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:iconmirage-skies:
Mirage-Skies Featured By Owner May 5, 2013  Student Digital Artist
I understand you :)
BUt you know what people think when they die? I think they say 'Live and move on'
we can never forget them, but if we say how great they was, we can respect them ♥
your not selfiss, your worried ^^ and it's okay to be worried, but please, smile :)
if they die, all we can do is smile and say this: ''i will be there when i die too'' ♥
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SeersSword Featured By Owner Mar 16, 2013   General Artist
I imagine I'll feel the same way one day.
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NeonColoredRain Featured By Owner Mar 8, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That's a bit selfish. I can how you feel but it seems you don't even consider anyone else who loves you just as much.
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NocturnRavyn Featured By Owner Mar 8, 2013  Hobbyist Interface Designer
I can understand that, but wishing you would die first seems a bit selfish... I mean, what about him? How would he cope? I remember years ago a close family friend of ours had cancer, and she died. Her husband of nearly 55 years died six months later of a broken heart. They had been in love, I think, since they were children, or at least in their early teens. It was very sad and touching...

I know nearly everyone wants to die like the characters in The Notebook, but realistically that may never happen for any of us. The best way to honor any loved one's memory is to be strong and try to move on the best you can. If it happens that you just can't cope losing that part of yourself, it doesn't make you weak by any means. However if you kill yourself without even trying to live again, it strikes me as weak, cowardly and selfish... I don't think anyone who really loves you would want you to kill yourself because of them.

For the record I hope that neither of you will die before your time, and you have many happy years ahead :)
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FiliaFlammae Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I remember when my boyfriend and I talked about this. Somewhat amusingly/romantically/sadly, we came to an agreement that it would be better if he passed away first. He, treasuring our every minute together, admitted that he didn't think he'd be able to stand it if I died and thus left him for good. I, having a weird thing for love martyrdom, admitted that I would rather bear the burden of his death myself than put him through that torment. Each of the two is a sacrifice in one way and selfish in another way. The important thing is that we've come to a mutual understanding of each other's feelings on the issue.

I feel that which of these two feels better, if either, depends on the individual. Though I am not of your ilk, ST, I have the deepest respect for your feelings, and I wish you and your SO a long and prosperous life together. :heart:
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Darkauthor81 Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013
Yeah I feel the same about my wife. It's not that I couldn't go on. I just choose not to.
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Krlytz Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I've read that this is something that happened (and may still happen in clandestinity) in India. There the widows had to jump to their husband's funeral pyre and burn to death, or they would face disgrace, for themself and their families. Really a horrible thing to do.

I think that if my husband dies before I do, although it will be a terrible burden to bear, it's okay. I'll just treasure our memories untill the day I die too. And although it's sounds bad, saying "I would give my life in exchange of theirs" has always been, imo, a selfish though. You only say that because you are sad, and what you are implying there is that you would rather be dead and let your beloved ones suffer instead /:
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QuiRuo Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013
hmmmm, of course anyone close to us dies we will get upset.

But if we dies with them no one will remember them and tell how good they are.

However, one way to be live is die and that is the secret of life everyone must face it.
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QuiRuo Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013
hmmmm, of course anyone close to us dies we will get upset.

But if we dies with them no one will remember them and tell how good they are.

However, one way to be live is die and that is the secret of life everyone must face it.
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QuiRuo Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013
hmmmm, of course anyone close to us dies we will get upset.

But if we dies with them no one will remember them and tell how good they are.

However, one way to be live is die and that is the secret of life everyone must face it.
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mlpanda13 Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I'm relieved to know other people think this way, too. That's how I feel about the man I'm with right now.
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chrisxcrossx Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Personally, I hope I go first as well just so I don't ever have to feel that way. Or that we go out The Notebook style, minus the dementia and health problems. I've thought about what would happen if he died first, but I don't think I could give up on my life, because life is too precious. Your husband wouldn't want you to kill yourself, either. I'm sure he'd rather have you live the rest of your life surrounded by and loved by your friends, family, and kids (if you have any). If you build your life up around just one person, I feel like it's not being really fulfilled and you're missing out on a lot that way.
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Universal-Tiger Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
"I'm gunna tell the gravedigger that he better dig two..."

I feel the same way :heart:
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grj-tardis Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2013
a good quote for this :)
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Kaye00 Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
I find it so sad how many people think they'd be empty and lonely forever if their husband or wife died first.

I mean, I get where it's coming from, but just because you lose someone dear to you, doesn't mean life won't go on and that you can't be happy without them. My dad died when I was 13 and ten years later, my mom hasn't remarried, she has absolutely no desire to date again and still says that my dad was her soul mate. But she's happy despite that. It took a long time to get to happy again, but it's possible.
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the-hangman-project Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013  Professional General Artist
this is oddly beautiful. i wish i felt love like that. :) may you have many years together!
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queenwren Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
I feel the same, I doubt I could kill myself but I know I'd drift into a state of nothingness
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Vladimir-Valentine Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
........why? It doesn't make any sense to kill yourself if your husband dies before you. That just shows you're completely dependent on that one person and that you're not strong enough to get through it. Seems cowardly and selfish to me, especially if you happen to have kids.
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fallencruxisangel Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
My love always wishes to die first...we'd be lost without each other :( I couldn't kill myself, but without him, I'd be so...empty.
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:iconfaith-25:
Faith-25 Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013  Hobbyist
I agree with TiteArumi
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carrera3187 Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
what if you had kids?
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Ali2you Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013
Sometimes I feel I'd just want to die myself if that happened to my soul mate, i'm not sure if I'd go ahead and kill myself though, I'd just live an empty life.
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TiteArumi Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Touching, really.
But I don't think it's worth it. I'm sorry, but I truly believe it's better to learn to live again after the death of someone we love. Because this is more respectful for your life, and for your husband life.
Live is better than escape.

I'm sorry, but this is how I feel, really.
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LamiaHearts Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013
I think something like that would be kind of wasteful...and a bit selfish. To each his/her own though.
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SkittlesRus Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013  Student Writer
I feel the same way.
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:iconzippythewolf:
zippythewolf Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
ME TOO!
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:iconvictorhugo:
VictorHugo Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
*swallows hard*
letīs hope it doesnīt happen.
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:iconnatnalix:
natnalix Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
May God himself bless your strong bond between you and your husband. :heart:
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Kuwaitum Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013
Very touching, God bless you both to live long and happily.
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