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phantomdragons Featured By Owner Jul 7, 2013
be careful.
Role121EXE Featured By Owner May 9, 2013  Hobbyist Filmographer
Just be careful.
GalooGameLady Featured By Owner May 6, 2013  Student Filmographer
That's fine, my fiancÚ lives a continent away. If you love each other enough, distance shouldn't be a problem.
MissRaz Featured By Owner May 5, 2013  Student General Artist
mine is a time zone away he is wonderful i LOVE him so much he is my first love and i hope he will be my last love we have been together for a year and a half now and we adore each other i wont lie to you i CRY a lot randomly just because i miss him so much and when i cry i long for him to hug me and tell me its ok however even though he would and has told me he wishes he could he can't but i can only imagine how wonderful and amazing it will be when we will finally get to see each other

however please make sure the relationship is appropriate for me he is 18 and i am 16 there is only a year and 3/4 gap between us age dosen't matter when you are older however when you are young and inexperienced it matters a hole lot
AnimalAmelia16 Featured By Owner May 4, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
No... :( No in is not...
SheWolf1937 Featured By Owner May 3, 2013  Student Digital Artist
no,is not ok :(
DubstepCat Featured By Owner May 2, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
It's perfectly fine. Nobody can stop you from having a relationship, as long as you're happy!
Miharu-Lawliet Featured By Owner May 1, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
It is perfectly fine in my eyes. Especially since I am going through this as well at the moment. But I'm sure the reasons that your not supposed to be with him and the reasons that I'm not are totally different.
RavynRaver Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I have always felt the only way to truly know someone for their quirks is to meet online. Some of my best relationships, I never even hugged them. My best friend (who I've known since I was 13... I'm now going on 22) and I have never met in person. As long as you are being safe, and you KNOW this person is real (Skype helps!), then why would it be bad?
ArtAghedaTodd Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013
Look, I usually take things to the level of FIGHT. But here, I'm lost.
sachcell Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013  Hobbyist
Can you clear up how you're dating if you can't meet up? Otherwise I think even though it can be difficult friendships over long distances can be just as good as friends close to you, but it's important to meet him in person before taking it to the next level. Just to get a feel for him you know?
GivenFateAngelHeart Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013
I'm dating someonewith atime difference of 6 hours. Darling, it's okay. Whether or not youre "supposed" to have a boyrfriend or not? Thats your choice. Your life. If you really care about him, and he does for you, than whats stopping the relationship? I'm just happy you found someone with a mental connection rather than just a physical one. Not many people get that <3
Angelalala923 Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Student Interface Designer
Many internet relationships last because you're in love with the IDEA of this person and the IDEA of this relationship, instead of knowing if you're actually in love with the person.
Often times, people meet and it's nothing like what they thought it'd be. You imagine it to be everything you've ever wanted. Online/texting/even phone calls are easy...there's still so much you can hide =/
The-Lost-Hope Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Student General Artist
Careful he is what you think he is and not a weirdo.
Guriguripang Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013
I just have to tell you. Becareful
There are a lot of cases like that. But since you're on internet, you never know what he may be thinking.
But on the other hand, he may love you as well :) it's a hard thing really.
ApocalypticParadox Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I have a bit of experience with Internet dating. When I was a few years younger than I am now, I fell in love with some guy on the Internet. He told the truth about some things (we Skyped a few times), but I began to suspect he was lying about some other things, which is why I'm no longer with him.

I could give you all kinds of warnings about Internet relationships, but it's all stuff you've heard before and nobody wants to hear that again and again. What I will say is this: being with someone in real life, being next to them on a daily basis, to touch or just be around and have fun with, is much different than being on the Internet. You can learn so much about someone from nonverbal communications, and learning their little habits, the way they speak, and just the way they act in general isn't something you can learn from living far away from them. My Internet relationship took an awkward turn the first time I Skyped him, because I had expected him to sound a little different, and the fluctuations of his voice, as well as the way he gesticulated, told me he was a different person than the one I'd been imagining. Is this a bad thing? No, but it took me a while to match the person I had in my head to the one who really existed. I even asked myself, is this the boy I fell in love with? And I scribbled in my journal an idea, "Imagine loving someone you weren't even sure existed."

I know there have been plenty of relationships online that work out, and others that don't, so it all depends on the way you handle it. I'm in a relationship in real life right now, and I can definitely tell which one I prefer. Everyday I'm grateful I can be with her in person, as opposed to the last one, in which I grew so paranoid that I wasn't around to make sure he really loved me. There was a whole part of his personality I didn't know, but it wasn't his fault. There's just a limit to what you can say on the Internet.

As for not being allowed to have one, well... I can kind of relate, once again. Let me just say that I'm sure one day, the time will come to tell them, and you'll know it's the right time. Your parents should know eventually, but I understand that it's hard to let your parents in on a secret you don't want them to know, and one they wouldn't approve of. I wish I had told mine, though. They wouldn't have approved, but they could have helped me either prepare to meet him in person, or get out of that relationship (probably the latter, but you never know!).
ThelordofallReturn Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013
You are probably young then, so don't count on it yet, a serious relationship is something you have to wait a few years with, also. I meet my mate over the net we lived far away but fell in love the first day we meet in real life. It is not a bf until you have actually meet and confessed your feelings my friend. Wait a few years :)
emoturtlefrk Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
it's perfectly fine honey :heart: it's perfectly normal :)
ThousandCookie Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013   Digital Artist
Half the time the issue with a boyfriend/girlfriend to parents is the physical side of it. So I guess you don't have to worry about it for the time being.

Don't pressure yourself too much. I kind of had an online relationship when I was younger (fifteen? sixteen?), people guessed at it (not that it was obvious, they were making the most random links), otherwise didn't tell anyone, it ended. Moved on, we never got to meet, though we might do one day as we're still friends and have known each other for eight years or something cray-cray. Glad I didn't tell anyone bar those who knew him online anyway, and in retrospect, telling didn't really matter too much. Just pointing that out, as that's another thing you'll probably be worrying about.

Otherwise, it's okay. It'll help develop your character a little bit. If the best comes of it, you might have a long-term partner, in which case it'd be best to let other people know. =P
Forest-skunk Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Student Artist
Do what your heart says. If you really love him, you'll take the risk. I know exactly how you feel
hellhound249 Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Student Photographer
Hun, only you can tell whether it's right. I'm not telling you to ignore those who have authority over you. What I am saying is that only you can have thoughts and feelings that occur in your mind. So it should be your choice.

I will say that I went through this a few months ago. It didn't end well, but I believe if you truly love him, then it will work out.
SnapWolf Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
If you are "not supposed" to have a boyfriend, chances are you are too young to really understand and have love.
lloya012 Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013
I'm kind of in the same situation.. Sorta. 'Tis horribly complicated.

But I hope you two stay strong ^^
LaceyCheshireGrin Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I'm dating someone on the completely other side of the world, going strong for almost two years, and we met right here on dA, of course it's ok!! ^w^
Ali2you Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013
Exactly my situation xD
Met my boyfriend online and he's 3/4 hours ahead of my time zone
My religion doesn't allow me to have a boyfriend, but I love him dearly x3
Please live in happiness :3
Weresquirrel94 Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Honey, I'm no less than nine time zones away from my (also first) boyfriend and if my family saw him, they would most likely not allow us to date either. :) It's perfectly alright. We have our rough patches, but we've been together for just about a year now, and this summer, he's flying over from California to see me.
If you're a good match, it'll work out just fine. :)
Audisey Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Student General Artist
I've been judged by my best friends about my long distance relationship with someone several years older than me. If you're happy and you know the person well, then why should it matter to anyone else? Keep on loving, Anonymous. You deserve to be happy as long as you're careful.
Yes it is the same thing happened to me
emoXchica Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
If you're comfortable with it, Skype calling can be a good way to get to know someone without as big a risk as meeting them in person.They may still not be 100% who they are, but at least they won't be hairy 50 year old men? hehe

I was in a LDR (opposite sides of the US) with a guy who was 11 years older than me for two years. We never met in person, but it was the best relationship I've had. :)
arcanehalo Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Student General Artist
I hope so. Let's just be careful, and give it our best
Funneh Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013
Just make sure you're careful.
Enjoy the things you have now. LDRs are hard, but they can work.

But, as people already mentioned, make sure they are who they claim to be. And if you end up meeting them, have people know where you are.
You may be head over heels, but you never truly know the other person's intentions.
Meet up in a public space, see if everything feels okay. And have someone know where you are, or even come with you.

The people I've met have always been great in real life too, but better safe than sorry.

For the rest, judging by the "not supposed to have a relationship", you may be young. My first BF was somewhat online too (though we met up and were only like, 2 - 3 hours apart). But it's a pretty nice way to become more comfortable about relationships, figure out what you want, talk about feelings to them. I know I grew more confident thanks to that relationship even though we were hardly ever together. I've learned so much from my online friends (or more than friends ;)).

Just make sure you're comfortable and safe, and enjoy <3 :rose:
DawntheHedgie Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013
As I give this advice, keep in mind I don't know how old you are or what your situation is.

Um, if your parents don't want you to be in a relationship, it can be understandable. It may get in the way of other parts of your life if you can't handle it maturely enough. But the fact is that you have feelings for this boy.

My best advice for you is to enjoy your emotions for him. Don't consider it a 'relationship', just dating. Remember, dating doesn't mean you're in a relationship, necessarily. Also, maybe for now, like :iconkristenblue: suggested, it doesn't have to even be dating. Take things easy. Don't rush into it.

For the time zone issue, set up a specific time that you guys can talk. =) I know a few people who do that with their boyfriends or girlfriends, and it works out really well.

Please, be careful. Because sometimes people aren't who they say they are. But if you are confident that he's being honest, you can trust him with certain things. Just not... everything.
If you want to meet this guy later down the road, you can. Just make sure you bring someone else with you. Make it a double date, out in public, like at a coffee shop or something, somewhere where you know that if you scream or call for help, someone will hear you.

Also keep in mind that there are aspects to people that you don't see across the internet. There might be something in the way he lives life that you can't deal with. It's... hard to explain. But as you deal with the idea of love, you'll have a better idea of what I mean.

In regards to your parents, I agree with :icon290pika: . It really does cause a riff in mother-daughter relationship, so bring it up later on. It might not be as serious as they think it is. Tone it down. You like the guy, but you might not see yourself being with him in a few years. Be honest with them, and yourself. That's very important.

Lastly, I keep saying "SLOW DOWN." because you don't want to commit too early. I've seen a lot of emotional damage done between two people who weren't mature enough for a relationship, and this is why I'm also suggesting to keep it as a closely knit friendship.

In any case, best of luck to you both. =)
XUhuruX Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I know how you feel. I was once in love with someone I met on the Internet, but he wasn't that far away. I loved him very much, and he loved me too, but as time passed we stopped talking and now those feelings I had for him are all gone.
But I believe if you two love each other truly and you're loyal to each other, distance doesn't matter at all :D
norbyscook Featured By Owner Apr 28, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Humanity have made there world very complex
I guess that is the way we are
ShutUpSprinkles Featured By Owner Apr 28, 2013  Professional Filmographer
Online relationships are something I would never personally engage in. I don't think being deceptive to your parents (I am assuming that is why it's not okay) is the way to go either. I've personally tried to sneak behind my mom's back and it just causes more riffs in our mother-daughter relationship that really shouldn't be there; it's about finding middle ground and understanding.
Kyoyume Featured By Owner Apr 28, 2013  Student Artist
First off, online relationships are just as real as any "offline" relationships. Both relationship types share same cons and pros, and at times, online can overpass offline in the pros because at times, you are able to show who you really are more than offline without any peers pressuring you. If you're worried about him lying, use skype to voice call or video call him to check if he's not lying to you.

Second off, if you're not suppose to have one...Haha, you can't control love. According to my parents, I'm an adult woman that still not suppose to have an relationship until I finish university but I am currently in an relationship, an online one, for most a year now and I love my man with all my heart. Of course, it's highly understandable since your peers want you to focus on your life but you can't control who you love and when you love. Ironic, isn't it?

Yes, time zones are very hard to deal with but if you two really love one and other, then you can overcome this small wall. Anyhow, best of luck on your relationship :D
koshplappit Featured By Owner Apr 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
You don't know him. You think I'm wrong, you think you are in love with him, but trust me, you are in love with the idea of him. This isn't a real relationship. It sounds harsh but my friend met her first boyfriend online and he lied about everything- his appearance, country, faked an accent even. When he came clean she stayed "with" him and said it was because he was the same person on the inside. She got mad when I said she didn't know him, didn't know if he was lying, but she chose to believe he was the person she wanted him to be. If you've never been with him, how can you love him? You can't. Because you don't know him.
glassmagnolia Featured By Owner Apr 28, 2013  Hobbyist
I'm guessing you are young if you are not supposed to have one. So I don't know if I'm typing this to a 15 year old or an eleven year old. :/

So I'll tell you what I would tell anyone: it's the internet. People can lie about who they are. It's easier now than ever to prey on young teens. There's nothing wrong with getting to know someone and falling in love, but be very very careful. And don't meet them alone.
Tamani13 Featured By Owner Apr 28, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Be careful, don't give too much info and don't do anything irresponsible. Typical online relationship advice. But really, go for it. I'm in an online relationship too and also had to sort of keep it a secret for awhile ^^;
KristenBlue Featured By Owner Apr 28, 2013  Student Writer
Not supposed to have one. I gather that to mean that you are young.
Now, I am won't get all preachy saying that young people shouldn't date but I will say that you don't need to date someone to care about them. There is a time and a place for everything, don't rush your life. Meeting people over the internet is a tricky thing, because maybe you are like me and put more faith in people than they really deserve but if this romance of yours is meant to be it will happen in its own time. That's probably one of the most frustrating thing that you will ever hear in your life but the best things in life are worth waiting for. Its hard to have a REAL relationship based over something like the internet, there is nothing solid in that. But that's probably why this is so exciting all the fun and puppy dog love of dating without actually having to deal with an actual person face to face. Fun but not what you are going to want in the end. No one wants to live like that. Give yourself time, be their friend why does it need to be a 'dating' kind of relationship right away?
EthelZeeb Featured By Owner Apr 28, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
... I think its perfectly normal. Love is love no matter what.
Gray-Sea Featured By Owner Apr 28, 2013  Student Filmographer
As long as you can skype/facetime/some kind of video chat with him it's totally fine! If it's the distance you're worried about, I'd say check out this blog, it's helped me a lot with my ldr. And if it's your parents not allowing you to have a boyfriend, I suggest you talk to them about it! If you're young and in an ldr, if you ever plan on seeing your significant other you have to get your parents involved. It's to keep you safe and give them peace of mind, y'know? So YES this is totally okay as long as you're safe and smart about it!
CleaMatt Featured By Owner Apr 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
In my opinion this isn't ok. I'm all for love no matter how far away the person is its just the whole online love thing, there have been many stories of old creepers stalking teenage girls and telling them their younger than they actually are. It's dangerous, but also I'm not you so if your really in love with him go for it. What's ment to be will find its way.
Hippiecheese777 Featured By Owner Apr 28, 2013
i had a girlfriend on the other side of the US once, we didnt last long, but only because long distance relationships don't work for me. thing is you're gonna love who you're gonna love. just make sure he is who you think he is, and dont make any promises.
stuckbehindthefridge Featured By Owner Apr 28, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
My brother is dating someone 2 time zones away. he met his girlfriend online also! :D so dont worry its fine, as long as you love him everything will work out.
berryfruitjam Featured By Owner Apr 28, 2013
It's okay. :D As long as you're sure he's not a creeper.
CoyoteDove Featured By Owner Apr 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Of course it is okay hun, nobody can tell you that you can't have a boyfriend. It is your life, and you love him
LionLover421 Featured By Owner Apr 28, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
I'm dating someone who lives in Florida. I met him on an online game and I have never loved anybody more than him. He's 17, I'm 14. I'm not allowed to have a boyfriend either, so yes, it's perfectly fine.
Gravitii-CS Featured By Owner Apr 28, 2013
I think it's just fine. You may love/like whoever you wish. <3
CosmicDusty Featured By Owner Apr 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I think that it is. If you really care about him, and you aren't doing anything dangerous or stupid (telling him specifics about where you live, or sexting or anything like that) than in my opinion, you're okay :)
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