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:iconemoturtlefrk:
emoturtlefrk Featured By Owner Apr 23, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
i feel your pain. I hate my mother with a burning passion, but half the times everything i do all i see is her.
It sickens me
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NeonColoredRain Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I think one thing you shouldn't do is use your father as an excuse to act this way. I think another reason why you act this way is because you are around him a lot and it takes effect on you. Take yourself away from that environment. Become your own person. Only you can change and shape who you want to be.
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EeveeTree Featured By Owner Apr 3, 2013
This sounds exactly like my ex-boyfriend.

So I'll give you the advice that he would never take from me. Don't just accept that you're like him! Fight it! Fight it as hard as you can. It's no good to be aware of your problems if you're unwilling to change. Reach out to others and confide in them. Check yourself whenever you lie or think an arrogant thought. You can change, but you have to really try.
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:iconhawk-moth:
Hawk-Moth Featured By Owner Apr 2, 2013  Student Writer
the first step to making a change is being self aware. Once that happens, you can make changes.
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:icon212m:
212M Featured By Owner Mar 31, 2013
damn... I feel similar to author :/
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:icondeshiiba-chan:
Deshiiba-chan Featured By Owner Mar 29, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Anyway, itís a good step that you recognize it (: Mosto of the people denyes it. That means that you have a chance to change
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:iconjewelluvsmarshmellow:
JewelLuvsMarshmellow Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
This secret is interesting. I can relate to acting like my parent that I hate.
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:iconyoru-sasayaki:
Yoru-Sasayaki Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013   General Artist
Unfortunately, children become more and more like their parents. People rub off on others. It's a psychological thing. Some people are able to steer themselves away from the wrong path, yet they always have traces of their family in them.

I know how you feel. I hate it, too. My father treats people with little respect unless it involves money, and he isn't really close to anyone. I find that I am like him...far more than I'd like to admit. I get angry like he does. I treat people with rudeness and/or hate whether I mean to or not. I can only try to hide under a false happiness.

The only thing, really, is to concentrate on the good things that the person does. Focusing on the negative causes those habits to invade your mind. Thinking of the positive aspects of your family and friends helps you to be a better person. Seeing the bright side tends to ward off depression as well as other unpleasant emotions/thoughts. I wish you good luck, Secret Teller, and I hope you find the light.
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:iconkurosaki224:
Kurosaki224 Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
If I could like this comment I would :heart:
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:iconyoru-sasayaki:
Yoru-Sasayaki Featured By Owner Mar 29, 2013   General Artist
I'm glad it made an impact. Thanks for making me feel like I've helped. ^^
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:iconkurosaki224:
Kurosaki224 Featured By Owner Mar 29, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Welcome :) Thanks for helping ^^
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:iconyoru-sasayaki:
Yoru-Sasayaki Featured By Owner Mar 30, 2013   General Artist
Anytime. ^^
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x-Sinister-Chaos-x Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Student
Whoever wrote this or relates to this needs to listen to the song "Emotional Drought" by Chevelle. There is one line that I am specifically thinking of: "There's a choice to not end up like you"
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:iconmake-me-a-rainbow:
make-me-a-rainbow Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013
This is eerily similar to someone I know... It's okay love, if it is you :heart:
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:iconkhalfrodo:
KhalFrodo Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Great message, but hard to read, :(

The colors really don't contrast well.
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:icon1sorriso:
1sorriso Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013
I feel you
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:iconescapeingrunaway:
EscapeingRunaway Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Student Writer
Heh. Sounds like mine.
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:iconyouremancupcake:
YoureManCupCake Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
I know 100% how you feel, I just don't hate it.
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PapiaFluff Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I can agree with this.

My mom is constantly telling me to control my issues or I'll become like my father, who is a criminal. I don't want to be like him, dammit! ;-; I wanna be able to control it, but I can't! I love my dad, but I won't lie, he isn't the best role model.
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alsrg Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013
For me its my mom. She's become a basket-case type of person, doesn't do anything with her life other than wallow in self pity and make endless excuses to the people around her, trying to get them to give her compassion. I hate that she does that and is completely unchanging, her mind works in a circle and she refuses to get out of it.

She has Bi Polar disorder. I'm scared I'm going to be diagnosed, and I am going to become like her. Taking endless drugs and ceasing to have any quality of life.

I hate the idea that kids can so easily be a copypaste of their parents.
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MrsBarnett15 Featured By Owner Mar 29, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
My mother is bi-polar too... sad thing is my adoptive mother told me all the time when I was growing up that I was just like my birth mother and that I should never have kids and never get married because I was doomed to fail... fortunately I have a stubborn streak the size of Texas and made it my goal to prove my adoptive mother wrong... Sometimes I wonder though if my adoptive mother knew that rather than admit defeat I would work harder to not be like my birth mother... I like to think that anyways... it sure beats believing that the on woman I could look up to didn't believe in me
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RedTearRiding Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Same here. I feel sick knowing that I look more like him than my mom. And he constantly says things to me like, "You (insert odd habit) just like I do. Because you're my kid." I absolutely hate it.
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:iconconfidencealive:
confidenceAlive Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I feel similarly about my own father.
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:iconrambling-anthology:
Rambling-anthology Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
If you're conscious of it that means you can change. It won't be easy, and I do suggest seeing a therapist (and trust me, I'm only saying that because therapy helped me with my issues). I wish you strength in overcoming this.
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:iconkurosaki224:
Kurosaki224 Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
:iconbravoplz:
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:iconrambling-anthology:
Rambling-anthology Featured By Owner Mar 29, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Indeed...
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:icon3ubbly:
3ubbly Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Student Digital Artist
You don't have to become like him, though. You have the power to be a good person. You are in control of who you are. Take that power and be better than him. I support you, I know you can do it! <3
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:iconkurosaki224:
Kurosaki224 Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
<3
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:iconmitzusojaki:
MitzuSojaki Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I feel the same, just about my mother. Maybe not as bad as this, but believe me, she's a pretty though lady to handle...
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:iconlcextrordinaire:
LCextrordinaire Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I feel like that a lot.
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:iconsplatter620:
Splatter620 Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
WAAAHH you sound like my girlfriend. ;A; except she doesn't use people, she just gets angry a lot...
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:icontanglenose98:
Tanglenose98 Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
... You honest to God sound like my best friend...
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:iconka-keitorinartist:
KA-KeitorinArtist Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Learn Meditation, See a therapist or a psychiatrist, be peacful and open minded. If you want, learn a new language, travel places. You can be everything unlike your dad.

Break free and just be who you are without the negativity.
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:iconkurosaki224:
Kurosaki224 Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
This is a perfect response. :iconbravoplz:
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:iconka-keitorinartist:
KA-KeitorinArtist Featured By Owner Mar 29, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Thank you :D
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:iconkurosaki224:
Kurosaki224 Featured By Owner Mar 29, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
No, thank you. I'm in a really similar situation and this helps me a lot :)
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:iconka-keitorinartist:
KA-KeitorinArtist Featured By Owner Mar 29, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Aw, I hope you can break free. If you ever need to talk you can message me. My door is open. I also was in a very similar situation, and when you make the mental decision that "Enough is enough." All you have left is the choice to move on and find ways to be different.
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:iconkurosaki224:
Kurosaki224 Featured By Owner Mar 29, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you :hug: One thing that has really helped me is my martial arts dojo. We live by a code of honor and compassion, and at the beginning of class we recite it. It embodies everything I want to be and everything he isn't.
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KA-KeitorinArtist Featured By Owner Mar 29, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Thats nice :D The Martial arts is also a form of releasing tension and letting go. Helping one to become Flexible and precise. I taught myself Japanese without any help to prove that I can learn something that he hated to pieces by Myself. (Not to mention I loved the Japanese culture at the time) Its the little things that really help. Even if its reliving a passion that he might have closed the door too. I'm always living my passion to watch anime and read manga.

Its also key to know that choosing an opposite just to say "I am different" isn't always going to help. Be Yourself Naturally. If you force yourself to be different and Change who you are to be different, then its actually bad for your health because its connected to him. Be sure to choose to do it because YOU want to do it. ;) Something that took me awhile to learn.
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:iconkurosaki224:
Kurosaki224 Featured By Owner Mar 30, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
That is true. And sweet, you learned Japanese? That's awesome! I've been thinking about it for a while. I love Japanese culture quite a bit too XD I think it'd be easier that German (which is what I'm taking at the moment)
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fallinqacorn Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013
You're never alone with it. Hell, it's like that but with my Mother. Strength, you have it. Use it. Like Solum-Ipsum said, kill your father within you, beat it at it's own game. 83
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NitaVG Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
:'( I feel you!!
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:iconsolum-ipsum:
Solum-Ipsum Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Discipline yourself. Pay attention. You have all the motivation to do so. Kill your father in you, overcome his karmic curse. I wish you strength. :)
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:iconhelena-lou:
Helena-Lou Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You're not the only one.
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