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moemoemoefun Featured By Owner May 17, 2013   General Artist
Ah,I know the feels.I,unfortuneatly,fell the same exact way...;-:
Thinker1988 Featured By Owner Apr 22, 2013
And what's the connection between pleasing others and stopping hating yourself?

You could suck others' dicks until you burst, but it wouldn't help hating yourself. You either deal with something directly, or it'll never fix itself. You hate yourself? Stop hating yourself.
Stars-tonight Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2013  Student
I know exactly how you feel, and I role play for the same reason :)
DnG-Productions Featured By Owner Apr 15, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Oh sweetheart...yes I understand fullly well this pain, poor baby...believe in yourself.
NoxxAnima Featured By Owner Apr 12, 2013
I thought I was the only one..!
dingallama Featured By Owner Mar 10, 2013
I like your handwriting. :heart: Just saying.
Vixen68 Featured By Owner Mar 3, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
That's so true for me, it's nice to know I'm not the only one
AlFangMindSculptor42 Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
So true.
Sanaries Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2013
Wow, I can totally relate to that..
Buttonlight Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2013  Student General Artist
I can totally relate.
ismailrawoot Featured By Owner Jan 20, 2013
they opened comments on these? :surprised:
ShadesOfGrey85 Featured By Owner Jan 17, 2013
I get that way alot of the time, ST. Roleplaying is an escape from the person I am and the life that I live.. It helps me cope.

What you need to remember is that the characters you create, the characters you play are just a part of you.. That the person that you want so desperately to be is inside of you, and if you give it time and figure out what inside of you makes you who you are at the moment, then you can be just as great as you dream to be.

It took me a while to realize this, but when I did, I made a change and I feel better every day for it.
Kneji-Aloe Featured By Owner Jan 17, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
thats how i feel...
Thundermane Featured By Owner Jan 17, 2013
I hope that you read this.
First you have to think about what you think you are and aren't, and everything that you aren't certain of. Destroy it all in your mind until nothing is left. Now think about what you want in your life. Just do that and stop thinking about "who" you are. The ego is something highly changeable, don't value it to much. You can be whoever you want to be, because who you are is determined by what you do. Stop faking and eventually the fake smiles will become true smiles.
XxRockFiendxX Featured By Owner Jan 16, 2013
don't be sad =( i'm sorry people are being stupid--it makes no sense for them to hate you because you hate yourself! As a person that has hated myself for way too long, I getcha. Just do your best and be yourself, and soon one by one you'll begin to see there are a lot of things about urself you'll come to really love
TheKnightOfCydonia Featured By Owner Jan 16, 2013
just be yourself and keep going forward! self-improvement (life;]) is like going against the stream- if you stop rowing the current takes you back... as much as you are able to look inside and see yourself with eyes open, i'm sure you are a much better person than you realize yet... and one more thing: if you want to do something good for those around you who love you - love yourself! for the true friends of yours this would be a great gift シ
maur1n Featured By Owner Jan 16, 2013
I realized that when you truly like people, you wouldn't even have to try. It shows unconsciously. if they show no appreciation or if you could still sense that they don't like you then they don't deserve to be liked at all so don't bother trying to please them.
King-Universe Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I can relate...especially on the Roleplaying part, im not going to tell you not to hate yourself like the others or judge you based on how you feel cause i feel the same
i have tried pleasing people and so on and yet it ends not so well
i created characters who through their own beings and glitches and abnormallitys are way better than i could ever hope to be... but i found something in them that i hope you can find in your own OC's ... strip away their special powers and so on...put them in the same setting as you are in and see if they would react how you would..if they act differently..then try changing the way you see things to fit that character even for just a day...and see where that leads.... in time you and your characters will become alike so much its unreal..and in like your characters so thus bringing yourself to like yourself
lite-ing Featured By Owner Jan 16, 2013  Student Digital Artist
I tried doing that years ago and it barely works. When I tried, people and my family hated me. The only one I talk to is my sister. All I wanted was to talk to. Now I'm quiet and keep my personality to myself.

It might work for the one with the secret and I'm giving her hope :)
lavviexx Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013
I'm a people pleaser and it sucks you loose yourself by molding yourself into the people they want you to be, don't hate yourself. Be who you are. I know it isnt always easy but if you change into someone other people want, you might end up hating yourself even more
Ensaru64 Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I think you're so into wanting to please people you forget all about yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. If you fake your smiles, you just don't want to hurt that person's feelings. That's who you are.

And you can't change yourself, if you can't accept yourself.
caracarlos Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013
The only person you have to please is yourself, when you begin doing that, you'll please other people, people have to like you for who you are. I know it's cliched, but, well, if you aren't yourself you'll end up hurting everyone around you.
MPgirl911 Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I have made this my goal in life, to make the people I care about be proud of me, by fixing the flaws they despise. There are so many people I wish to please and I make an effort, becoming a whole different person around them (and even when I just talk about them) just to be the person they want me to be. I completely understand how you feel and for years I hated myself whenever one of them got mad at me because it was usually for something that I did that wasn't what they wanted from me. They think I do the things that upset them either just to upset them or because I'm lazy so I tell them they're right, it's because I'm lazy or just to get under their skin. I can never tell them how hard I try to make them happy because then they just say I'm lying about that. They think I break down crying after they yell at me to get out of the punishment and not because I actually want to end my life every time I'm not who they want me to be.
And now I'm getting better, because I'm actually trying to find out who I want to be, buried beneath all the layers of other people's hopes and dreams that they pushed on me.
wrose Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013
/hugs. I sympathize.
LCextrordinaire Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I know what you mean. I have friends I truly enjoy, but my smiles are rarely real, and I'm not who I feel like I should be. I hide many secrets from my mom, dad, sisters, grandparents, and friends. My friends and family all look so happy and carefree. I envy them.
I-love-kenny Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013
*Hug* I understand completely. Every single word. You're not alone. I just want you to know that all of us out there like you, we all support you.
Aramarella Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
:huggle: I hope you read this so you know that everyone supports you. And we would all hug you if we could.
Nestalia Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
*hug* I feel you.
Shoka98 Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Soulofthenight663 Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
I understand this more than words can describe.
FizzPuff Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I understand this completely, there's times where I just wish I could be someone else to please others around me.
limitless--wings Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013  Student Artist
I understand this situation. I'm not happy with myself, either, I want to change so much, but then again, old habits die hard. If the people around you aren't happy with who you are, then its time to move on from them. Sure. You're going to miss them, but you shouldn't change for their liking.
Thundermane Featured By Owner Jan 17, 2013
Quite so, change for oneself, not for someone else. You can't love or be loved without loving yourself.
caracarlos Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013
Can't agree more with you, but I don't think being happy with yourself is really a good thing, it's necessary to reinvent yourself in order to fullfill a healthy life.
Shanster12 Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I didn't contribute this secret but I feel like it was taken out of my brain.
Whoever you are don't give up, I hope you are stronger than me
limeheer Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2013
the grass is always greener on the other side my friend
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