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:iconkrumgirl:
KrumGirl Featured By Owner May 5, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
U love sex... so what? Enjoy it and don’t let stupid labels like “slut” stop u.

Honestly I wish I was more like you, I would give almost anything to be in your position. I don’t enjoy sex... ever.

No matter how many people I have slept with (to this day men: 17 women: 9) or how many positions I have tried (I think I’ve exhausted the whole hetero and les Kama sutra) I just don’t enjoy it.

I’m good in bed and I know it (it might sound arrogant, vane or conceited but I don’t really care) but no matter what I do I can never please myself.

I feel great when my bed partner has a great time but this is a purely egotistical satisfaction. I don’t feel ANYTHING when I sleep with other people. No arousal, no desire, no love, no grossness (believe me I’ve tried things others find shameful just to see if I could feel something) no hate… nothing but cold, distant, indifference.

So again… dont punish yourself for loving sex. PLEASE ENJOY IT, you have no idea how blessed you are.
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icebluemusic Featured By Owner May 4, 2013
If the secret teller still reads the comments (if they ever did), there's a movie called Diary of a Nymphomaniac. It's Spanish/French, and quite amazing.
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DubstepCat Featured By Owner May 2, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Calling people things like "slut," or "whore," are ridiculous.
Those are just useless labels.
Don't let them get to you.
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Siestalan Featured By Owner May 2, 2013
Don't let stupid labels define who you are. All that matters is that you're proud to be who you are and happy with your life - and if not, you got the courage to post this here, so you should have the courage to change your life to something you want it to be. The word "slut" is just an insult, another label people invented to make others feel bad or put them into a category. It's completely meaningless, believe me ^__^
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mehpinkgirlie Featured By Owner May 2, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
You have courage to send such a secret.

I mean, look at the furore you have created with just eleven words. If that isn't creative then I don't know what it. Ignore the drama and the 'slut-shaming'.

I understand that this kind of secret is divulged with personal trauma. I know that there are connotations with the words you used, but I feel that the real worry is that you have used this words to describe yourself and you are out there somewhere punishing yourself for being a nymphomaniac and feeling like the world may begin to perceive you as a slut. All that counts is the person you face up to every day in the mirror - don't punish yourself with derogatory terms. Always remember that if you don't like the person you see staring back at you, you can always make a change in your life. Chin up hunni, you'll get through it :) xx
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Greed-kun Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
Whenever I see someone call someone a "slut" or be ashamed because someone called them one or are afraid to be called one, I always thing to myself: "What's wrong with expressing your sexuality? If that's what deems someone a slut, then I'm the biggest slut of them all, and I'm proud of it."
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ThoughtWanderer Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013
The term "slut" was invented to make women feel miserable and control their sexuality. It's an artificial distinction. It can't define you once you realize how meaningless it is.
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KeganVfar Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
There is nothing sluttish about wanting or enjoying sex. If you want it, take it, and don't heed those who would call you a slut.
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JackzRagdoll13 Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Student General Artist
Being a 'slut' is a social construct that was made up to make women feel bad about themselves. If you are a consenting adult that has sex with other consenting adults and enjoy sex, I say embrace it and have fun because you are doing nothing wrong. Let no one tell you otherwise.
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:iconlady---vengeance:
Lady---Vengeance Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
You're not the only one, don't worry! From my experience most guys PREFER nymphos.
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:iconemoxchica:
emoXchica Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
Your signature in this context just made me laugh really hard. :P
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SirRinge Featured By Owner Sep 3, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
Hahahahha... You're skills of observation are awesome...
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:iconlady---vengeance:
Lady---Vengeance Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
Oh man, I didn't realise! :rofl:
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TrollGirl Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
Nothing wrong with being a slut, and people who use it in derogatory sense need to be beaten with a bible into a coma...
You go girl. Protect yourself, and have fun, you deserve to.
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Broken-Heart-Girl16 Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm the same way. The only difference is I don't care if people call me a whore I know I am. But if you don't want to be something(like a slut) then your not a slut.
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Hachimenroppi-kun Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Sex can be addiction just like computer, alcohol or drugs. And like any other addiction it can be cured. Don't be ashamed - you're not the only one with that problem. Find a therapy and let people help you.
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MitzuSojaki Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Just because you are a nymphomaniac doesn't mean you have to have more sex partners. Even if a eventual boyfriend don't satisfies you enough, you don't have to be unfaithful or have an open relationship. I don't see how you can even set up nymphomania with slutness. In my head, it doesn't have anything to do with each other.
It's hard. It can be really hard if your sexdrive is to damn high for your partner. But it's worth it if you're in love.
*Hm* And masturbation takes the top of it.

As always I apologize for the bad English
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xXNibiNoNekoXx Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013
SEXUALITY ISN'T BLACK AND WHITE! xD Don't think you have to fit into the cookie cutter, "monogamous, straight relationship." That may work for some people really well, some one like me, but not for others and that's perfectly fine.

I've heard that some people will have "group marriages", also known as polyamory. Pretty much it means that a group of people will accept to only having sex within the group, it helps with not catching diseases if everybody's tested. Or you could just go into relationships where the other person is aware and agrees that it's an open relationship, that they're not the only person that you'll be having sex with. But if you don't want relationships at all, that's perfectly fine too!

At the end of the day, just make sure the guys are wrapped up, you're on birth control and the people you have sex with are tested. Just because society tries to shove it down your throat that having sex with a bunch of people is wrong, doesn't mean as such. Do what makes you happy, but do it safely.
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Lucky-Rainbow Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I really want to ask if its okay then for a man to sleep around with multiples after being married. Or vice versa.

But then again, I will probably be bombarded with bitter hateful answers. I sure as hell don't find being unfaithful moral.
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Filicia-A-Lovelace Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
There are some kind of sluts out there who are perfectly okay with it (and with the term).
If you're not you should keep that in mind at least.

It doesn't matter what people call you, be who you are and show your feelings an thoughts openly to your partner.
That's the only chance we have, since everything else would break us down one day.

And honestly: What exactly is a slut to you?
Think about that question, before worrying that much.
What do you want to be and what does that term mean to you?

I know it's not easy, I'm in an quite confusing situation too. Things are about to change when recognizing you're different.

Keep your head up! Don't let yourself be afraid of who you are.
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peachshark Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
reading the comments, i think i only have one thing to say, and it's a quote -
"Really? Forty? Okay, let's just say I have banged forty guys. What's the problem? You're just jealous 'cause you've been brainwashed by puritanical assholes who believe sex is a sin. Then again, your little... gerbil-sized brain has been reprogrammed by the media to believe sex is the be-all, end-all. So now you're stuck, right? 'Cause on one hand, you love to fuck, but afterwards you feel overwhelmed by guilt and you're not sure why. Maybe it's because sex is neither as good or as evil as you've built it up to be."

to the secret teller; nymphomania is a disorder, not a way of saying you love sex. if you do believe you are suffering from nymphomania, my advice would be to seek professional help! but that's sort of the obvious thing, haha...

and my personal opinion - it's no one's place to tell you what you should or shouldn't do with your body, or who you do, or how many you do - just be safe, healthy,consensual, and happy!
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Mikhanator Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
lol okay. Good luck with that?
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:iconnicolebaroudi:
nicolebaroudi Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Good job on the piece of shit you call art. It was quite a lot of work wasn't it?
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mangagirl1357 Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Technically, typography is considered to be an art form. :)
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PiluncraeshgT Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013
Ouch, insulted by a girl who's accomplished a whole photograph in the year she's been a deviant, and who has so few friends in real life that all she has to do in a spare time is patrol dA searching for artwork she doesn't approve of.

That has to hurt.
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:iconnicolebaroudi:
nicolebaroudi Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
1st of all I think you missed the point... this isn't artwork in the first place therefore it has no purpose of being here. 2nd, I had many other drawings and pictures on here that I didn't need anymore so I deleted them. 3rd, lol I have many friends thanks :)
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PiluncraeshgT Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013
Of course it has a purpose being here. It's here for the purpose being here. Like everything in DAS, it's here To express a person's most intimate feelings, something that's difficult knowing that the internet is full a bunch of judgemental pricks.
I might not be the sistine chapel ceiling, but anything that expresses part of a person's soul is art.
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NairdaCordova Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Seriously? Why are you calling them out for, this is a 'group' meant to help people.
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dhxjcrd Featured By Owner May 1, 2013
Don't feed the trolls hun! D:
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nicolebaroudi Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
This is an art website not Facebook or tumblr. That's why :) I really don't see why they had to make an art website account because having a Facebook account wouldn't be much different. People work very hard to achieve the front page and they go ahead and type a few words on a background, sometimes they even have spelling and grammar errors. They don't deserve being on the front pages when there are many artist working their asses of to get there.
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Semeiya Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I you have a issue with these being on the front page, go rant to the staff. People can do what they like on DA. These people have chosen to make an account that people can submit secrets to and, occasional, seek help. There's no need to be nasty. If you ahve nothing nice to say... Shut up :)
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Likethenight94 Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
What's the point of posting this? It's a SECRET. It doesn't have to be a drawing or a picture. A lot of these are just text posts.
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nicolebaroudi Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Exactly. They always post text which isn't art. I bet you agree that having a Facebook account would be the same thing. This is an art website where people work very hard to achieve the front page and they don't work at all. That's what pisses me off. You may want to ask what the point of posting these texts are because it has nothing to do with art, they don't even work on them and they're not even their ideas.
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Likethenight94 Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
But the whole point of this is to have an anonymous place to tell a secret. I don't care if it's a text post or not. Sure, some of them are pretty much the same but let them do what they want. It's supposed to help people feel better and you're not helping. If you don't like it you can ignore it and focus on where the art is. Doesn't mean you have to insult the poster.
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windycarnage Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
there is no such thing as a slut. its a made up notion
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Skelly-Bone Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013
Slut doesn't really have any place in the dictionary, we all have different opinions... so a slut is different to everybody.
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NoxInEralon Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Slut-shaming is a terrible thing that's used to control people and make women feel bad about having sex with lots of people. If a man has sex with a lot of women he's rewarded by society, and that's a terrible double standard. What you do in the bedroom, how often, and with whom is your own business and anyone who thinks otherwise can shove off. You have a condition that's valid, and recognized by mental health experts, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! Besides, if you're really that afraid then it's easy to use a variety of other methods to keep your urges in control, and there is nothing wrong with that either. You'll be just fine, I promise :)
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Mooki-Blaylock Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Professional General Artist
yes I completely agree and this is exactly what I told my sister after she submitted this secret. Her name is anabelle she's my sister
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1andonlycrazist Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013
I don't really understand this worry. The word 'slut' is just a term people use to label anything outside their perceived 'normal' behavior. Being ashamed of who you are and what you enjoy is as useless as a mule with a needle and thread.
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JohnWRoberts Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Professional Filmographer
Its okay. We are all addicts to something. Like me, I'm a coffee addict.
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JohnWRoberts Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Professional Filmographer
nymphomaniac
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:iconlovesatellite:
LoveSatellite Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Nothing wrong with being a slut.
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Moon-Phace Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
I feel like the words "nymphomaniac" and "slut" are pretty loaded, if incorrectly used, words here.
1. If you're really afraid that you might have a sex addiction issue (like, you crave sex but take so satisfaction from it, put yourself in risky situations in order to get sex, etc.), seek counseling because that's a disorder.

2. If however, you just really like sex and like having multiple sexual partners, all while keeping yourself physically and emotionally safe, fuck haters and do what you want. (Don't literally fuck them though because they're icky--disregard haters)
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Vladimir-Valentine Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
Then get help before you become a slut :I there's too many of those out there that need to disappear
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vajrasana Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Slut is just a nasty word to degrade women (and sometimes men) for being comfortable with their own sexuality.
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Vladimir-Valentine Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
I would disagree....
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vajrasana Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Ok, I don't know how you want me to respond to that. You have given me literally nothing to debate with you other than you have disagree with my statement. The fact that you have given me so little to work with is disconcerting. I don't see the point in you replying to me if that's all you had to say. I'll sleep easier now knowing that ~Vladimir-Valentine disagrees with me on the subject of slut-shaming.
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Vladimir-Valentine Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
It's not really a debate, and you don't need to get snippy in your tone either. It's a simple comment that doesn't need to be debated. I disagree. The word slut is only nasty to those it isn't true for however if a woman presents herself as a slut and acts accordingly, then she is. I've been around enough sluts to know that there's no pride in being one. Running around having sex with who knows how many people isn't an accomplishment. Just shows that you don't really care for yourself and that you can't hold a relationship or commitment either.
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vajrasana Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
"It's not really a debate..." Yet you proceeded to tell me your opinion for what reason again? If you didn't want to debate why would you even reply to me? "...you don't need to get snippy with your tone either" Um, ok if you chose to read my response as "snippy" that's your own problem. Your the one who replied to me in the first place, if you don't like how I'm responding you can simply stop replying back to me.

"Acts accordingly" acts like what? She has sex with multiple partners? She doesn't marry the first guy she has sex with? she enjoys her body? Shows her shoulder or cleavage? None of these things really sound like something a person needs to be insulted over.

"I've been around enough sluts to know that there's no pride in being one." It sounds like you have a personal problem, you should talk the people you have an issue with rather than generalizing every woman who dares to have sex with more than one person.

Men do the exact same things as women, having sex with multiple partners, and they are paraded as being a "ladies man" or a "pimp". It's something they are proud of. Who cares if you have sex with a lot of people? Does it hurt anyone? No. "you can't hold a relationship or commitment either." Maybe they don't want a relationship, did you ever think of that? If they are in a committed relationship and have sex with someone outside of that relationship, that doesn't make them a "slut" that makes them an adulterer/cheater which is a different subject.

Sex is a natural thing, it feels good and as long as you're not forcing someone else to participate what you do in your bed is between you and your partners and no one else.

If it's not hurting you then why should you try to hurt a women who is just enjoying a part of her body that she was born with by using an insult?
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