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WaffleOfTheElements Featured By Owner Apr 23, 2013
Going from the POV of the mentioned 'best friend', either keep the anger away from the person towards you feel it. It might make the best friends job a lot harder.
But really, you should speak to a responsible adult who knows about the situation and tell them how you're feeling.

This is just my advice, you don't have to take it literally or otherwise :)
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BrownEyedGirl9 Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Being unwanted and not having friends is the style now days. People who have everything still complain about the stupidest things just because it's "in".
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Lovely-Chains-2341 Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Student Writer
Basically what I'm trying to say...Sometimes it's better to let that friendship waste away, rather than keep trying. Your efforts to them are pretty much worthless anyways. Just give them the ultimatum, then if they choose to stop being friends with you, then go find a new best friend.
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Lovely-Chains-2341 Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Student Writer
I'm exactly like this. I've lost many close friends because they either don't think I'm cut out enough to help, or that my help is "annoying". One of my best friends right now won't even listen anymore when I tell her she shouldn't cut, but every time she cuts she sends me a pic saying stuff like "it wasn't supposed to be that deep" or "it won't stop bleeding". I finally snapped and told her she either needs to stop cutting and actually TRY to stop, or stop talking to me. Currently we're not talking much. She chose to cut over her supposable "best friends". :/
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HaruBells Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Is this one somebody's reaction to a previous secret?
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MPgirl911 Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I see everyone who complains like this, but I don't hate them for it, I just understand they don't realize they're being an attention whore. I don't verbalize my problems because I don't want my friends to feel like this secret teller does.
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TheAwesomeOne888 Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
This person has a point, but the way they presented their side isn't very polite. /:
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verriterriberri Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013
I see both sides to the story. There are some people that just go on and on about their problems, repeating the sames things, though it's nothing new. And yet, I understand that sometimes people need to verbalise their problems a few times, to sort it out in their head.
Still, it's interesting that with this secret, the object of anger says 'no one cares' dispite her best friend listening, showing that she cares, though she may not understand. The object of anger seems to be blind to the fact her best friend does care.
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DropFromTheOcean Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013
You have just voiced what I have been trying to put into words for a while. Thank you.
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SkittlesRus Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Student Writer
I don't talk about my problems to people anymore because of this stuff. I'm terrified of being thought of as an attention whore, even though I'm not.
And no, this isn't making me an attention whore.
I'm just commenting my personal thoughts.
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arisutan Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Student General Artist
these are so awful...they don't even look nice :/
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CorporalCornbread Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I feel like I can't help but disagree, because I feel like I'm just like that "attention whore". I mean, I can't help but feel like even though I have loving friends who are here to help, they'll just leave once they're sick of hearing of my pain. The secret teller's best friend may have problems that run deeper than being an "attention whore". Mental problems like depression that you can't just stop.
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Tamani13 Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I feel it's more of a frustration with having ones efforts go completely ignored. I've honestly stressed myself out to the max for a friend only to have her go on that nobody cares about her. Considering I was literally on the verge of my own breakdown after staying up countless nights trying to deal with her meltdowns while also studying for two upcoming tests, trying to finish an essay all on top a huge shit storm with my own friends where I actually had to leave and have not talked to said asshole since...it's more than a little frustrating to have said person cry that nobody cares about them.

It's not her pain I ever get tired of hearing, it's trying my best to help her only for her to slap me in the face every time by telling me I don't care. Even if I don't always know exactly what to say, I'd appreciate at least not being treated like crap after everything. Friendship goes both ways, y'know?
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CorporalCornbread Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh, that is tough. I can understand why you'd be really frustrated... And yes, friendship does go both ways. I just don't feel like it was fair for the secret teller to call her friend an attention whore... You know?
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Tamani13 Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I don't know about the person in the secret of course, but my friend would get upset because people were talking to the person she didn't like instead of her. Sometimes the person is. I can't speak for this person obviously, but who knows.
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cheesemonkeymoo Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013
so true <3
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thatsjusttoobad-huh Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013
Eh, I feel like I'm the one who said that too. Well, I can tell you from the other side of it, a lot of times no matter how many people are around you and claim that they care, it still feels like they'd just leave in an instant. Like they're not really tangible, a mirage. Maybe it's because we don't know what would comfort us, or maybe we're just afraid that no one will understand and think we're stupid. It's not that we want attention, it's that we're scared of the attention.
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VictorHugo Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
"how many people are around you and claim that they care"

You just described "co-workers" around the world.
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thatsjusttoobad-huh Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013
It's scary living in a world like this. x__x
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Ace-of-Trades Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013
I feel like I'm the jerk on the other side of this story...
No, I don't think I specifically am the person this story references, that would make the anonymity useless.
Simply that I'm pretty sure I've been called this or am considered this or... stuff. I know the same bile of "No one cares" and "No one understands" has dribbled from my cold heart to my lips.
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Setsuai-sama Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013
I've had a friend like that before. She gobbled up all the attention she could when she was having minor problems. I mean, not all of them were minor, but she enjoyed the attention and turned everything minor into something far more complicated because she enjoyed being the center of attention. I was her best friend, and was there for her through all her problems. Then she wronged me and suddenly, 'I was never there for her' or 'She was always there for me, but I never tried' and how she'd be better off without a friend like me. Things of that sort.

I can't offer awesome advice about this, because every situation is different. My friend wasn't a very good one, I was just too blind to see it. This person may be a good friend. The only advice I can give is just to watch this person. If they are truly down trodden, then you should sit down and talk to this person. They may have some mental issues and they may need to talk to someone. If they just love to be the center of attention, well, I don't know how you should proceed. I cut the attention whore friend out of my life, and I don't regret it but not all people are comfortable doing that. There are several ways you can deal with it. You can cut this person out of your life, you can ignore their attempts attention. That's the only thing I can really says.

Dont let this person drag you down with them. It's not healthy for them or you.
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GlacialFalls Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
There are two sides to every story. Perhaps it actually looks that way to her. I know I have had similar feelings, even when a logical voice inside me said it was bullshit. From this tiny snapshot I see someone who could be going through hard times and just doesn't see the good things. I understand why you, ST, would get furious at that, you feel like she is just playing with you. I don't know you or her, so I can't say for sure. She could be playing with your emotions, but she might not be intentionally doing this. If not, abandoning them is the worst thing for them...

Sorry I ranted a bit there!
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Fanglore-and-Kain Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
:thumbsup: so true. i had to rage on this a bit ago but you say it so much better
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Ieitmotif Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013
Know this feel too much.... I don't talk to my friends about my problems, since I feel like i'm a bother when I try to, but those who have friends to comfort them (and listen to they're every word) , and they take it for granted is just... Stupid.
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Aikkko Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Same here.... The guy I love, Grayson, hates me because his new gf made him think I'm an attention whore... And know I can't hardly live with myself because of him and I want to self hurt because I think I deserve it.
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ThelordofallReturn Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013
You should never self hurt, no one should self hurt, and if he actually cared about you and was worth it, then he wouldn't be such a pussy and listen to what all his ''queen'' says. You should try to find a better man.
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Aikkko Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Right.
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limeheer Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013
if you need someone to listen to you you can just ask :)
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Ieitmotif Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013
I wish it was that easy for me, I don't. It's hard for me, I'll always feel like a Bother, or Someone you don't want to her about lD
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limeheer Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2013
i like helping people and atcuelly use it as a way to keep my mind occupied instead of thinking about life so plz do tell
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