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aprilfear Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2013  Student Writer
I'm thirteen, and most people say I have more... "emotional depth" than most kids my age... But seriously, I know that someone my age shouldn't be looking for relationships. Relationships are hard to handle. Not only that, but most boys my age are hormone driven little buggers. How do you think teenage pregnancies start? A boy my age doesn't need to be in relationships, because I doubt he could make a real relationship last more than five minutes. You need to find yourself a real man; not a boy. And you need to get a man that doesn't have a bad temper. A bad temper can lead to bad things like abuse. I'm not saying he's going to turn into a man that beats women, but a male with a bad temper can be a terrible thing. Men can lose their temper, and if they start a physical fight, they could very well hurt a woman quite a bit. Oh, and four things you should remember when you get a real boyfriend closer to your age:
1: If he hits you- even ONCE- he doesn't love you and you should break up with him.
2: If he tries to get you to do something you're not ready for, he doesn't love you.
3: If he cheats, he doesn't love you.
4: Break it off the moment he does something bad. Don't let it get worse or you could end up with an abusive boyfriend.
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Buttonlight Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2013  Student General Artist
When hes 18, its all his decision. Meanwhile, don't hinder his life because of your relationship with him, and don't let this child hinder your life either. He needs to grow up and you need to be an adult. I don't doubt your love, and I think you should be together. But both of you are just so young...
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eliviralikespie Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2013
In the end you will find out who is best for you! I have a friend whose parents are 13 years apart...in my opinion age is just a number.
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Segacat101 Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2012  Student Artist
Be brave and break away
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Toxinity Featured By Owner Dec 26, 2012  Student Digital Artist
First of all, I don't know the background story on the both of you, so I can't say where your psychological standpoint is.

But I CAN say that I know where his is. This is a little boy. A child. A baby. He isn't even of the minimum legal age to get a JOB. This child probably isn't even physically mature enough to impregnate a woman, let alone have the mentality to be in a "serious" relationship with a woman who is way over the age to start having children. This child - if in most countries - is still in middle school/junior high, whatever you want to call it unless he's some kind of genius. This baby is probably still pulling girls' hair at school, shooting spitballs at teachers, getting his clothes laid out by his mother, and playing in the bubble bath. This is not your regular "Romeo & Juliet" type relationship. She was 14 and he was 18, they were only 4 years apart and you see what happened to them? Dead. Not saying you two will die, but it didn't work out, did it? Maybe not my best example, but still. Anyway...

Trust me when I say this, he is NOT the one. You two are NOT star-crossed lovers. There IS someone else who can handle you, your age, your relationship preference, your self-esteem, your life-style. This is a child who probably sees himself as mature enough to handle anything, but can't even handle staying home by himself for 12 hours. Hell, I thought the same way when I was that age, but I admit looking back at that age, I was a mess. A MESS. A tangle of emotions and hormones. Hell, my hormones are still out of whack and it's 6 years later, but now I have more of a grip on them...most times.

This is a boy, not a man. Maybe he acts mature for his age and maybe he told you his true age way late in your relationship and now it's hard to get the image of that perfect boyfriend out of your head because now you know the harsh truth and can't accept it. Judging by the way you put this, you are in serious inner turmoil with yourself because of this boy, especially his age. You need to break it off. Because he's a child and his temper is over 9000, it will be harder for him to understand....because he's a child. Children his age are difficult for a reason. And because he is difficult, this can be harmful to him if you continue to go the route you're going.

At that age, kids go through an emotional hell state. He's about to break from that pre-teen state to that first glimpse of adolescence stage. The longer you continue to "date" (which could be considered babysitting in this situation) him, the worse the impact will be to him when, and if, you do break it off with him. Think about his side of the relationship. He shows you anger because he can't handle the things you want from him in this relationship. He isn't mature enough to UNDERSTAND the reason why you want these things from him in this relationship. He shouldn't even be thinking about dating at this age, let alone dating someone older than he is.

If you were this child's mother, you would not be happy in the least to know your baby boy who you carried for 9 months, who's living under your roof, is in his room on a website he probably isn't even old enough to have legal access to, is having a relationship with a 22 year old WOMAN.

I don't mean to sound harsh, but this is the reality of the problem. Things can't keep going the way they are unless you're willing to sacrifice your happiness for 5 more years, maybe less because once he starts living life for real, he is not going to stay with you. He will break up with you. There will be many, many REAL pretty girls around him that he will be infatuated with. If he can capture a 21 year old, he can capture twice as many 13 year old girls. Face reality and end it before you end up getting hurt deeply. Find someone who you can talk to. Someone who doesn't beat around the bush and tells it like it is because that is what you need. You need to get rid of this low self-esteem you have because you deserve so much better than what you're putting YOURSELF through. Nobody is controlling you. You are NOT trapped. You have much more power over this relationship than this boy. The only thing that's stopping you is YOU. End it. You'll get over it and quicker than you'll expect.

I hope everything turns out for the best for you and the boy.
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aprilfear Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2013  Student Writer
You should be a therapist or something. O.O
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Toxinity Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2013  Student Digital Artist
O3O really?
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aprilfear Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2013  Student Writer
Yep
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Toxinity Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2013  Student Digital Artist
;v; thnx
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Coeb Featured By Owner Dec 26, 2012
Age doesnt matter, but it matters if its hurting one side.
The age is just a number is correct, in terms of how wise the other is. It leaves me feeling broken, as being thirteen myself, when one person drags me down and burys what I say just because they think I'm inexperienced. In truth, the amount of time you've been alive doesnt speak for your experiences. An adult can live their entire lives in the cities with money, while one half their age can experience the death of their parents, homelessness, helplessness, suicide, homocide, and more. You get my point.
Being in this relationship, though, it brings both you and him down. This boy is old enough to be a late brother of yours. While you would be in an illegal tangle, if anyone found out on his side, he would have his entire life ruined by those around him. There are those who would even attempt at murder to him. For gods sake, your life could be in that same position too. Actually, I'm sure many would love to hurt and bully a woman in such a relationship with someone so young.

What really concerns me is any sexual relationship. That, truthfully, is very wrong. No one under 18 in my personal opinion should get in any sexual activity, especially not someone almost double their age. No sexual activity? Online, its fine. As long as you two dont go meeting up, I find no harm to be done as long as you two dont tie both your chances with others around you down.

Those who are claiming for you to get HELP; that makes me cringe. No one can get any help that they already cant give themselves; its just much harder to dig that help up. Your not a doll to be tossed around, you dont need help - you have it. If you need support, thats another matter, me and many others will gladly support you. A small affectionate exchange? Go for it, as long as you dont turn it into something serious. If you do, dont take it further - its going to end up getting you two hurt. I dont want to see you do that to yourself, and to him.

Best regards.<3

I apologize for my last comment as 'Yuryaoi', that was me commenting on a friends account. Replies, I would appreciate for them to be sent here. Danke!
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