walk away if she understands and acknowledges what you've said and still won't treat you better. Because you deserve so much more <3

:hug: You're not alone any more <3
ultimatebookworm Featured By Owner May 7, 2013  Hobbyist
It's the same here. Don't worry. Try to make other friends. Don't get rid of her, but make sure she knows you aren't dependant on her.
Ty1610 Featured By Owner May 7, 2013
your not alone hon
Ieitmotif Featured By Owner May 7, 2013
:iconiknowthatfeelplz: I know a friend of mine exactly like this to me...
BlazeFireWolf1 Featured By Owner May 7, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
She isn't your friend. Ditch the bitch,you can always make new friends. I've met so many people like that in the past and eventually I learned my lesson. First time people start to bring up that shit and act like that,the best thing you can do for yourself is cut them out of your life.
Maybe this is good advice,maybe this is bad advice,but it works for me *shrug*
Crystal-Firefly Featured By Owner May 7, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
This is not a "friend", but only someone you know. Friends don't do that.
Thesedays the word friend is to easily said to anybody we now and only little people seem to know what that really means. I think it would be better for you to be without her. Don't be afraid of being alone. It's better to be alone than to have a lot of people around you who hurt you. Maybe you come along much better than they. Don't make yourself dependend of such people. They want that. And when they see you cling to them, just not to be alone, they do such things an go on and go on, because they know you accept that they do that to you. Maybe you should give it a try to be without her, so she someday realizes that things she does has consequences. She also needs people but only to push herself over them, to feel better or stronger by using other peoples weaknes. That's or strengh and absolutely no friendship!
halperin98 Featured By Owner May 7, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
You're not alone... You've got your family and dA friends, don't you? -And don't even think of thinking 'no, I don't'
You're dA friends may not know you in real life, but that doesn't mean a thing! Got that?! :)
XUhuruX Featured By Owner May 7, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That doesn't sound like a best friend. You know what they say? It's better to be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone.
I have a friend like this and I'm dealing with the same problem. One week ago, I was feeling down. Because I was very sad, I wanted to ask my best friends for help. But do you know what she said? She said: "If you don't stop whining about your stupid problems you will loose us, you will loose your best friends, and you won't make any new ones either because of your behavior!" She even pulls my other best friends at her side. So I had to act like I'm happy, even though inside I was dying, just so I can't loose my only best friends I have..
I'd say you go and talk to your 'best' friend about her behavior. Tell her what bothers you. If she IS a friend, she WILL understand.
huzkieee Featured By Owner May 7, 2013
Dear. That is not a true friend. A true friend is a person who is there for you. Who listen to you. Who gives you advices. Who helps you. Who loves you for who you are.
A person who is like that... That is thumbs down. Sorry dear but that it's not a friend at all.
You should try to make some new friends, real friends.
And if you continue like this that you is with her and she is still like this... Then you maybe will get in some problems, big problems. So talk with her kindly and tell her how you feel. If she doesn't listen or still hurts you, then don't be friend with her anymore. She should understand how good you are. She should see how wonderful you are when she has lose you. Try to make some friends. Just be yourself and people who accept you for who you are... They are friends.
Pyrosaitan1 Featured By Owner May 7, 2013
That isn't a friend, that's an abusive dick, sorry but if that's your only friend left you don't have any friends left
Youna13 Featured By Owner May 6, 2013  Student Photographer
Dear Sweetheart, this person doesn't is a friend.I know it is hard to be alone, but this way her behavior will hurt you always more then being alone for a time. And there are persons out there only waiting for you to come to them. They would take you always in their arms. These people are really living in the world.
But it's not okay to suffer from her. She only use you.
You should really talk to her - gentle of course - and tell her about what you feel and think about the whole situation, and if she then shouldn't see how much your hurt then, you should let her go - even if it's hard.
Johnson1414 Featured By Owner May 6, 2013
"once I thought end up alone wasn't the worst thing that could happen in life...
but it isn't, because the worst thing that can happen in life is to end up with people that make you feel al alone..."

this is a quote that is posted on my profile and I think you can have something to maybe...

I hope you do because I have had the same thing so many times in life

just listen to your heart
Firnen99 Featured By Owner May 6, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
This is hapening to me know :(
knightarkness Featured By Owner May 6, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I agree with the others here. She is NOT a true friend. A true friend is someone who is there for you. Someone who stands up for you when you need help, and comforts you in the time of need. THAT is a true, true friend.

I've had an experience like this. When I was in fifth grade, I had a secret crush that only my friends knew of. I could be with her at recess, and it wouldn't be awkward. Right before my P.E. class one day, I told someone I used to be friends with about it. By the end of my 45 minute P.E. period, I was being told by one of my REAL friends that the one I told about it told my crush, and then tried to make me think it was my friend who told her! Next thing I know, I'm being told by my crush herself that that it was the guy I told right before P.E. that told her, and I'm running off embarrassed.

Now, if you read all that, my advice to you is:
Get that jerk out of your life.
Try to make some new friends, ones that you know will be true friends. I had to go through like, half or more of my elementary life with hardly any friends, with gossip and rumors going around about me(if I'm remembering right). I had major problems with depression in fourth and fifth grade. When I got into seventh grade, my first period was P.E. and I spent the whole period talking to this one kid(who swears WAY to much...)everyday because, like you, I was afraid of being alone(I think, my memory is horrible...). And then someone decided to say I was homosexual and dating this guy. And THAT, my friends, is why it's good to be alone sometimes.

Sorry, I just started rambling right there, didn't I? That's a problem of mine...
LovesToGiggle Featured By Owner May 6, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Go out into the world and start chatting it up with new people! If there's a store or something you go to often, talk to the employees. If you're shy it's probably easier said than done, but if you don't want to be alone, take initiative and find new friends, rather than waiting for them to find you. Your friend isn't a real friend if she does all of those things to you. Honestly, it would probably be better to be alone than to constantly put up with that. Maybe not, but you still shouldn't take any of that from her. Good luck!
Pascal93 Featured By Owner May 6, 2013  Student Filmographer
oh my ;o;
I used to be in the same situation, I just didn't talk to her anymore, I was terrified of being Alone myself, but that isn't really as painful as having someone like her as a friend.
Time flew and I didn't become alone again, I had new irl and online friends.
I can be your friend if you want :3
EmeraldChaosSith Featured By Owner May 6, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
She's not your friend, she's using you to make herself feel better. Not to sound mean, but if she treats you this way then you already are alone, and you're doing just fine! So I say leave her, she doesn't deserve to have friends.
norbertrox Featured By Owner May 6, 2013  Student General Artist
I want to hug this person so much.
Don't feel alone.
Being friends with an unkind person is more lonely than being by yourself.
And when you're by yourself you meet other alone people to be together with.
Have hope in humanty, you deserve better friends in your life.
That dosnt mean to cast out your old friend, just realize that she's hurtful.
ColorKunoichi Featured By Owner May 6, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
We have the same fear. I hate being alone. My friends don't do anything mean but I'm too scared of saying something that will cause them to stop being friends with me that I don't say anything and they say that I'm a little weird for that, but, I found that confiding in some people who are willing to listen really helps! Best of luck to you. I wish I could do more to help.
KalineReine Featured By Owner May 6, 2013  Professional Writer
That does not sound very much like a best friend to me. If it were me, I'd end the friendship. Real friends will always treat you right. I mean, everyone has their off days but if there is no good reason for it and she's doing it all the time... Then it may be time to say goodbye.

My best friend of 14 years and I ended our friendship. I thought I'd never make new friends, but... I did. :D And they are awesome. I wouldn't trade them for anything in the world. :heart: Don't think she is the only best friend you'll ever have. There may be someone amazing just waiting out there to be friends with you and treat you right.
ChiyoR Featured By Owner May 6, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
chudmasta Featured By Owner May 6, 2013
that blue font!
KaitlynChipmunk0321 Featured By Owner May 6, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
My closest and longest best friends have come to think it a good idea to put me down in front of people all the time (like yours it seems) but when it's just us one-on-one they're all nice. I've had to talk to another good friend of mine and it turns out she's having the same problem with some of he same people. I'm having to pray long and hard about how to handle it but I still feel like they love me so I want to try and work it out.
Your friend may be like mine. She have a harsh personality and it might just be how she plays. If you haven't told her how you feel yet, you need to. She probably doesn't realize it's hurting you and, if she's a good friend, she'll fix herself. If not, you need to find someone that won't make you feel that way. Peace and blessing my dear <3
TheYomonalol Featured By Owner May 6, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Don't feel so alone... Something such as trust is hardly earned these days, try establishing new bonds by experimenting with other people. Then... Well... It's all you from there on.
Movushi Featured By Owner May 6, 2013
I have a friend like that, she doesn't insult me, but she ignores me. I really do feel lonely
Mokalynn Featured By Owner May 6, 2013
I use to feel the same way then I ended my friendship with her and gained a bunch of better friends who did listen to me.
taylove14 Featured By Owner May 6, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
thanks. <:3
MaliceTheHedgehog Featured By Owner May 6, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Bro you should NOT have to put up with that! I'll be your friend just so you don't have to deal with an ass like that!
tavros12 Featured By Owner May 6, 2013  Hobbyist
amaimonl Featured By Owner May 6, 2013
same for me. i thought i was alone in my school but now i met a group of kids alot like me. and more kids online alot like me. people say they act fake on the computer but most of the time they show them true selves more than they do their imaginary selves
tavros12 Featured By Owner May 7, 2013  Hobbyist
whana be friends :3
amaimonl Featured By Owner May 7, 2013
...of course!
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PhoenixOfWildfires Featured By Owner May 6, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I'm in a situation a bit like this... My friend doesn't do anything mean to me, but she keeps ignoring me, and she's the only one that I truly have...
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