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:iconoliveman40:
In order to not hate yourself, you need to stand up to the voices inside you that say you deserve to be hated and should hate yourself. Even if they have all the evidence in the world to prove that you should hate yourself, you need to find a way to counter that.

I'll give you an example. Let's say the evidence is that you do things that you normally consider bad or evil. Maybe you think about hurting people, or something. There's two solutions that I've used to great effect to counter their arguments for this example, even given their evidence.

One, demand proof that what they claim to be bad REALLY is bad. This can really piss them off, as they might panic thinking you might be trying to do the thing they think is bad. But you can just say that you're not planning to, but just that, given it is ultimately uncertain how bad it REALLY is, you're not prepared to hate yourself just yet. You'll give yourself a safe haven to explore life. They can usually agree to that.
Two, ask them to help you change yourself. Rather than letting them attack you over and over, get them on your side - you can argue that the pain of hating yourself doesn't give you the space emotionally to really transform your life, examine your choices objectively, and find new avenues for action and ways of understanding yourself. You can tell them that they can either get on board, or shut up - because you won't hate yourself either way, but you're willing to listen to WHY they want you to hate yourself and to come up with REASONABLE solutions with them to the problems that concern them. This approach makes an ally out of your previous enemy, and works very well.

There might be other reasons why you hate yourself, but usually the main reason is the one I mentioned - you're doing something you think is bad. Just be sure to stand up to whatever voice is giving you the message to hate yourself, and you'll be ok. Tell them "I WON'T hate myself - but what other options are on the table? Help me out dude!" - of course, use your own words. Don't believe the self-hate voice! There's always another way to handle its concerns.

If you want to learn more about working through emotional issues at their root - inside youself- then check out my website www.theworldwithin.org - it covers all sorts of issues! There's even an article about self-acceptance here: [link]

Hope it helps, and good luck in life! Ciao!
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:iconhalperin98:
halperin98 May 8, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
You are you. Perfect in your own way, a person, like any other, who deserves to live.
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camiwolf09 Apr 28, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Don't worry about bullies and other jerks.
They're TRYING to make you feel that way!
Just be yourself :)
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:iconteselskap:
Believe yourself, and love yourself. see there is a person who loves you
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:iconpyukes:
Pyukes Apr 28, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
There can't be someone like this for everyone, believe me.
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Ziluna Apr 28, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You just need to look a little harder. Open your eyes wider. Give people a chance. If you never try, how can you be sure of anything?
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Pyukes Apr 30, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
thank you for those nice words, I really appreciate that :) but I don't believe in that, I wish I could but I'm just like that.
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:iconteselskap:
I LOVE YOU AND THE REST OF THE WORLD
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:iconpyukes:
Pyukes May 6, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
heh, I like you, you are kinda optimistic, aren't you? :D
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:iconteselskap:
hahah lol ty i like you too
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