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StarFaerieNomad Featured By Owner Sep 29, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Here's how I feel about it. Sexuality doesn't really define you as a person. If you're happy with your boyfriend, stay with him. You don't need to make a huge announcement or tell anybody you don't trust to know about it. Your sexuality is YOUR business. In the meantime, just keep doing what makes you happy.

I'm in the same boat as you. Bi, with a boyfriend, haven't told anyone. I just don't feel the need to. I'm attracted to women as well as men, but who cares? I don't. There's no reason for my parents or friends to know about it 'cause it makes zero difference in their lives or mine.
MicheruShinearo Featured By Owner Apr 14, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I knew I was bisexual when I was 13 years old, I'm 24 now. There was a small point as a teen I thought I was just attracted to boys. But I know now that it is both. you're never too young but sometimes your feelings can change and maybe one day you'll figure out you do like both genders or one day you won't notice the gender and love the person. Maybe you'll prefer only boys or only girls. Maybe even neither. But right now nothing in concrete and you're still discovering yourself.

I never felt it was important to announce to anyone about my sexuality because I don't feel I need to, some people do though. I'm not ashamed of it. My mother and sisters know without me telling them (fb) and my brother because I almost dated our mutual female friend, but they don't treat me differently or anything. And I've said it when my friends and I were discussing sexuality and stuff at sleepovers lol 

If this is how you feel and you feel it's important to tell them and if your parents and friends love you, they will accept you because that's you. Just make sure you feel confident in who you are and who you love if you feel you need to tell them. :)
Mookie-Mooks Featured By Owner Mar 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm bisexual, and trust me, finding out is HARD. Hell, I realized it when I was eleven and to this very day, seven years later, I still doubt myself.
The-Mysterious-J Featured By Owner Sep 21, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Actually you don't need to know. Just fall in love with people you fall in love.
mrs-drwho Featured By Owner Aug 26, 2013  Student Writer
Don't rush into it. Labels don't matter and they don't define you. Go with what feels comfortable for you, because sexuality is fluid. Change the labels as you see fit. I used to identify as bisexual but now I identify as queer because I find that bisexual doesn't really capture who I am. Do whatever makes you comfortable. You may change labels once or fifty times. It seriously doesn't matter.
MoonRiseOrSunRise Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2013
you know it when you know it.
AmberTheKitteh Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
i know that feels.
Liefje-Saki Featured By Owner Jul 17, 2013
What matters is who you fall for. You can go on from there. Or who you want to date. Other than that what you think about and what you secretly like isn't people's business. You'll feel better about it later. It's normal to want to try things
Jesterkin458 Featured By Owner Jul 16, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
that feeling taunts me still.
Luthlaya Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
People learn new things about their sexuality every day - I still don't know if I'm purely heterosexual, slightly bi, or whatever. It's okay. You are who you are and whomever you feel attracted to is fine. You're not too young, you never are. You're also never too old. Sexuality is fluent, not static. That's okay. That's fine. That's life. You'll figure it out, and if you don't, then just feel, and go with what feels good. Also, its shouldn't be a problem to your boyfriend you might also be attracted to girls - if you love him it doesn't matter. If you want to move on, then do so - I know breaking relationships hurt, but this too is something that just happens.
emoturtlefrk Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
that's around the time people useually start to question. Don't worry :) You'll figure it out eventually
Vehement-Crusade Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
NO ONE should feel 100% that their gay, at such a young age. Trust me, it's in the teen years the hormones rage the most and the medias and people around tempt you and make you wonder... and then it leads to these curious feelings and thoughts.

It's really awful actually.
LmonLimeCat Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2013
It's not a bad thing though. I have a friend who's bi and also 15. She knows because she's in love with two people; one guy and one girl.
Vehement-Crusade Featured By Owner Sep 17, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
But come on, at that age? The teenage years is where people fall in-lust and think they are in love for the first time. Hormones are just deceiving that way. That's why kids shouldn't be claiming to be gay or bisexual at such an age! At least let them grow out of the raging-hormone/curiosity stage first.
LmonLimeCat Featured By Owner Sep 22, 2013
I guess.. well technically the Sexually Dimorphic Nucleus is affected by hormones/testosterone so that angst-y teenage years could be signalling something that's to come later on, but yeah you're right that maybe they should wait until after to tell which of the sexes they're into.
SCAREDcats101 Featured By Owner Jul 13, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Don't worry! By the time you come out of the closet, if you even do, the world will be accepting of you and your beliefs. There will still be hater,s but there will ALWAYS be haters.
VulpesUrbana Featured By Owner Jul 13, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
easy there,
take a deep breath, relax and don't rush yourself. think about it calmly, observe a bit.
find yourself a bit more, and you will find your answers.
just listen what your feelings tell you. You already know, you just have to take your time and listen to yourself
goodgirl4 Featured By Owner Jul 12, 2013  Student Filmographer
Aww sweetie, if you see this, just know: don't stress! You don't have to do anything. If you are bi, you'll just look at girls. But since you are already in a relationship, you don't need to, like, ask any of them out yet. So just relax and enjoy the ride. Sexuality is often fluid and can shift and change. So how you feel now may not always apply. Just breathe. And if you have a friend, especially one in the LGTB community, you can let them know that you're questioning. They may be able to help you out a bit, but it's not a big deal. You don't have to tell anyone yet if you're not ready :)
XxRockFiendxX Featured By Owner Jul 12, 2013
take a breath and take time to really figure out how you feel and go from there. you will be okay =)
lovleylollipop Featured By Owner Jul 11, 2013
haha nice(: same with me
AmberTheSpaztic Featured By Owner Jul 11, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
If people truly care about you then they will accept you no matter what gender or genders you are attracted to
BocchanAkumaGaSuki Featured By Owner Jul 11, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I know how they feel...
IceMageAnri Featured By Owner Jul 11, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
15 is fine, you have plenty of time to discover and find out, your still young. I'm in my mid 20's and I still dunno myself, could be both, could be neither. It's not a matter to be rushed, the natural path will open itself up to you eventually.
Si1verwing Featured By Owner Jul 10, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Don't worry, I had the same problem. I told my boyfriend and he didn't care one bit, which I will be forever grateful for. Don't panic, sweetheart, chances are, everything will be just fine. :)
Cyluho Featured By Owner Jul 10, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
It shouldn't matter. Your parents should love you anyway. (your age is relatively unimportant - you are not "too young" to be bisexual... guess 14 is a completely normal age to discover something like this)
You want to know how you can be sure? Just try. At the moment you've got your boyfriend, but maybe someday you will seperate. And then, maybe, you will meet a girl and you'll find her attractive or whatever... nothing will bar you from trying and maybe you'll like it and you will see: I am indeed bisexual, I feel both attracted to boys and girls, but there is nothing bad about it :)
Just love whoever you want to :hug:
confidenceAlive Featured By Owner Jul 10, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
What do you want to be? Be that.
CooI Featured By Owner Jul 17, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You can't...people are born to be straight, bi, gay and so on..just that they have to take time to discover what later in life! For example, it's happened many times that let's say a boy is born into a strictly religious family who believe that being gay or bi is so so wrong. Later in life, the kids grows up and realizes he's attracted to boys and not girls..with all his heart he WAN'TS to be attracted to girls since he is taught that, that is the only right THING. But it doesn't matter what he wants, he is gay and he cannot change it
confidenceAlive Featured By Owner Jul 20, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Your pessimistic cynical belief system will kill you one day. Thanks for preaching hopelessness to the human race.
CooI Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
psh no you're just weird..since you don't seem to be bi/gay or anything like that, you won't understand.
confidenceAlive Featured By Owner Jul 22, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
And by that token I can only assume that since you aren't the ST you won't understand either; so don't preach to me about not understanding--your own argument defeats you. You are a fine conundrum, my friend. No one is exactly the same so you can't know everything and understand everyone. But I do happen to know a little bit about what people can do when they put their heart into it, and choose to believe something of themselves, whether they are bi or gay. I also know that anyone can do virtually anything if it is what they want to do or who they want to be, and you can't believe that and believe that someone cannot choose whether they will be bi, gay, or anything else. Being is much higher than Feeling.
Luvbug---tan Featured By Owner Jul 10, 2013  Student Digital Artist
This is how I feel all the time. :/
XxBlackIntoBlackxX Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2013  Student General Artist
i feel like this sometimes.
Grimm-Lupe Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I actually struggled with that for a long time. I knew in elementary school that I liked women in addition to men. I then came across porn at a very young age, and would watch straight porn, and lesbian. In middle school I struggled with Church and society because I was getting even closer (in my mind attachements) to my friends. Then in 8th grade I finally accepted that I was bisexual. But somehow I suppressed my memories of that (I only found out I had accepted myself because of a journal entry), and struggled through high school just saying "I appreciated the fluid curves in a woman's body, I'm an artist after all". Of course that was bull, and a few months before I graduated highschool I finally and completely accepted myself.

You can know at a young age whether you're straight, gay, bi, asexual, pansexual, etc. Just keep an open mind and you'll feel better and come to fully understand yourself. Best of luck, I know it's not easy getting it straight in your mind! :heart:
AnonymousPolarBear Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Well, with me when i came out as a lesbian all i did was trust in myself and other people, if you trust them and know that things won't change, then come out. If you don't think that they will accept you, I don't know what to tell you then. By the way you should probably wait a few years until you truly understand your sexuality, dude
darliniluvu Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2013
I kept telling myself things would get better my expectations were more than exceeded this is proof that miracles do exist seriously consider this
sarkute56 Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2013
my friend is and she told both of her previous boyfriends... all ended well :) if they truly love you, then they will accept you in any way you come :heart:
PrincessHex Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I know exactly what you are feeling. That happened to me about the age of 13-14. What helped me was talking to some friends who were part of the LGBT community. I have found some people on dA who I could talk to. It may seem hard but you will work things out.
fatcatbeatrice Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2013  Student Photographer
Being bisexual is fine. Just kep on living and eventually you'll figure yourself out. It's nothing to stress over. :)
NaXSora Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2013  Student Artist
Let it flow, kiddo.Just dont overthink about that ^^
hippiegirl500 Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
aw <3 id love to talk to u ~~ so cute
XBrielleX Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2013
I know what you're feeling, everything will be okay. Talk to your parents, decide who else you want to tell, and understand things will be pretty confusing for a while. In the end it will all work out.
Rule404 Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
Not to influence you one way or another, but even strait people can find the same gender hott. ;) Especially teens. I'm strait, but I find many women attractive. My husband thinks some men are sexy. It's normal. Teens have so many hormones. I'd be surprised if one told me they were only attracted to ONE gender.
thestringsofgold Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
If you were in the position of your boyfriend, parents, friends, if they truly love you, then they would want to know. Would you want to know if your boyfriend was bisexual? I want them to accept you, know matter what, because they are your loved ones, and you are a loved one of them.
ExSakura Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2013  Student General Artist
Oh, questioning is so hard. Do your research, do your best to figure it out. If you are, you don't have to tell anyone right away...but be sure you have people that you know are going to be there for you. Good luck!
AnimeCat27 Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
I did a lot of meditating when coming out. It really helped m sort out my buzzing thoughts.
Lugiadarkshadow Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Don't kill yourself love is love and I will support all love
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