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LivviIsDeadInside Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012
You will never be alone there will be someone else out there! Alaways remember this saying: There's plenty of fish in the sea.
Darkangel5620 Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
You can try and patch your love back up, If you loved him once im sure it will be there again. But if it doesn tell him how you feel, and maybe he will want to try and fix the love or let you go, you should be honest and involve his feelings in this too. I understand how you feel, it seems scary but trust me if your not happy, leave. You will find love again, but you have to be patient.
Hawk-Moth Featured By Owner Oct 29, 2012  Student Writer
Let me ask you something, how would you feel if you were in his shoes. Is letting go of your fear harder than telling him the truth, you are being cruel.
sunkissin Featured By Owner Oct 28, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That's a pretty awful reason to stay with someone. :/ It's only fair to him that you break up rather than continuing to lead him on and being so selfish. That really isn't fair on him. Think about it, there are plenty more people out there you can love, so why continue to stick with the one you're with without a good reason to? Being alone isn't that bad anyway, trust me.
aranek9634 Featured By Owner Nov 5, 2012  Student General Artist
"Being alone isn't that bad anyway, trust me."

that isn't true either. you obviously don't know or understand loneliness in its deepest depths... I have been alone for the previous 7 years of my life, not relationship-wise, but just alone in my life in general. and I am just now breaking those chains of what my family had done to me. I have people now... but then I didn't.

:bulletred: however, I agree that leading people on is wrong and shouldn't be done.

people that like loneliness when trying to help other people should keep it to themselves. :fork:
sunkissin Featured By Owner Nov 5, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Um.. ahem.
I didn't mean being alone IN GENERAL, I just meant being single. Please try and read comments more carefully next time.

Exactly, that was my whole point. That being single isn't the same as being lonely, so leading someone on for that reason is just cruel.
Apidae12 Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2012
Lets just play out the scenario that you stay with him, despite not loving him.
I'm sure he'll catch on eventually. A loveless relationship isn't hard to miss. Even so, if he doesn't say anything about it, you'll labor on together until some new guy comes along, and you're completely wow'd by him.
That's probably all it will take for you to leave your boyfriend - the promise that you'll be with someone else and so you won't be alone.
It will absolutely devastate your ex, and he'll probably resent you for it. I would honestly recommend breaking up with him, so at least you may still remain on good terms, and that your next boyfriend won't seem like a rebound.

That being said, sometimes people mistake not loving someone anymore for just being in a boring relationship. Take some time apart, break up with him and maybe you'll find that all you needed was time apart. Who knows. Either way, staying with him for your own convenience will only lead to more trouble.
aranek9634 Featured By Owner Nov 5, 2012  Student General Artist
i completely agree with this advice.

thank you apidae12, for not stepping on anyone's toes that does know loneliness.....
Sunnyfrost Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Honey, even if you won't be in a relationship anymore, being single does not officially make you 'alone'. You'll still have your family, and your friends, and you ex-boyfriend will hopefully still be friends with you, even if you do break it off with him. If you don't love your boyfriend anymore, you shouldn't be afraid to look him in the eye and tell him how you feel. I'm sure that he'll be accepting of your decision.

But I'm not the one to decide your decisions. He's your boyfriend, and this is your life. I don't want to tell you what to do, because it is entirely up to you. Just remember: Do whatever you feel is right for you, not for your boyfriend, not for others around you, but for you. Because you're the most important thing in your life.

Hope this helped....
minako13 Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2012
being alone is something you need to learn to deal with regardless
caracarlos Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2012
Okay, I understand you don't want to be alone and you are just waiting for other interesting guy to appear in your life, but I think you should just break up now, because if you break up and then in the next couple of weeks you are alrealdy with other guy, your ex will just hate you and it'll be very hard for him to understand everything, he will think you were bretraying him. I was in that situation some weeks ago, but I was the other interesting guy, and the ex was my friend, it was not a nice situatin for anyone and the things are not settling down easily.
Seinithil Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2012
It's probably better to break up than to stay with him. It's not fair to him, and besides, being alone isn't as bad as you would think.
SilverFlameWolf Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Having a fear of loneliness is one of my biggest, so I know your feelings, and I can relate to them.
I am in the same boat you are in.
But my boyfriend is sweet and caring, and he's like a brother to me, so I give him millions of chances. It just hurts to know someday I'll have to tell him the truth.
ApocalypticParadox Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
If you're not in love, don't be afraid of being alone. Trust me, it's better to not be in a relationship than to be in one that's lost its purpose.

Well, you don't have to follow my advice, or anyone else's. But whatever you choose to do, I hope it's the one that makes you the most happy. :)
veddabredda Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Being alone isn't all that terrible, and it's actually much better than to stay in a relationship you don't want. I know this seems like a stock answer, but I speak from experience. I stayed far too long in a relationship that I kept telling myself that I wanted, and now my main regret is that he broke up with me before I could do the same.
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